Try and keep the house? 5.1.2.6 > 53

[JoeCampbell]

My ex- lives in the house we shared, she can no longer afford to keep up the payments on the mortgage and so on and has said that we should try and sell it. The property market here is stagnant and even if we could sell (which she doesn't want to - she loves the place), we would probably end up with a large debt.
I have no idea if I could afford to do this, but part of me wants to help pay the bills so that the house remains in our ownership and she lives there, irrespective of the fact that we are no longer a couple. At least until it could be sold without a loss, or until some other solution comes up (not sure what that could be!)
So I ask Yi "What is the best thing to do about my desire to contribute to keeping the house?" and the answer comes back: 5.1.2.6 > 53
Waiting.....perseverance, 3 people come.....Gradual Progress.
Perhaps the answer is blindingly obvious - don't do anything yet, or at least don't sell yet; in other words yes, contribute! Or is it to with my desire to contribute? Don't do anything yet....
Thanks in advance for any thoughts or suggestions as to how to approach this...and that could be the problem (keep the house?) or it could be the desire....

 

[kkappa]

My ex- lives in the house we shared, she can no longer afford to keep up the payments on the mortgage and so on and has said that we should try and sell it. The property market here is stagnant and even if we could sell (which she doesn't want to - she loves the place), we would probably end up with a large debt.
I have no idea if I could afford to do this, but part of me wants to help pay the bills so that the house remains in our ownership and she lives there, irrespective of the fact that we are no longer a couple. At least until it could be sold without a loss, or until some other solution comes up (not sure what that could be!)
So I ask Yi "What is the best thing to do about my desire to contribute to keeping the house?" and the answer comes back: 5.1.2.6 > 53
Waiting.....perseverance, 3 people come.....Gradual Progress.
Perhaps the answer is blindingly obvious - don't do anything yet, or at least don't sell yet; in other words yes, contribute! Or is it to with my desire to contribute? Don't do anything yet....
Thanks in advance for any thoughts or suggestions as to how to approach this...and that could be the problem (keep the house?) or it could be the desire....

Well, your question was "What to do about about your DESIRE to..." so the answer was to curb it for the time being, even though this will cause some disagreements with your ex-wife. When things get really tough between the two of you, three unexpected people will come into your life and you'd need to be open to what they're trying to offer not get all sulky about the situation. 53 as gradual progress says it all, I'd think. So really, let this unfold a little bit more, you don't have all the pieces to the puzzle yet

 

[mirian]

So I ask Yi "What is the best thing to do about my desire to contribute to keeping the house?" and the answer comes back: 5.1.2.6 > 53

Dear JoeCampbell,

I agree that it is waiting time for you, but I would like to add:

- Not only does Hex 5 tell you to wait but also how to wait. Lines 1 and 2 advise on the best attitude: carry on with your life as usual, keep your balance, avoid anxiety and disagreements. Keep calm

- Line 6 does not mean necessarily three people, as in Wilhelm's translation. This line comes up when you cannot see a solution for a problem any more and help comes from an unexpected source. Yes, this can take the form of people coming your way with the solution, but can also be a change in circumstances. The advice is to be open-minded, so you can benefit from something that was unplanned and unexpected.

Hope it helps:bows:

 

[JoeCampbell]

Thank you both - I'll keep you posted

 

[anemos]

So I ask Yi "What is the best thing to do about my desire to contribute to keeping the house?" and the answer comes back: 5.1.2.6 > 53

Hi JC,

One aspect of 53 is formalities, all those things need to be done in order to do something, like wedding preparations. In the context of you question, might 53 refers to the mortgage and the bank. Lines 1 and two are in accord with the description of the situation , the dangers of not serving the mortgage properly. Until the rain comes, ie your ex can pay the installments something needs to be done. Maybe the contribution the reading suggest is a re-negotiation of the monthly payments or a special arrangement for a specific period of time.

i can't say from the reading if Yi is for or against, so to speak, about your contribution in money but 53 brings in mind organizations, procedures and red tape things. Maybe the helpers are the mortgage consultants.

 

[JoeCampbell]

Just an update 18 months later - I have now been contributing towards the cost of the mortgage as and when I can afford it. And, to date, it seems to be working. We also sought help from financial advisers and the lending bank but to no avail - the best any of them could come up with was "stick with it, ex- stay in house, you help with the repayments". And that's what we did.