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OK I was reading yet another scientific study as to how the Alpha male pretty much is the Alpha choice for all the women when it comes to dating.
It made me wonder if that was my problem.
I have often had an aversion to being the "alpha male"
I've ever been a Taoist, which seems to advocate modesty, and not leadership.
Furthermore I've also been receptive to the feminist movement. Which seems to say that, men need to be more sensitive, and not be so dominating - AKA Dominator male.
Well i've been sort of cultivating my non-competitive side.
And trying to take on the advice of the Taoist teachings (TaoTeChing)
And I don't need to point it out at how pitiful my dating record is. just look at this thread:
http://www.onlineClarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?t=6154
So I asked the Yijing two questions.
I've grown up often hearing from feminist women and others that dominator behavior is bad So i've tried to not be a dominant type (in order to be more attractive), I have also been worried about the Tao Te Chings teaching to "not compete". Any advice on this?
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Doesn't the whole alpha male think strike you as really boring?
I couldn't tell you if I'm attracted to alpha, beta or omega males to be quite honest.
Hmm, do I go for Epsilon types?? .... now a BetaMan, yup, I think I'd prefer to wait until the bugs were fixed until 'upgrading' to one of those. Maybe the Gamma ones are the ones that frazzle your heart ! Don't like the sound of the Delta ones ... not from the US so all that university frat stuff never made sense anyway. Aah, ok, the Delta males are the ones that don't make sense, got it! So yeah, maybe I'm an Epsilon girl, that makes it so much more simple!Well, I'm not Alpha. I don't like the sound of Beta, cuz that sounds like a maleness that's being tried out to find the bugs in it. Gamma sounds like a death ray, and Delta sounds like a dook from a university frat house. I think I must be an Epsilon male. Yes, I feel sure that's what I must be. I think. An Epsilon. Do you think that's okay, A-girl? lol
I honestly believe that when being ourselves we just attract the right thing, and then, things go more or less as we needed to go in order to live our lives fully.
You may enjoy these lectures Samgirl. Long but good (8 hours total). It's about a Unified Field Theory this man has put together. Which explain this idea, and a whole bunch of other ideas as well. One of a kind, priceless stuff. Very enlightening, and uplifting.
http://video.google.com.au/videopla...amein+duration:long&ei=ceMqSK_VFouUrgPUw6i5CQ
http://video.google.com.au/videopla...amein+duration:long&ei=ceMqSK_VFouUrgPUw6i5CQ
However I do think that, apart of our natural differences, there are lots of "man(kind)-made" differences that are not necessarily based on nature.
I had a recent experience with a girlfriend over the weekend. She's not an alpha female but she seemed to think I was. I was in a position of feeling like men might feel around women. Like she expected me to take care of her. It was strange because I've let go a lot of my alpha-ness and so I found there was some power struggle. She's not weak and she can take care of herself but in the presence of someone else - another strong woman - she would defer things to me AND let me do all the heavy lifting. I'm finding that I don't want to take the lead and I was resentful. So I'm unclear on how to navigate this dynamic in a female to female relationship. I also found that it was hard for me to assert my needs or ask her to help out. A bit surprising but something to ponder.
Yeah, it's sometimes like that as a guy too, but it may be more of an honor to a guy than something to resent. There is the Rooster factor, and a good rooster takes care of business.
A man can't love if he's not understood.
A woman can't understand if she's not loved.
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