I Really need to know if he likes me..please help!

[val75]

Hi I like this guy at my gym and last week we both smiled at each other as we crossed paths and said hi. I saw him again yesterday but we didn't cross paths and I'm too shy to acknowledge him across the room. I
asked the IC about how things would unfold and received hex 7.1.2 >24..not to sure if that's positive but interpreted as meaning that I need to be more disciplined and try to at least say hello so that things can return to a positive state.
I also asked how he 'saw' me, in terms of as a potential romantic partner and received 13.5.6>55, which I interpreted positively..people In harmony leads to abundance..please tell me your thoughts..
Thanks!

 

[iams girl]

Hi Val,

Since you mention shyness, the unfolding challenge might be to keep coming back (24) to that place of poise, objectivity, and confidence (7.1.2) within yourself. Being willing to engage and take initiative when appropriate, like saying hello, also makes perfect sense. It does sound like he views you very positively .

 

[chingching]

Yes agreed, at first glance i just thought, friends come (24) if you take the lead (7) . These days when i meet new people i just keep in my mind the thought 'i like you' andall else follows from there, with positive response. If you are thinking 'does he like me?' they mighthink the same or worse ' do i like her?' the doubt in your mind spreads more doubt.

 

[val75]

Thanks so much iams girl for you advice...your analysis makes a lot of sense, shyness is definitely a huge problem for me in this case (it always happens when I like someone - i just kind of freeze!) so the need to return to that place of poise, objectivity and confidence is definitely required in this situation! It's so nice to have other people's perspective, it really helps so thanks again!

 

[val75]

Yes agreed, at first glance i just thought, friends come (24) if you take the lead (7) . These days when i meet new people i just keep in my mind the thought 'i like you' andall else follows from there, with positive response. If you are thinking 'does he like me?' they mighthink the same or worse ' do i like her?' the doubt in your mind spreads more doubt.

Thanks for your insight and advice. It sounds like it's up to me to take the lead. I like your advice about what you keep in mind when you meet knew people. I will definitely use it - much better than harbouring doubt which only serves to spread more doubt in these types of situations! so true!

 

[chingching]

Thanks for your insight and advice. It sounds like it's up to me to take the lead. I like your advice about what you keep in mind when you meet knew people. I will definitely use it - much better than harbouring doubt which only serves to spread more doubt in these types of situations! so true!

I love that you mispelled new as knew, knew people, like people you've known before! He he... I belive anyone we are drawn towards have some kind of resonance, past life of maybe just genetic matches somehow, i believe the new people that come into our lives are always knew people.

 

[val75]

I love that you mispelled new as knew, knew people, like people you've known before! He he... I belive anyone we are drawn towards have some kind of resonance, past life of maybe just genetic matches somehow, i believe the new people that come into our lives are always knew people.

that is so funny! And I even checked the message before I posted it for spelling errors...

haha

 

[val75]

well unfortunately things haven't advanced much at all since our last encounter, he hasn't said hello again and neither have i I'm not sure why.

so today I asked the question 'what is happening between us and I received Hexagram 27.2 to 41, which I interpreted as a decrease in the possibilities of something eventuating as the relationship hasn't been 'nourished'.


I also asked 'how will the situation between x and i unfold?' and received Hexagram 43.1.2.3.5 to 16, which I'm having trouble interpreting...so far the only thing I concluded was that a decision needed to be made to bring about something positive - that's probably referring to me being more assertive and starting up the communication channel between us again.

I also asked the question 'is he the one?' and received hexagram 19 unchanging which looks positive, although i'm concerned about the 8th month warning...

any thoughts on this? Thank you!

 

[chingching]

Did meng delete his message because he saw somthing saucy in 43 > 16, i know i do.

With this casting i would take the time before you meet him again as an opptunity for clarifying exactly what you want, your every motive and to also really generate a feeling of self love and worth with supportive hinking and self care, because, i would see this as an excited proclaimation that is said or actioned from impulse, you may do or say something from enthusiasm and impulse alone, too quick for your frontal lobe to have any input. So get yourself in alignment so you impulse will reflect your true intentions and worth, instead of your insecurities ( nothing so bad as saying something about your shortcomings to someone you barely know, out if anxiety and wanting e person to approve of us despite our foibles.) and if you get yourself in that good soace, he might be the one to come out with an enthusiastic message instead.

And if you get a lot of good mojo going for yourself maybe someone else who you werent even focussed on might enthusiastically raise his staff at the kings court. Hmmmm.

Certainly 43 urges caution, you cant go raising your staff at just anyone. The advice i often find with 16 is you need a vision and the caution not to mix that up with delusion and fruitless fantasy.

16 will get you To make that first approach, but you need decsiveness, conviction to carry you through.

Jean houston once talked of a tribe in africa who problem solved as a community in a remarkably fast way, they did this by engaging everyone in singing , dancing and drawing. I see that in 16. Quite neptunian.

And hey, rejection and disappointment are a part of the game of love, certainly i dont see anything of that sort in your readings, but anxiety comes from the will to avoid them at all costs, where they are unavoidable. Ie. some will say no, some will say yes!

I read somewhere someone describing desire as the fear of not getting what you want, when you dont fear this from a knowing that what ou need is all around you and what you want will come then the tension of desire dissapates, and frankly you will be easier to talk to and approach.