Very new, help need with 21 and 55 unchanging

[willow730]

Good Afternoon

I am extremely new to this and am really struggling to link the hexagrams.

We have been split up nearly 3 months now, but I don't believe its the end, for various reasons. We are not communicating at all now, for last week or so, as I told him how I felt and he struggles to deal with his own emotions, never mind anyone elses. Very complicated man!

I asked 'if I am to have a future relationship with David, how should I proceed?

I cast 21 unchanging ?biting through??????

I then asked ' what do i need to bite through and how?

I cast 55 unchanging? abundance????

I am at a loss as to what if anything it is I am supposed to do and don't want to ask anymore questions until I understand this.

Many Thanks for taking the time to read this and more thanks if you can help me

 

[steve]

Hi there

21 Unchanging i believe is to way up the facts, look at the reality of the situation, do not bring fantasy into the situation. The hexagram can appear for legal matters for example if this was a court case, you would need to way up the evidence to make a judgement. This is how you bite through to see the reality of the situation. You need to make a real judgement I would say on this matter possibly do a pro's and cons list and work out if its worth it.
In general you need to work this out.

55 Unchanging - Its possible to think of this as the sun is high in the sky as it is at midday that means it can only go down from there. I think in relation to the question, it again has to do with truth, so possibly the relationship may have had the best times and if so dont be sad if your conclusions are this is on the way out. One of the more common or famous quotes in relation to the hex is Be not sad. Be like the sun at midday.
Either way you should not get down about this.

Let me say i am not saying this is a negative outcome, the Yi appears to not even be saying that however you do need to work that out before you can continue on your correct path.

Steve

 

[willow730]

Thanks so much for replying to me.

I have done the pro's and con's and apart from the the fact that we both struggled with the fact that we had these feelings for each other, and had been in a place of huge great walls built around us to protect ourselves before we fell in love, neither of us had ever felt like this before and we are in our 40's so it's not young love. It was all pro's, we had a future planned, we spoke in the morning and ended with I love you as usual. By the afternoon, he messaged me, ended it and said I never loved you...just like that.

Anyway, after reading your reply, I asked 2 specific questions, and maybe because I am not in the right headspace, I am absolutely devasted with the answers, and will indeed just give up.

I asked What should I know about my feelings for David?
and
What should I know about David's feelings for me?

Both times it replied 23 unchanging.

Now if that wasn't telling me, as far as I can see, then nothing will.

Tis verily the end and I will have to look at how I can deal with this in a grown up way.

There is indeed no hope, but thanks for trying to put a bit of a positive spin on at the end.

Many thanks