Really could use help with this 48.1

[ec456]

Ok so I recently moved to Hong Kong from the US. I am studying here. I left my gf of 2 years behind, and it has been literally tearing a hole inside of me, causing me much regret over the decision but still feeling very obligated. I am in a 3yr program. She has not had much time to talk to me on the phone bc she is constantly working. Right now she is not making much money and wont take my money to come. I consulted the IChing about what would happen with us. I came up with 48 the well changing to 5 waiting. Any interpretations would be more than helpful. Thanks, peace & love. - E

 

[tifa]

Hello there,
48 line 1 moving suggests you have broke the connection between you and your gf. If this was my cast, I would interpret it as, stick on to your initial decision, do what you got to do in HK... finish the course and return home as new individual. What you need now, is focus.

 

[ec456]

I hate to think our connection is broken.. could that line mean more of a transition where she is closing off? I don't want to be in denial about it but she does get withdrawn, it is like her(even when we were together).. I know she does really love and care for me but I don't know how this transition will go. She is just immersing herself in work and distractions to cope I think. Mean while I am just alone with no friends wishing she could be there for me more...

 

[pocossin]

what will happen with us?
48.1 > 5

Have you offered her marriage if she comes to you in Hong Kong? She wants a husband -- a life partner -- not a boyfriend, and good for her. If you want the stability of a well, then up the offer.

Six at the beginning means:
One does not drink the mud of the well.
No animals come to an old well.

If she hasn't followed you to Hong Kong, it's because you aren't offering what she needs. Otherwise, nothing will happen. I congratulate her on her prudence.

Song of Songs, 4. 15. You [said by she] are a garden fountain, a well of flowing water streaming down from Lebanon.

If you want it, put a ring on it.

 

[ec456]

Thanks pocossin for your interpretation. I guess I should further clarify that I a am a female too.. I don't know if this alters your interpretation. I have expressed a desire to marry her before. I really would like to share my future with her. We have know each other since we were 15 (I am 23 now). She is hesitant but I think opening up to the idea. She takes marriage very seriously. Her parents were together for 15 years before they tied the knot (to give you an idea). Yesterday she told me she does want to come and will accept my money. She does however tend to flip flop depending on the mood she is in. I am just trying to remain focused, strong and hope for the best.

 

[pocossin]

In affairs of the heart, gender doesn't matter. Congratulations on getting your friend to agree to come. The muddy well suggests to me that she does not fully see the depth of your commitment. When she arrives in Hong Kong, you'll have every chance to reassure her.

 

[bradford]

If you look at the image, you're all the way down at the bottom of the well, combined with the Zhi Gua of Waiting (for rain), you'll get that the reason for the mud down there is you're in the midst of a drought.
I was actually in this situation once - in charge of the well on a commune where I lived and in a deep drought. It was a bit of a mud hole down there with carcasses and skeletons of little critters that had died trying to get a drink.
Well, it turned out to be a perfect time for something - climbing down into the well with a shovel and bucket, doing some much-needed maintenance, and digging out a couple of feet of accumulated silt. Making use of the meanwhile is one of the best uses of Gua 05. The reason it says "worthwhile to cross the great stream" in that hexagram is that it's a much easier ford at low flow. There are things you can do while other things are on hold.

 

[ec456]

I like your interpretation bradford. It does feel like my well has dried up and I have got to spend some time cleaning up down there. Unfortunately there are quite a few carcasses at the bottom. This experience has been quite a difficult one, probably the hardest of my life. Hope the water comes soon and quenches my thirst!