Clarity,
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London.
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United Kingdom
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Hi!
I need your help to better understand this hexagram because to me it seems important in a difficult situation.
Hexagram 3, changing line 6.
I will not base my decision what to do only on a hexagram, but I got this same result twice on a same question asked 5 days apart so it seems relevant to me. Changing line was the same too.
Question is: What if I keep this child? (first time I asked a bit differently - Should I give up this child?)
Very serious situation.
I am 31 years old and 6 weeks pregnant, my partner doesn't want the child because of his bad psychological state (not crazy but seeing a therapist for a while now because of a problem he has with his family life- his father was unhappy all his life and he blames his mother for it so has mother complex with all that goes with it like problems with erection and reaching orgasm, obviously that's better now or I wouldn't be pregnant, he thinks this will slow his healing process or stop it all together).
He want's me to have an abortion but I feel very strongly against it and will decide to do it only as a last option.
(We are not even living together yet, both are in process of divorce, he has 2 children from previous marriage.)
If I have this child I will be alone, I am prepared to do this but he and his therapist have scared me that a child without father can have serious issues, also if its a boy living only with women etc. I thought if the child had enough love from one parent that would be enough, but how can I be sure?
The need to ask this question only came after talking to my partner. There are many bad circumstances here but when I found out I was pregnant I was scared but very happy, I thought everything will come together. I thought this was a good thing. Not sure any more...
I will talk both to his therapist and the one I started to see and think about whats good and bad in this situation but I Ching always helps me in some way so I would like to better understand the meaning of this hexagram...it might be important because future is very vague for me right now.
Thanks for reading all of this!
Anna:
The more important is the love of the mother. Nobody has the right to ask you for an abortion if you don't want it. You have nothing to do with the therapist of the father. I believe that lacks of professionalism to bring you these worries.
Charly
Having talked about this a lot today, what troubles me the most is having a baby boy that is raised in all women environment. Seems that could create a psychological problem later on. Its not a problem for a baby but when they are a bit older (3-4 years old?) boys need a father figure to identify with. Mother only is not enough in that sense.
You will probably want to know the outcome of all of this..I'll try to keep you posted (though I won't be able to do it for 20 years or so )
Its not a problem for a baby but when they are a bit older (3-4 years old?) boys need a father figure to identify with. Mother only is not enough in that sense.
My economic situation is ok. I have a steady job and in my country you get 1 year maternity leave that is fully payed by the government. At this time I live with my mother, sister and her teenage daughter so help is available.
Hi!
I need your help to better understand this hexagram because to me it seems important in a difficult situation.
Hexagram 3, changing line 6.
Question is: What if I keep this child? (first time I asked a bit differently - Should I give up this child?)
Very serious situation.
I am 31 years old and 6 weeks pregnant, my partner doesn't want the child because of his bad psychological state (not crazy but seeing a therapist for a while now because of a problem he has with his family life- his father was unhappy all his life and he blames his mother for it so has mother complex with all that goes with it like problems with erection and reaching orgasm, obviously that's better now or I wouldn't be pregnant, he thinks this will slow his healing process or stop it all together).
He want's me to have an abortion but I feel very strongly against it and will decide to do it only as a last option.
(We are not even living together yet, both are in process of divorce, he has 2 children from previous marriage.)
If I have this child I will be alone, I am prepared to do this but he and his therapist have scared me that a child without father can have serious issues, also if its a boy living only with women etc. I thought if the child had enough love from one parent that would be enough, but how can I be sure?
The need to ask this question only came after talking to my partner. There are many bad circumstances here but when I found out I was pregnant I was scared but very happy, I thought everything will come together. I thought this was a good thing. Not sure any more...
I will talk both to his therapist and the one I started to see and think about whats good and bad in this situation but I Ching always helps me in some way so I would like to better understand the meaning of this hexagram...it might be important because future is very vague for me right now.
Thanks for reading all of this!
If you can see these fears for what they are - essentially false and empty, and follow the Judgement's advice to abide in non-action then you will allow the Resultant Hexagram - 42, I- Increase to come into play.
A great piece of advice Allow Tears To Flow!I have found that most of the time the expression of tears of blood is about real tears (great pain). Not just false and empty ego's fear.
Best
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).