If I let go will this person want/approach me romantically? Hex 33.6 > 31

[Piscean]

There is someone im interested in having a relationship with

we have had no interaction on that level yet whatsoever and are just friends

I don’t want to make the first move at all, I asked Yi a previous question of how I could get this person to approach me in that way and the reading was more along the lines of me relaxing and not doing much. However I went back to Yi with the doubt of “well I don’t trust that it will happen if I let go” and that spurred my current question

if I was to just let go of trying to be around this person, or wanting any attention or interaction, just taking a break… can I expect or trust that they will approach me and want me romantically/relationship wise, can I capture their heart

this is a very obvious yes answer to me and directly feels relevant with changing line:


Rich retreat.
Nothing that does not bear fruit.'

Retreat leading to Influence

Cafe au soul also has the following interpretation which is such a simple and direct answer:
Retreat without guilt or doubt = everything serves to further. Changes to (31) Influence/Wooing. Withdrawing with the sense that it is right to do so. By letting go or retreating one is able to live abundantly. This line can be associated with retirement or taking a retreat from the daily grind in order to recharge or refresh your perspective. Sometimes we need to step back so that others have more of an appreciation for our contribution. Retreat leads to a magnetic attraction even while that is not our intention.


I wanted to ask your thoughts and experiences with this
because sometimes a simple answer is not just a simple answer and people see other possibilities
(More than that I guess going back to the lack of trust I had in asking the question in the first place I’m probing for even more confirmation from out there in the world)

thanks

 

[marybluesky]

Hello,

the line talks about retreating, and for good. Doesn't sound like him approaching you.

 

[my_key]

Hex 33 clearly indicates a withdrawal would benefit you in the long term. This happens best when you focus on your own integrity. Doing this will have a major influence on your life, however Hex 31 only says that things will only come together if the belong together.

You say " let go of trying to be around this person, or wanting any attention or interaction, just taking a break....can I expect or trust that they will approach me and want me romantically/relationship wise, can I capture their heart". Withdrawal does not necessarily carry the same charge as letting go.

Letting go with a lingering intent of hanging on is not really letting go at all. Maybe the benefits for you will come from withdrawing and really letting go. Then trust the Universe. Remember, if you belong together you will come together.

...or it may mean nothing like this for you.

Good Luck

 

[rosada]

Curious combination of hexagrams isn't it? 33.6 says Turn Your Back and Move On but it changes, it literally throws you back, to 31. Be Open to Influence.
I can see this as saying Move on, there was an spark but he's not picking up on it yet stay in the area and Be Open to what your relationship morphs to once you do release your former perspective. That is, once you completely let go of the boyfriend vision you may get a better clarity of what the vibe is between you.

 

[moss elk]

Retreat leading to Influence

You seem to have a very common fundemental misunderstanding about the received hex and related hex.

It is not like this: 33 ---> line 6 ---> 31

it is not a linear pathway.

what you got was line 6 of 33,
read that and ignore the 33 and 31 for a moment to see that:
the meaning is all contained in line 6.

Graphically it is better represented as:
33---》 *line 6* 《--- 31

 

[Piscean]

You seem to have a very common fundemental misunderstanding about the received hex and related hex.

It is not like this: 33 ---> line 6 ---> 31

it is not a linear pathway.

what you got was line 6 of 33,
read that and ignore the 33 and 31 for a moment to see that:
the meaning is all contained in line 6.

Graphically it is better represented as:
33---》 *line 6* 《--- 31

Thank you I don’t always read them linear but do sometimes, I haven’t seen it in this light before though the way you’ve shown it graphically, what is the role of hexagrams surrounding the line like this? Are they both considered equally also?

 

[Piscean]

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Curious combination of hexagrams isn't it? 33.6 says Turn Your Back and Move On but it changes, it literally throws you back, to 31. Be Open to Influence.
I can see this as saying Move on, there was an spark but he's not picking up on it yet stay in the area and Be Open to what your relationship morphs to once you do release your former perspective. That is, once you completely let go of the boyfriend vision you may get a better clarity of what the vibe is between you.

Thank you thats interesting, the idea that there was a spark but not picked up on,
I asked if this person love and trusts me as a friend (I mention trust because I confronted them about something they did which upset me and was hoping it wouldn’t rupture the goodness we have going on)

I got hex 16.4 > 2
'Source of enthusiasm.
Great possessions gained.
Do not doubt.
Partners are gathered together as a hair clasp gathers hair.'


I think your interpretation alludes to this idea, that maybe I need to gain clarity over what we are and that there might be a great bond to find there but not necessarily aligned with the full vision I wish for

 

[Piscean]

Hex 33 clearly indicates a withdrawal would benefit you in the long term. This happens best when you focus on your own integrity. Doing this will have a major influence on your life, however Hex 31 only says that things will only come together if the belong together.

You say " let go of trying to be around this person, or wanting any attention or interaction, just taking a break....can I expect or trust that they will approach me and want me romantically/relationship wise, can I capture their heart". Withdrawal does not necessarily carry the same charge as letting go.

Letting go with a lingering intent of hanging on is not really letting go at all. Maybe the benefits for you will come from withdrawing and really letting go. Then trust the Universe. Remember, if you belong together you will come together.

...or it may mean nothing like this for you.

Good Luck

Thanks for wishing me luck because I would definitely need it if I had to actually fully let go

My feelings for this person have run like a strong fast river for 2 years and continue to

I like that you mention, if you belong together you will be together, because that seems to be what the reading is trying to communicate as a confirmation to the idea that I can stop putting effort into this to effect an outcome, I can trust in letting go
For other situations perhaps advice would be to “do xyz” but this reading acted as a confirmation that this isn’t my role or position

 

[moss elk]

what is the role of hexagrams surrounding the line like this?

Hex A is like a mama.
Hex B is like a papa.
The single change line is the offspring of the marriage of the two hex's.

Your answer is contained in that offspring.

 

[Piscean]

Hex A is like a mama.
Hex B is like a papa.
The single change line is the offspring of the marriage of the two hex's.

Your answer is contained in that offspring.

Haha I see

you get to see what family the answer comes from and belongs to too in a sense to get a background feel to the offspring or surrounding context