New Romantic Interest. 21.2.3.4.6 >11

[jecemis]

I've been single quite a while. I've been trying to embrace a philosophy of "you get what you want by not wanting it," which I have had varying results with. The past couple weeks I've been more busy than usual with work and noticed that I actually was finally fine and happy being single.

Well a few nights ago I went out to see a friend preform at a club and met someone who blew me away. It's been a long time since I have felt something that powerful romantically speaking. Everything about our initial meeting felt very nice and natural and it seemed obvious that the feelings of interest towards one another were shared.

The following day I had a friend over and mention that I was excited about meeting this person and as chance would have it he actually worked with her at job that she just was let go from. This gave me a decent reason to send her a message. So I did mentioning we had someone in common. And we had a couple of cliche exchanges like oh it's a small world, etc.

I'm typically very passive about dating or in general when seeking people to hang out with or attend events with. Normally I have people asking me and I choose what I'm in the mood for. Well I felt pretty strongly about the impression this person left with me so I decided to do the opposite of what I normally would and asked her out by way of text message. Her response was very short, just something like "I'm most likely going to be out of town." That wasn't the response I was looking for. I felt that if she were interested she would have added something like maybe another time or something to display interest.

So normally if I received a reply like this from someone I'd simply let it go and move on, but I didn't this time. Again acting pretty much the opposite of how I normally would. So an hour later I sent another message saying: "This might sound weird but I'm normally not into texting or trying to get someone to hang out with me. I can be a bit of recluse and others tend to seek me out. Anyway you left a really cool impression on me so I figured I owed it to myself to put some effort into it. If I'm coming off weird at this I apologize."

Well her reply was encouraging and sweet, which is what I wanted after her last message being so short and not so sweet.

Now it's a day later and I really don't know how to proceed. There is a strong urge to resort back to trying to embrace my philosophy of not wanting it and to not chase her. I've really never been the type to chase after someone. Every so often something magically just seems to happen and I'm happy that way.

So I consulted the IC, looking for some guidance. I asked, What should I know about her in regards to how I feeling about her. IC gave me hexagram 21 w/ changing lines 2, 3, 4 and 6 changin to 11.

The fact that there are so many changing lines is sort of overwhelming me in attempting to understand it on my own, hence why I'm posting here. The biting through aspect almost feels to me that I need to keep forcing myself to be outside my comfort zone and pursue her, but the thought of that is slightly annoying.

Any input would be lovely and greatly appreciated.

 

[jecemis]

I asked the IC what action should I take regarding pursuing her and got 11 w/ no changing lines.

Is the IC telling me to be patient?

 

[Trojina]

You've never responded to previous answers like this one http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?8089-My-Living-Situation-49-gt-17

It's important here so we can see how readings played out.

and then what happened there ? http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/frie...Multiple-Q-s-20-3-6-21-4-23-2-28-3-amp-51-3-4

Responding to queries takes a person's time and energy. I try to avoid responding to querants who never return because I wish everyone would give their feedback and experience with their readings. I'm sure it is just an over sight on your part, people often just simply forget, but it is much better if querants return to threads to either feedback or update.

 

[jecemis]

Thank you Tojina.

I will update those past readings. It's quite interesting looking at those threads after some years have passed. This should be a good exercise in helping further my understanding of the iching.

 

[canislulu]

jecemis,

I am relatively new at this compared to more experience folks on this forum but I thought I'd give you my impression in case it is helpful. You asked "What do I need to know about her?" and got Biting Through which mentions "use of legal proceedings." I am wondering if perhaps she is not yet available because she is separated or going through some kind of divorce. In that case, your sense that Yi is advising you to be patient is likely accurate.

 

[jecemis]

Well it took nearly a month, but I finally went out with her. We had fun and shared some tender moments. Nevertheless, my feelings have simmered down considerably, to the point that I'm basically indifferent as to what it turns into -- which upon reflecting on how intense my feelings initially were, I wonder where they originated from. It felt basically like taking a powerful drug when I'd first met her. Now I think it was all in my head! or in someway self-created...

The prior week to this date, someone I'd met at a friend's birthday party back in May contacted me out of the blue. Our conversation left an impression on her and she asked our mutual friend for my number. So we went out and seemed to click on different levels. We shared similar interests, for example she's taking sailing classes presently and I'm planning on getting a boat.

We had a number of intense conversation, mostly regarding her life experiences, but I had no problem with that. I did enjoy the fact that she was willing to pierce directly into the heart of matters.

I ended up staying over her place. We only listened to music while cuddling and it was very sweet. In the morning she felt the need to express while we were together in person that she's still harboring negative feelings from her last relationship and is not sure she should get into another one. I didn't have much to say to this other than try to let time sort those things out, that there's no need to rush into defining what we have.

After I got home I consulted the IC. I asked what do I need to know about her and received 64.1.3>14

I saw this as confirming what she expressed earlier that day about her not being ready for a relationship.

So I asked, What type of relationship will develop between us, and received 11 with no changing lines.

I've spent a lot of time over the past month trying to wrap my head around 11. And the fact that I've received 11 unchanging two out of my last 4 readings just seems absurd. The chances probability wise of that happening are ridiculous.

I've read everything on Online Clarity regarding 11 and there is some really great discourse but applying it to myself and my own understanding of its energy is proving to be quite challenging.

Another thing I'm getting confused with is the way I've been wording my questions. I asked "what do I need to know about her?" twice now but I keep wondering if the IC is giving me information I need to know about them or advice directly to me.

This thread which was updated today asks the same question and likewise results in hex 64 but it seems those who responded are interpreting as advice directly to the querent

One thing I have noted is that after going on these dates I do feel perfectly fine with being single, which is something I've wanted to accomplish for quite a while. I think in the past my feelings would be too intense in a situation like this and would get the better of me. Now I'm not really sure how I feel but I know I'm OK without a relationship developing with either.

Perhaps that is what 11 unchanging means for me, to be at peace with myself.

I realize I might not figure out truly what it means until more times passes, which honestly bothers me more than my romantic situation. I really want to know 11 but it's a complete enigma to me presently.