Is she appropriate to me? 24.1 >2

[Anselm]

Hi all,

I'd like to explain a triple reading, quite confusing to me. The context is I'd like to be in a relationship again with my last ex girlfriend. And now we're supposed to be friends, but actually we're a little distant, and recently we had some fights and misunderstandings.

My first question was: "How should I act to favor we get together again?". The answer was 51.4.6 > 27.
At first sight I was wondering if I should provoke the storm. Then I realized the storm was inside me (and that's true), and I have not to be paralyzed (51.4) and absolutely keep calm when the storm intensifies (5.6). Anyway, I had some doubt about if 51.4 means not to be paralyzed by fear, and thus, I must act in some way, or if it means I must simply not to be confused in my mind. My book suggests to ask again in 51.4, so I did.

I asked then for "some enlightenment about this apparent contradiction between 51.4 and 51.6". The answer was 39.3 > 8.

That line talks clearly about not to go to find danger outside, but to remain at home. So I decided not to act in any way (although I'm not sure at all). But here I get a much bigger doubt, in the related 8.3. Maybe she is not appropriate to me.

So I ask again: "After last reading, I doubt if she is appropriate to me. What should I consider about it"? The answer was 24.1 > 2. And that's my biggest (and more important) doubt.

Does it talk about a return to her, to start a new fresh beginning? Or about a turning point to me, when I decide to try to forget her definitely? I'd like to tend to first option, but I'm afraid my feelings could interfere.

If anyone can put some light in here, I would appreciate

 

[ginnie]

"After last reading, I doubt if she is appropriate to me. What should I consider about it"? The answer was 24.1 > 2.

Your asking that question, whether she is appropriate for you, is returning to the source from what is actually a short distance, since you two are not together currently. Given all your lines, it looks to me like it would be better for you not to get together with her again.

 

[Anselm]

That's funny, because just now I've read this about 24.1 in a recent thread. I'll think about it too.

Thanks, ginnie.

 

[moss elk]

The 39.3 and the 24.1 say to me: stay away from her, she may be no good and you may have already seen evidence of that.

Fan yao:
8.3 (associating with questionable characters/evil doers)
2.1 (you've seen the hoar frost, early signs of trouble)

 

[sooo]

51.4 is tangled up in drama and nervous tension, and 51.6 is about her, not you, i.e. it has reached your neighbor first. It only becomes yours if you take it on-board, which can happen if you allow it, the way a loose power line can only shock you if it comes in direct contact with you. Based on 27, the best influence you can have on her is a nourishing and calming influence, if she will allow it. If not, it's best to keep a safe distance and return to yourself, quickly.

R.e. this apparent contradiction between 51.4 and 51.6 is explained as the need to "come", not "go"; the motion is akin to that of 24.1, coming back to yourself. 8.3 is not a consideration here, it is only the fan yao of 39.3, unless you know how to apply the possibilities of a fan yao. 39.3 is your consideration, 8 is your relating, not 8.3. In context with holding with her, it is best to give her the space she needs and not become swept up in her hurricane. If or when she calms back down, then perhaps you can resume your nourishing influence, but not until then, unless you don't mind being barbequed Anselm?

 

[sooo]

Btw, asking again from hex 8 is an anomaly of Wilhelm, it is not typically considered an accurate rendering. Not that it does harm to inquire further, just that it's not a directive to.

 

[Anselm]

Thanks, Moss Elk, I'll think about it

 

[Anselm]

In context with holding with her, it is best to give her the space she needs and not become swept up in her hurricane. If or when she calms back down, then perhaps you can resume your nourishing influence, but not until then, unless you don't mind being barbequed Anselm?

Thank you very much, it's a sage advice. And no, I absolutely don't want to be barbequed

 

[blue_angel]

It seems to me after reading all of your readings that the 51 is the shock that already occurred in your arguments and misunderstanding. Are you now nervous, not knowing if you should return to her, yet afraid not returning might be a mistake? You don't know which way to go here.

So, your readings say for you to examine your true feelings for her, as well as the mistakes that have been made. If you are sincere in your feelings and you are able to come to an agreement or an understanding, marry your ideas with hers, then the return will be nourishing. In 51.6 yes, she is more shocked than you. But what agreement needs to be made? This way the same mistakes are not made again.

I have had 24.1 be an easy return to a relationship, more than once, the problem that occurred was lack of agreement, bringing us back to square one, and inevitably ending the relationship altogether. Same repeat of mistakes. That doesn't mean that will be the same for you. I am only showing how I failed to take in all of the advice given.

 

[blue_angel]

Just to elaborate on my take of the readings,

51.4 for me... is the shock that shakes things up enough, in order for you to see what's not working anymore. It's like when you know something is wrong, or you don't like certain things, but those things don't really seem bad enough to do anything about. Then you get a shock, you're rattled and now you have no choice but to do something about it. Its a shock that may not feel good but reminds you, you are alive again. You remove what's not working. It is possible this is speaking of you or her and it could be speaking of what has already happened or what needs to happen now. You have to reflect and see for yourself.

51.6 for me... means you are nervous about making a decision, because you really don't know what would be right at this time. The shock did not shake you up enough for you to see what needs to be done. However, the shock may have affected the other person a lot more. If you can, again, reflect, and then truly see how it affected her, you can learn by that. If you can come together and talk it out, you may find it nourishing for the both of you 27. The 27 could be saying to you, seek what truly nourishes you then you won't be in for such a shock 51.

39.3 examine your feelings for her, your needs, wants, desires. Do they fit with hers? Can they fit with hers? If not move on. If there is something more possible to be worked out, be sincere and totally sure with in first. Only then will you find unity 8 and stop limping 39. Whether the unity will be inside, with her, or with someone else is for you to figure out. The 8 could also be showing that you wish to seek union, but 39 you're limping, by not knowing how or what kind of a union you really want.

24.1 what you need to consider about it, is again, reflecting with in, only then will you be able to decide. When it all comes together for you, the return could be to her or could be to your own path. When you know inside what is right for you and you have talked it out with her, then you will know what to return to, and it will be good. The 2 could be saying something like "hey, you've been passive/aggressive on this, you need to 24, look with in, reset. Or... 2 learn to be more receptive of your needs and also of what's going on around you or with her, by reflecting with in.

Like I said, the 24.1 has always been an easy return to a relationship, at least for me. Sometimes the relationship lasted another month, sometimes it lasted another 6 months. What I failed to do, was consider what was acceptable for me and what wasn't. And the big thing is, making sure the other person is on the same page, so we don't go around in circles making the same mistakes, and being ultimately unsatisfied in the relationship.

However, it is just my opinion, none of these readings have to be considered very negative or an end all.

There are so many variables and considerations to take when it comes to relationship questions with the Yi. If you are really able to see for yourself how the reading relates to you or her, it will all start to click for you. Try reading the memorizing threads. That's what helps me.

Best wishes on your journey

 

[Anselm]

39.3 examine your feelings for her, your needs, wants, desires. Do they fit with hers? Can they fit with hers?

Probably that's the main question. I'm pretty sure about my feelings, and finally I think she's appropiate. But, you know, that's a matter of two.

Thank you very much for your comment. If 24.1 happens, be sure I'll do my best to not repeat past mistakes.