Should I reach out 14>43

[Quest100]

I am thinking of reaching out to a former friend who ghosted me several years ago. I am wondering if it is the right thing to do, or if I should let sleeping dogs lie?
Edit: My question was 'I'm thinking id reaching out to a former friend.' My reading was 14 (Great Possession} changing to 43 (Deciding)
We were were really close friends throughout university, and afterwards, but she started to withdraw from me, and wouldn't respond to messages or any other communication. The thing that hurt me most was the she got married, and didn't even tell me.
It is now quite a long time since we spoke (probably 10 years or more), and I am wondering if I should contact her, just to say hi and see if there is anything left to salvage.

 

[Trojina]

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[Trojina]

Not quite sure what 'ghosting' entails so googled it here

Ghosting: What It Is, Why It Hurts, and What You Can Do About It

Experts describe ghosting as a form of emotional cruelty. Learn more about what this increasingly common way to end a relationship means

www.psycom.net

It is a cruel thing to do though I suppose sometimes it may seem the only thing to do. I think it happens a lot more these days with online communication

 

[Trojina]

Yes she edited it after I had written my post to show the reading. Look at her post, it even says 'edit'

I wrote my post then she edited it to put the reading in.

 

[bologna_tendra]

What is the changing line or changing lines in hexagram 14 that transform it into 43?

 

[Trojina]

Edit: My question was 'I'm thinking id reaching out to a former friend.' My reading was 14 (Great Possession} changing to 43 (Deciding)

So 14 changing to 43 is 14.5.6>43

In short it does seem a clear 'go for it' message. 'Great Possession's Statement' You're going to announce yourself (43) in a spirit of generosity (14) and because the relationship had value and because you are sincere (line 5), you are coming towards her in truth.


This answer would go against my own opinion not to bother with someone who ghosted you however it is an auspicious reading for going ahead.

I think this is very much like standing your ground (34 yin pattern) there's 43 together with the power of truthful speaking in 14.5 and it appears in line 6 there's something here for you. So yes go ahead - no promises how this will turn out but Yi's answer shows getting in touch is a good thing for you to do.

 

[Quest100]

So 14 changing to 43 is 14.5.6>43

In short it does seem a clear 'go for it' message. 'Great Possession's Statement' You're going to announce yourself (43) in a spirit of generosity (14) and because the relationship had value and because you are sincere (line 5), you are coming towards her in truth.


This answer would go against my own opinion not to bother with someone who ghosted you however it is an auspicious reading for going ahead.

I think this is very much like standing your ground (34 yin pattern) there's 43 together with the power of truthful speaking in 14.5 and it appears in line 6 there's something here for you. So yes go ahead - no promises how this will turn out but Yi's answer shows getting in touch is a good thing for you to do.

Hi Tojina, thank you very much - you have really clarified things for me.