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Think about it this way; what if one person in a relationship wants to marry, have children, pursue a career or a stable place in the wider community (all of which is generally considered proper and right and correct in I Ching terms), but the other wants to continue partying, drinking, staying out late, and generally being youthfully irresponsible (all of that being quite clearly frowned upon in the I Ching). The I Ching is its own moral universe that doesn't align perfectly with the one generally accepted by Western cultures now
My own reading of this casting and your situation would be of something where your own "virtue" (or what have you) was an impediment for your ex, you had to go your own way or stay true to yourself (50.2), which unfortunately leads to isolation from her. There's no real answer provided within this reading, just a description of the situation. Though 50.2 encourages you to remain true to yourself and not forsake your own morals or goodness for someone else.
I definitely don't see this as a reading that encourages you to reconcile with her; more just to accept the negative realities that led to your parting, and move on
The I Ching is not it's own moral universe bound by culture. If it was what would we consult for.
But while I am again and again blown away by the prescience and wisdom, not to mention uncanny insight, Yi has brought to bear on my own life and my questions, I am also reminded somewhat regularly that the orientation it has towards some ethical matters (particularly regarding gender, women, and marriage) is subtly--occasionally strikingly--different from my own. It goes beyond metaphor, as well, into orientations towards situations that I did not necessarily agree with but understood the logic of (from a certain perspective).
Think about it this way; what if one person in a relationship wants to marry, have children, pursue a career or a stable place in the wider community (all of which is generally considered proper and right and correct in I Ching terms), but the other wants to continue partying, drinking, staying out late, and generally being youthfully irresponsible (all of that being quite clearly frowned upon in the I Ching).
I'm also surprised by your reaction to my conclusion about Yi frowning on being youthful and irresponsible. Perhaps frowning isn't quite right. But this is a book that again and again warns against excess in all forms, and hexagram after hexagram deals with (literal) gradual development from youth to maturity (and responsibility).
My own reading of this casting and your situation would be of something where your own "virtue" (or what have you) was an impediment for your ex, you had to go your own way or stay true to yourself (50.2), which unfortunately leads to isolation from her. There's no real answer provided within this reading, just a description of the situation. Though 50.2 encourages you to remain true to yourself and not forsake your own morals or goodness for someone else
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).