Need quick answer - please help

[ChangingOne]

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[Hans_K]

Hi ChangingOne,
I would see H12.4 <> H20 as going away from the current situation.
Standstill/Obstacle (H12) and Viewing (H20). Standstill comes into motion through the moving line at the 4th position, as a result trigram Heaven turns into Wind, the trigram that deals with things coming into motion or being in motion. H20 is about distancing and overlooking.

As always, take what resonates and leave the rest

 

[rosada]

12.4 You are in a stagnant, lifeless situation and only you can change it.
20. If you leave today you will come to be able to see this.

 

[rosada]

I don’t see 12.4-20 as saying whether or not this is a good day to move. Rather I see it as saying “If you leave today to live with your partner and don’t come back you will be removing yourself from a Stagnant situation and be able to View your situation/options from a broader perspective.” Sounds good to me. The only thing I’d want to look at more would be what is the agreement with your partner? You’ve been stifled for so long you may find once you are free that you want to be totally free. So don’t get married or bound up in any other restrictive agreement too soon!

I do think it’s worth considering that while you are assuming you would be out forever and never allowed to see your family again, this is only your assumption and may not necessarily be true. They may tell you it will be over but who knows? If you leave they may find themselves Viewing their mistakes and pleading for you to return. The main thing I think is that when you are in a situation where your positivity is not strong enough to raise their negativity you have to get out. Even Christ was unable to work miracles in every town he visited and he advised his disciples to leave those towns and as for the people, don’t worry about them, don’t even pray for them, disentangle and brush the dust off your shoes!

 

[SuperNatural]

Hello ChangingOne!

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a difficult situation. While the I Ching can provide insights and guidance, it's important to remember that its interpretations are subjective and should not be the sole basis for making life-changing decisions. Ultimately, the decision to leave your current situation should be based on careful consideration of all factors involved and your own intuition.

That being said, I can provide a general interpretation of the hexagrams you mentioned. The I Ching hexagram 12 is called "Stagnation" or "Standstill," suggesting a period of inaction or lack of progress. It may signify a time when you are feeling stuck or trapped. The fourth line changing into the 20th hexagram implies a transition from "Contemplation" to "Viewing." It might indicate a shift from introspection and deep thought to gaining a clearer perspective on your situation.

In this context, the hexagrams might imply that leaving could bring about a change in your life and a fresh perspective. However, it's essential to carefully evaluate all aspects of your decision and consider the potential consequences. Leaving your family and starting a new life with your partner can have various implications on your relationships and overall well-being.

I strongly encourage you to seek support from trusted friends, family members, or professionals who can provide guidance and assistance in making such an important decision. They can offer you a more comprehensive understanding of your specific situation and help you navigate through the challenges you are facing.

Remember, your safety and well-being should be the top priority. If you are in immediate danger or facing an emergency situation, please reach out to local authorities or helpline services to ensure your own safety.

I hope this helps.

 

[rosada]

I don’t think the I Ching is giving you a lifetime reading here. More like just how to navigate the next 24 hours although it could apply to all your interactions from now on.

Anyway, 62.4 emphasizes the importance of seeing things honestly. I think this line is counseling you to be very realistic about their needs and what you can reasonably provide. They may have you thinking they are less capable than they really are. On the other hand there may be areas where they do in fact need your help. 15 promises that you can find a balance between giving care to them and doing what you need to do for you.

I think the advice for right now is for how to make your exit. Be very conscious of what you say. Don’t mention anything about their threats of disowning you and if they are dramatic don’t over react. Keep calm and say things like, “Well you might change your mind so I’ll call you this weekend just to see how everyone is doing.”