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I recently asked the boyfriend if he wanted to live together. He said he'd rather we have our own places as he is very solitary. This bothered me but I didn't say anything. I feel I have been waiting a long long time for things to move forward.
Maybe I want more than he does or is capable of giving.
bruce no, it's ok. I appreciate your feedback. I'm open to hearing them all.
Sure I can do better in finding someone that makes more money or whatever but the connection we have is not that easy to find.
I guess I don't understand his mixed messages sometimes. He said he didn't want to live together but when I'm there he wants to be with me 247 and I have been there for months at a time.
I asked one more question.
What will be the outcome if i stay in this relationship?
16.4 to 2
So are you saying maybe I should be less enthusiastic and more direct?
I've always been told to avoid relationship talks with men cause they hate them and not to be pushy or give ultimatums as it scares them away. Then again, I have never had to deal with a situation where a man was like a clam.
Maybe I should be pushy, after all this is my life!
That little sneaky auto-reaction we get, to instantly classify a hexagram or line, is fully alive and at work in 16.4. Oh, how wonderful to be the source of enthusiasm! To unify others seems noble and good. But it can also seem one sided and unfair after awhile, if you're the only one putting out magnetic energy.
So are you saying maybe I should be less enthusiastic and more direct?
I've always been told to avoid relationship talks with men cause they hate them and not to be pushy or give ultimatums as it scares them away. Then again, I have never had to deal with a situation where a man was like a clam.
Maybe I should be pushy, after all this is my life!
Well, the advice of the Yi here is 'doubt not' (Legge has 'Let him not allow suspicions to enter his mind'). And your 'but it can also seem one sided ..' invites doubting, right?
I see a tendency in several posts to read something negative in a response (16.4) from the IC that I can only interpret as encouraging, 'don't worry', 'go for it'.
How do you think it ties in with the fan yao 2: 4. ?
Clarity,
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