Please help: Reconciliation readings not making much sense

[Syrope]

Hi all, I am turning to iching for answers regarding a possible reconciliation with my ex. I thought the hexagrams seemed favourable for me to message him today (Q: Does he wish to to reconcile? Hex 14 uc! Q: Will we reconcile if I ask him to? Hex 14.5>1!) so I did but it failed terribly. He told me to respect that we have broken up and he kept bringing up something hurtful which I said in anger when we quarrelled, like it is the main reason why we can never get back together. I kept telling him those were words of anger and I didn’t mean it. We both exchanged a lot of hurtful words in anger that led to the breakup that I believe we didn’t mean. He declined repeatedly over the past three weeks to have a talk or to meet to talk about it.

I am feeling broken and cast a few more hexagrams:
1) He rejected to reconcile. Will I be able to persuade him?
- Hex 55.5>49

2) Why does he keep refusing to reconcile?
- Hex 24.6>27

3) What should I do from now on regarding him?
- Hex 24 uc

4) Will he return to me?
- Hex 34.6>14

5) What are his true feelings about us being together?
- Hex 18.2>52

6) What is stopping us from getting back together?
- Hex 40.1.5>58

7) Is there anything I can do for us to get back together?
- Hex 29.2.3.5>15

8) Will we be back together some day?
- Hex 17 uc

Thanks in advance for any light you can shed on my readings. I really thought my initial casts were positive before I reached out to him after a week of silence, yet the door seemed like it slammed in my face I felt readings 1), 4) seem positive and 8) seems hopeful but nothing seemed to be going right. My mind keeps ruminating as I don’t see clear answers. Your views are very much appreciated

 

[Syrope]

Hi all, I am turning to iching for answers regarding a possible reconciliation with my ex. I thought the hexagrams seemed favourable for me to message him today (Q: Does he wish to to reconcile? Hex 14 uc! Q: Will we reconcile if I ask him to? Hex 14.5>1!) so I did but it failed terribly. He told me to respect that we have broken up and he kept bringing up something hurtful which I said in anger when we quarrelled, like it is the main reason why we can never get back together. I kept telling him those were words of anger and I didn’t mean it. We both exchanged a lot of hurtful words in anger that led to the breakup that I believe we didn’t mean. He declined repeatedly over the past three weeks to have a talk or to meet to talk about it.

I am feeling broken and cast a few more hexagrams:
1) He rejected to reconcile. Will I be able to persuade him?
- Hex 55.5>49

2) Why does he keep refusing to reconcile?
- Hex 24.6>27

3) What should I do from now on regarding him?
- Hex 24 uc

4) Will he return to me?
- Hex 34.6>14

5) What are his true feelings about us being together?
- Hex 18.2>52

6) What is stopping us from getting back together?
- Hex 40.1.5>58

7) Is there anything I can do for us to get back together?
- Hex 29.2.3.5>15

8) Will we be back together some day?
- Hex 17 uc

Thanks in advance for any light you can shed on my readings. I really thought my initial casts were positive before I reached out to him after a week of silence, yet the door seemed like it slammed in my face I felt readings 1), 4) seem positive and 8) seems hopeful but nothing seemed to be going right. My mind keeps ruminating as I don’t see clear answers. Your views are very much appreciated

Just a bit more background: In the first few days of the breakup he restricted whatsapp privacy settings so I can no longer view his profile pix nor find out when he read my messages to him. Over the course of three weeks, he reversed the read msg setting twice so I could see his blue ticks. When this happened, I would msg him only for him to reject me again. Why I msged him this morning was also the same - I thought he was missing me or relenting. However, he still said he kept thinking of that one thing I said in anger that hurt him and that no, we cannot get back together.
Throughout this though, he has never blocked me before, unlike what he did to his ex-wife. It makes me feel like he is hurt but still keeping the channel of communication open while he is vacillating and still refuses to reconcile.
It’s very tiring for me as I keep putting myself out there to reach out to him sincerely, only to be knocked down time and again. Please advise if and where you can. Thanks again

 

[breakmov]

Hi Syrope,
I'm sorry about your situation.

Yi is very useful for you to have a perception of what is going on inside your head and it helps a lot to give a new perspective on you and your situations.... I have never used it to see if "someone else want something or not."
In a situation like yours, any question you ask (you asked 8), the answer will always be linked to the "drama that goes on inside you" and nothing you ask will answer you about "his intention to return to the relationship or not" .

"a Help" not related to the answers.... man's perspective for "a solution":

1- you have already made yourself very clear about your intention to reconcile with him

2- Stop any contact, be it direct, indirect... or stop any subliminal attempt on your part or third parties to make him understand that you are looking for him.

3-Just stop and try to live your normal life, let him have the time he needs to figure out if he wants the relationship or not. If he wants to, he himself will give clear signs in this sense..... a man sometimes needs a month or two, alone, to be clear about what he wants.

-If he doesn't want to, nothing can be done because a relationship of two is made with two... you know that one is not enough.

breakmov

 

[moss elk]

Time to throw in the towel and move on.

2) Why does he keep refusing to reconcile?
- Hex 24.6>27

24.6 is something one (he or you) should have turned back from a long time ago,
But now there are consequences.

3) What should I do from now on regarding him?
- Hex 24 uc

The adventure is over. Go back home.

4) Will he return to me?
- Hex 34.6>14

I think this one is talking TO YOU.
It's about dealing with the consequences of Ram-like behaviour (the hurtful things you said in anger?)
And the inability to make progress.

5) What are his true feelings about us being together?
- Hex 18.2>52

Either 'you are acting too much like his mother' ( not A or ANY mother, his mother)
Or
'You are acting too much like your mother.' (not A or ANY mother, your mother)

It's a Bitter pill either way.

 

[Syrope]

Time to throw in the towel and move on.

24.6 is something one (he or you) should have turned back from a long time ago,
But now there are consequences.

The adventure is over. Go back home.

I think this one is talking TO YOU.
It's about dealing with the consequences of Ram-like behaviour (the hurtful things you said in anger?)
And the inability to make progress.

Either 'you are acting too much like his mother' ( not A or ANY mother, his mother)
Or
'You are acting too much like your mother.' (not A or ANY mother, your mother)

It's a Bitter pill either way.

Thanks moss elk for your insights. Indeed it has been bitter. But I thought the resulting hex of 14 from 36.6 is supposed to be good..?

 

[Syrope]

Th

Hi Syrope,
I'm sorry about your situation.

Yi is very useful for you to have a perception of what is going on inside your head and it helps a lot to give a new perspective on you and your situations.... I have never used it to see if "someone else want something or not."
In a situation like yours, any question you ask (you asked 8), the answer will always be linked to the "drama that goes on inside you" and nothing you ask will answer you about "his intention to return to the relationship or not" .

"a Help" not related to the answers.... man's perspective for "a solution":

1- you have already made yourself very clear about your intention to reconcile with him

2- Stop any contact, be it direct, indirect... or stop any subliminal attempt on your part or third parties to make him understand that you are looking for him.

3-Just stop and try to live your normal life, let him have the time he needs to figure out if he wants the relationship or not. If he wants to, he himself will give clear signs in this sense..... a man sometimes needs a month or two, alone, to be clear about what he wants.

-If he doesn't want to, nothing can be done because a relationship of two is made with two... you know that one is not enough.

breakmov

thanks breakmov for the non-IC male perspective, appreciate it

 

[Syrope]

Would anyone be able to share on questions 1), 6) and 8)…? Thanks again, everyone

 

[moss elk]

Thanks moss elk for your insights. Indeed it has been bitter. But I thought the resulting hex of 14 from 36.6 is supposed to be good..?

If you get a single change line.
Read that change line.
That is the answer.

Ignore the resulting hex for now,
--------------------------------------

It would take a long time to explain it.
There is not a linear pathway from
Hex 34 to line 6 to hex 14.
The resulting hex is not the future.

Line 6 (of 34) has been activated.
& That is the answer.