new relationship questions

[willowfox]

what now, best for me to do??
and got:
14.4 >26

****I think you should take no notice of the fact that first he was all business, afterall, a person's got to eat and love doesn't fill an empty stomach and secondly no answer. These things happen, so let it go this time.

I asked what are his intentions with me?:

54.1.2.3 >62

****It shows a definite interest but you seem to be in the background more these days.



What is best for me to do now that I know he is out flirting and pursuing other ladies!

37.5>22

Do nothing at the moment and just stay pleasant and nice. Remember, you catch monkeys by using bananas and not by using sticks.

 

[freeme]

updates

I thought I would give updates to show how accurate the Yi is..it helps me so hopefully it will help others..

Had a discussion with the man....got very clear info regarding his state of mind which is he is he feels "broken" in terms of love/relationships....So, doesn't bode well for us, I suppose. We were very honest with each other, but I don't get the feeling he's ready for what I want..In fact he said he isn't sure WHAT he wants... We had discussed his possible visit 2nd week in August....(business related, but he then threw in a trip to Vegas as well??)
I asked Yi if this visit would happen?
46 unchanging..

Next I asked Yi what is best for me to do know with the clarity I have from him re: romantic possibilities..

3.5.6 > 27
To me it says really at odds here with the reality and to not expect anything except maybe light friendship..and to just take care of myself.

I also asked which maybe to vague, What is the best possible kind of relationship I could have here with this man?

48 unchanging.

Lifesource??? maybe that means work or just honest friendship??

would love comments:bows:

 

[willowfox]

I asked Yi if this visit would happen?
46 unchanging..


****Looking good for a trip south.

Next I asked Yi what is best for me to do now with the clarity I have from him re: romantic possibilities..

3.5.6 > 27 *****Basically you just have to persevere with this one, play it by ear and watch how he reacts to you, if he likes you then he will show it.


I also asked what is the best possible kind of relationship I could have here with this man?

48 unchanging. ****This suggests a deep and lasting relationship but not necessarily romantic in nature.

 

[freeme]

thanks WF I will post what happens in the next two weeks...Your reading is again very logical and we shall see.

 

[freeme]

????????

Well, strange he isnt able to take the trip out here..the Yi saw that a trip to the south was promising..

 

[willowfox]

Well, strange he isnt able to take the trip out here..the Yi saw that a trip to the south was promising..

It says that if he can do the trip, then it would be very fortunate in more ways than one, therefore ask him to reconsider his decision. Talk to him.

 

[freeme]

Hi WF Thanks for the feedback...He cant afford it right now he said...But, he is taking a trip to Vegas for a job booking. That was already decided by his agents and paid for by them ..He thought maybe they would pay for the trip to LA and we both would go to Vegas together..but no go.. Although, I will say he was incredibly adorable and came right out and said that he said a prayer to God that he was so thankful I am in his life!!! I wish there was a way he could swing it (the extra flight to see me) Bummer...maybe he will have a change of mind/or a financial windfall???

 

[freeme]

very interesting

just got word today from the guy that his agency is in fact offering to fly him to LA next week! HA! WF you were right again....He hasnt totally confirmed it yet but I asked YI would he be staying with me if he came out here next week?
( i would like that!)

got
36.1>22

I really have no idea what that means..except darkening of the light to me means no???
then something changes and then possibly yes ?? but its not a definite??

then I asked if I will be going with him to Vegas

57.1>9


I find this all so fasinating how the Yi and WF are insynch!

 

[freeme]

sorry thats 36.6>22

 

[freeme]

Wow I also asked if he does come out and stay with me will we continue where we left off and have a romantic/intimate relationship (exclusive couple) and move it forward..
got
36 unchanging...Dark now and not changing? is that a no?

 

[willowfox]

sorry thats 36.6>22

In your message you put 36.1 and I took it as that, so disregard my PM as that was you misleading me.

As 36.6 suggests that the problems you have been going through these past few months of no physical contact is about to change for the better. So clean up the house.

 

[willowfox]

Wow I also asked if he does come out and stay with me will we continue where we left off and have a romantic/intimate relationship (exclusive couple) and move it forward..
got
36 unchanging...Dark now and not changing? is that a no?

This suggests no pressure on him, just let his visit be relaxed, carefree and fun. Don't hog his time, or talk relationship stuff, just be free and easy for a few days with him, and quietly keep your innermost desires to yourself for those few days together. Just let him lead while you cater where appropriate.

 

[freeme]

update

So far no word on if he will be coming for a visit. In fact, he let me know he was sorry he wasn"t coming this past weekend. Wondering if I need to ask Yi again if the trip will be happening? Although I did hear he is dating and making out with other girls!!! Via his Twitter!!! Man, this younger generation doesn"t know the meaning of TMI or discretion..So honestly, I don"t care if he comes..Not that interested anymore. Wonder what would be a good question to ask of Yi now?

Would it be redundant to ask Yi again about the visit out here? Even though it looked so positive with the reading before??

Thanks all!

 

[freeme]

asked Yi just to comment on the relationship as it is now with any advice and got:

54 unchanging!

perfect! yep I am not in the forefront other women are..( long distance is just a buzzkill)

and I take it that I am just to remain kind and respectful but not looking for any kind of real devotion. Bummer hes a good guy. Bad timing and distance.

 

[willowfox]

Hex 54 indicates that you need to realize that nothing is certain in life or relationships, you are dealing with an individual who makes his own rules as he goes along, thus the unpredictable nature of the man. Relationships are bumpy affairs and being long distance makes it worse but if you change into being a "terminator" type person then you will dog him forever until you get him through sheer persistence.

 

[freeme]

LOL Willow Fox I love your dry humor! I honestly dont know how to be a terminator type of person..Or how to "dog" someone! I feel I have to cut my losses maintain my dignity and move on. Of course, we still may have a working relationship in the future but, as far as anything else it feels to undignified to chase after someone who dosent value me and what I have to offer.. But I am curious as to what exactly a Terminator type of person behaves??
Or how to "dog" someone""
Love your wisdom WF!

 

[willowfox]

You become the hunter, and also nothing is really undignified in this day and age. If one has a need then one needs to do something about it or die.

 

[freeme]

WF I will give it a shot..And be a real Cougar! Still surprised that the trip didnt come through for this week...Seemed the Yi was pretty encouraging about it. But, things change right? ...The book of Changes and nothing is certain.?.Thank you so much for all your feedback I will keep updating. I think my hesitancy to pursue him comes from the initial reading about the prospect of marriage (48>8) which you read as very doubtful (me being ready but him not) So, since that looks unlikely, my feeling is why bother?? Anyway, again your gift and feedback are truly appreciated!

 

[freeme]

So confused????

So, he never made the trip out here and that seems weird because the YI seemed to say it was looking good..Anyway, we have had contact here and there his work stuff is awful and he is kinda shutting down because of it. He really isnt very available to me and although he admits it and apologizes and says he misses me ect. I dont get the feeling he is all that interested in what I am feeling...I actually will be going back east in 2 weeks and I asked the Yi what will happen if I just dont contact him anymore..I dont like chasing after someone so emotionally unavailable..feels awful! He sent me some work related emails 3 days ago and I havent heard from him since..So if I do nothing at all what can I expect to happen between us?? ( oh and he is going to Paris next week ..odd he could afford Paris but not Calif????) Looking pretty bad here for me to be with him..

I have never gotten so many changing lines in a primary hex before so I really could use some help!!

13.1.2.3.4.5 > 4

OK this really baffles me!!!

WF...What say you??

Thanks all..

 

[willowfox]

I asked the Yi what will happen if I just don't contact him anymore..
13.1.2.3.4.5 > 4

It looks like he will be in contact soon enough, so keep up the silence for the time being.

 

[freeme]

Thanks WF..Still no contact from him.. I did hear from mutual friends that he will leave for Paris this Monday..
I asked YI
Will I hear from him before he leaves for his trip on Monday..

45.1.2.6 > 22

A yes??

 

[willowfox]

Will I hear from him before he leaves for his trip on Monday..

45.1.2.6 > 22

A yes??

You should hear from him Sunday, hopefully.

 

[freeme]

Well that's tomorrow so I guess I will have my answer in 24 hours! I don't want to have expectations "expectations are planned disappointments" but I have an open mind that I could hear from him. I realize that the Yi hasnt been a spot on oracle of exactly what will happen...It looked good for him to come out here and then he ended up not making the trip..So, even though the Hex may be encouraging, its not a guarantee. I am learning this ..Hard lesson ..even though the Yi may point towards a answer doesn't always mean that's exactly how it works out ...My little mind cant always see the big picture..But WF thank you for such hopefulness and positivity!:bows:

 

[freeme]

update

No contact from him at all today...Bummer...I wanted the Yi to be right!

 

[goddessliss]

Hi freeme(cool id),

45.1.2.6>22 means to me that in the first instance you backed off line 1 and line 2 being persuaded by others to believe he will contact you - not good - shld try and listen to own intuition no matter what the 'ego' is saying.
45.6 is crying with regret - in this instance anyway - so to me that says he wasn't going to contact you and you are not happy about it and clearly regret how you behaved to him initially.
freeme you haven't done anything wrong you just acted on what was happening for you at the present time.
hope things change in the long run
Melissa

 

[freeme]

Thanks Melissa!
Not sure I regret how I behaved initially..But, I am disappointed in not hearing from him. The only disappointment I have about me, is that I allowed myself to view his words and actions when we were together as more serious than they probably were. So, I will be heading to NY end of the week..I have no plans to contact him and/or consult the Yi as to what to do, or to expect..Lets see what happens if I truly let it go..and do NOTHING!!!
I have learned one thing ..If a man wants something they WILL go get it! and if they dont then they really didnt want it in the first place!

 

[goddessliss]

Yep freeme the movie and the book He Just Not into You are so, so true. Enjoy NY - Melissa