Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).
What he means is that he asks himself wether he would like this girl as a person (if instead of being a girl she was a man). In that way he can tell if he's just falling for a gilr strictly because of her female attributes.
That exercise certainly cuts to the chase; however, there's something to be said about the chemistry between the sexes that a friend or just another person doesn't have. That unexplainable mystery or magic that flows between two people attracted to each other.
Well, my dance with D. is so over. I am heartbroken. For the first time, he was chatting up someone else at work today. There's more to the story which I won't bore you with, but somehow I am reeling after over a year of being head over heels.
There's really something to be said for Dobro's comment that if one knows oneself, then it's OK to express one's feelings for someone. I wished I'd done that when the time was right. However, you're a guy - girls usually wait for guys to come out and declare their position by asking a girl out. I think in this case I should've made an exception.It would've made things clear - and I would've known his position.
dobro said:I mean, what are you scared of and why? And why do you think you want this relationship anyway? How much of it is coming from downstairs (below the belt) and how much of it is coming from upstairs (he's just so special he might be the one)?
To answer this question - I am afraid of rejection. He might say No. But now I realize the price I have paid of not asking his position and telling him mine ages ago has far outweighed the chance of rejection (damn ego!). As for the sexual chemistry getting in the way - my major attraction wasn't just about sex but the whole package - intimacy, chemisrty, partnership... enough said!
Maybe it's time I take the courage to tell him how I feel and clear the communication blockage I have with him! Yikes!
Laurie
dobro said:I mean, what are you scared of and why? And why do you think you want this relationship anyway? How much of it is coming from downstairs (below the belt) and how much of it is coming from upstairs (he's just so special he might be the one)?
To answer this question - I am afraid of rejection. He might say No.
Maybe it's time I take the courage to tell him how I feel and clear the communication blockage I have with him! Yikes!
ain't life grand... particularly when we feel most vulnerable!
I love Dobro!
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).