Investing in family 33.6>31

[susan_e]

I'm trying to figure out whether I should invest in keeping connected to my father and stepmother for the sake of my children. After a couple of decades of personal anguish, I've accepted that my Dad isn't really capable of giving love. What I don't know is how much this matters in the experience of my children, given the fact that my father's home and resources can be a kid's fantasyland. I don't know how much of my experience growing up (occassionally lit with extravagant gifts and trips but generally full of a sense that I did not exist or have value) is something that could distort my ability to see opportunities for my children. When I asked whether I should try to nurture relationship with dad and stepmother, I drew hex 33 with line 6 changing, resulting in hex. 31. Any insight is appreciated. I get the pursuit of spiritual ritches that LiSe mentions in connection with line 6, but am not so sure about the rest. Insight about any aspect of this reading is appreciated.

 

[willowfox]

Line 33.6 is quite clearly advising you to retreat from the idea of getting closer.

 

[susan_e]

Thanks. I think I needed someone (something?) else to tell me that I could trust my instincts on this...I've just finished looking at some other posts dealing with 33.6. There seems to be mixed views on whether the relating hexagram (31) has much relevance. I supposse that it might mean that, if there is any hope of something like connection occuring, it will only be the result of something that begins with my withdrawing, is that right?

 

[willowfox]

Lets say that here line 33.6 is of primary importance because once you firmly establish the idea that it is in your best interest to give up on this current idea then better things will present themselves further down the road of life. So, retreat is the first step to a much more fortunate future.

 

[susan_e]

Thanks...I think your broader take may well be appropriate. I've recently reflected that my anguish over my father represents a spiritual test to see if I am able to identify and honor what is truly valuable. In this context, the reward may be completely unrelated to relationship outcomes with the family in question. Thanks again.