Ran into an old flame. Hex 45.4.5 to 2

[dancingfox]

I ran into an old flame. We dated for a little while when we were teenagers. He treated me in a rather stupid teenage boy-way and because of that I refused to talk to him for a long time. He tried to apologise a couple of times after that but I didn't want anything to do with him.

Yesterday I was in a bar having drinks with my sister when he walked in with a group of people I know. It's been years since I saw him last, and at first I didn't even recognise him, he had grown a beard and there was a different way about him. We chatted a little and only after a couple of minutes I realised who I was talking to and we had a laugh about it. He was grateful to finally get the opportunity to apologise properly after 20 years. There was no trace of the arrogant boy I once knew, I was quite taken with him. We ended up talking for hours, there even was a long kiss when we parted ways. This was really nice and unexpected, so now I am wondering about him

I asked what to expect from X after yesterday? Hex 45.4.5 to 2
Seems an auspicious reading.
Hex 45: people coming together over something shared, similar.
Line 4: leads up to a meeting, good fortune
Line 5: drawn to gathering, giving purpose through gathering will create trust in time
Hex 2: being receptive

So I can expect him to be receptive towards a renewed connection but there are some trust issues?

Any thoughts about this reading?

 

[my_key]

I asked what to expect from X after yesterday? Hex 45.4.5 to 2
Seems an auspicious reading.
Hex 45: people coming together over something shared, similar.
Line 4: leads up to a meeting, good fortune
Line 5: drawn to gathering, giving purpose through gathering will create trust in time
Hex 2: being receptive

So I can expect him to be receptive towards a renewed connection but there are some trust issues?

Any thoughts about this reading?

Your expectations need to be held in a state of fluid openness (2) in order that all things can become properly assembled in your world (45). Oft times before you have jumped ahead of yourself and allowed your lesser virtues to rule how you see things - be wary that you do not fall into this type of behaviour again here.

Yi advocates that you remain vigilant to guard against the unexpected (perhaps even you are being notified to expect the unexpected) and especially not to take up arms when the unexpected happens. Being aware, from this reading, you can begin now to take necessary precautions.

45.4 - Calls for a less active / forceful approach from you with the choices you make needing to be based in common sense. This is not an appropriate situation however by approaching it in a softer nurturing manner you can expect to get the most you can from it.

45.5 - You are not yet party to seeing the full content of this story. As it unfolds you will recognise there is a position for you in the storyline however it may not be the one you are expecting to see.

... or it might mean nothing at all like this for you.

Good Luck

 

[Trojina]

Sounds good - like some situation out of a romcom or romantic movie

45.4.5>2 for what to expect

Hmm 45.5 is not my favourite line

'Gathering together, has a position.
No mistake.
No trust at all.
From the source, ever-flowing constancy.
Regrets vanish.'

I find this has to do with taking initiative - or not. So my question is 'how did you leave this'? What were the parting arrangements because without arrangements people can easily 'lose' one another when neither has taken the initiative to connect again.

Basically all the elements are there but someone has to take this 'in hand' because there's this sense of free floating, 'no trust' can be there's nothing to make you feel held or secure in the undertaking it's really down to you. If you are good at that then 'regrets vanish' , if you are able to go ahead and shape this and take initiative it seems good. I say it's not my favourite line as mostly I'll find I don't want to or don't feel able to use my 'ever flowing constancy' in a situation where I've no way of knowing the shape whatever it is is meant to be or I'll feel the need for more feedback as guidance, but that's me.

With 2 as relating there can be the danger of this just falling back into nothing without actual upcoming solid arrangements even though it looks a really good answer. Certainly there looks to be good potential but sometimes we need directions/guidance/'how are we going to do this' kind of stuff. Hopefully he will make some arrangements with you or you with him ?

The 'trust' here need not be to do with actually trusting one another more like not feeling confident in how to go about going further.

 

[dancingfox]

Your expectations need to be held in a state of fluid openness (2) in order that all things can become properly assembled in your world (45). Oft times before you have jumped ahead of yourself and allowed your lesser virtues to rule how you see things - be wary that you do not fall into this type of behaviour again here.

Yes I am quite aware of my old patterns. Which is why I am taking my time before I decide on any possible action, focusing on staying grounded.

Expect the unexpected. I was wondering if the reading isn't partly referring to what happened? It was unexpected, we were at a social gathering and when he finally got the chance to talk to me and apologize I reacted mild and forgiving , something he never expected to get from me after all these years.

Yes I get a feeling not everything has been said between us. We both had a couple of drinks and after the kiss when we were leaving I couldn't really think straight. So no phone number were exchanged, but there is always social media. I haven't heard from him... and I feel a bit conflicted on reaching out myself.

Perhaps we will meet again at another social Gathering and in this way I remain open and fluid (2) to whatever needs to unfold.

 

[my_key]

Expect the unexpected. I was wondering if the reading isn't partly referring to what happened? It was unexpected, we were at a social gathering and when he finally got the chance to talk to me and apologize I reacted mild and forgiving , something he never expected to get from me after all these years.

Your question specifically asked "What to expect from X after yesterday?" The reply, if that is the way you see it, may be partly referring to what happened however that is not what you enquired about. This could well be a response that is more forward looking than linking to something that has already happened.

Take Care

 

[rosada]

45. Group gathering
2. Empty field, nothing planted, nothing more to come of this.

I think it's the IC is cautioning you not to expect anything to come from him. It was a fortunate meeting, 45.4, because it helped clear up the past misunderstanding and now you can move on without regrets, 45.5.

 

[dancingfox]

Sounds good - like some situation out of a romcom or romantic movie

I find this has to do with taking initiative - or not. So my question is 'how did you leave this'? What were the parting arrangements because without arrangements people can easily 'lose' one another when neither has taken the initiative to connect again.

Basically all the elements are there but someone has to take this 'in hand' because there's this sense of free floating, 'no trust' can be there's nothing to make you feel held or secure in the undertaking it's really down to you. If you are good at that then 'regrets vanish' , if you are able to go ahead and shape this and take initiative it seems good.

Yes it did feel like something out of a movie!

So no, like I wrote in my previous reply to Key no parting arrangements were made. Yesterday I decided to reach out through messenger, told him I had a great time with him that evening and that I was happy that we were good now. I didn't ask him to meet up again because it somehow felt too forward. He responded with a friend request and a friendly message back that he felt the same way... but no new arrangements were made. The ball was in his camp in my mind. I get the feeling this was a one time thing and I can just leave it at that.

Looking back to a terrible couple of years in my lovelife I feel like I am ready to find the silver lining in dating again. This doesn't feel like a disappointment, it feels like a positive experience and it's about time I had one of those

 

[dancingfox]

45. Group gathering
2. Empty field, nothing planted, nothing more to come of this.

I think it's the IC is cautioning you not to expect anything to come from him. It was a fortunate meeting, 45.4, because it helped clear up the past misunderstanding and now you can move on without regrets, 45.5.

Hi Rosada, that is exactly how this played out. And yes, no regrets. I feel a bit lighter and more open for whatever may come my way in my lovelife.