Relationship Question 51.2.5.6 > 10

[ec456]

Hello all,

So I recieved 51.2.5.6 in response to a relationship question. "is there any hope left? what should i do?"
Me and my gf started long distance 3 months ago. When she left we had only been dating a couple of months so very fresh.
She started to act very removed and critical toward me but I knew it was stress from her work. Either way I held it all in until 2 days ago I had an panic attack which hadnt happened for almost 2 yrs - I really scared her (wouldn't stop calling her/ acting really delusional) , and she doesn't want me to contact her for a week. I feel so embarassed - and as she is a critical person I fear her perception of me might be changed forever. I just recently bought my ticket to see her, I am really concerned whether we can make it another 3 months still I see her in July.. Im going to get some anxiety medication today, I thought I had moved past these problems, I feel awful and I have all of my finals this month but at this moment I can barely eat.. I just am worried sick about the relationship but I know if I don't give her space it will just make things worse.
what do you guys think the iching is trying to tell me on this one?

 

[cornucopia63]

Hello, hexagram 10 is about correct behaviour so this response suits your query,

Do not worry even though you stepped over boundaries of correct behaviour she won't hurt you. There is success if you tread carefully with her and be extremely cautious with your behaviour.
Good luck!

 

[ec456]

thanks for your input cornucopia, that does make me feel a bit more positive - I am doing my best now to give her some space and not cross any more boundaries.. I really hope we can work this one out, though I'm really struggling to understand where we stand..

 

[cornucopia63]

You can ask what are the prospects for this love relationship. This should give you a picture. Good Luck!

 

[mirian]

Hi ec456,

Your reading is all about how you feel, there is no prediction about the relationship itself. You asked two different questions ( "is there any hope left? what should i do?" ), which makes it difficult to get answers for both at the same time.

So, 51.2.5.6 > 10 is showing you being hit by these waves of strong emotions, which can be overwhelming and paralysing. And your reading is telling you that you need to find your centre, your balance, and try not to let the current events get you off your ground. It is a difficult task, I know, but you need to make sure that you are not "bitten by the tiger" (the imagery of Hex 10), which in my view the tiger here is actually inside you, your emotions and emotional reactions. Take care :bows:

 

[ec456]

Thanks miriam - there is surely a tiger inside of me!
This is the beginning of our 4th day not speaking, I haven't made any effort to contact her and I am actually pretty proud at my self control. I took the steps to go see a doctor for my anxiety and I feel more stable now. I finally started to get some work done last night for school too. So overall I think I am recentering and also taking the time to assess my behavioral patterns, negative/compulsive thoughts etc.

I asked the iching what the prospects are for our relationship and received 11.3 -> 19. I think this is a positive cast? I see it as a if I can keep the peace, enjoy that she is still in my life - even if some damage has been done, I will be able to approach her again - and maybe this refers to my trip planned in July? Do you guys have any thoughts?

 

[mirian]

11.3 -> 19
Yes, I think it shows good prospects, with 19 as relating hexagram it favours communication, interaction, reaching out.
I don't see the reading as referring to the trip, rather it is about the relationship itself and your attitude.
Hex 11 line 3 tells you that just because you have had a hard time with her recently it doesn't mean that things cannot get better again. This is how life can be: good days follow bad days and vice-versa. The point is: when things go wrong you shouldn't despair. And when things go really well just keep your feet on the ground. Accept the ups and downs of life. :bows: