What are his intentions? 53.1.3.6 to 3.

[hellomoon]

Not to make a long story here. But about 3 years ago I briefly dated a guy, it was very short and I didn't feel much of a connection. He is extremely handsome and fun, but I never felt love or deep feelings. One day, he stopped calling me all of a sudden. After one month that he stopped calling me I met someone else and fell in love. Then one year after that he texted me out of the blue saying "I am sorry for not calling you, you were good to me. I realize that only now." But I was already with my guy and I told him this. Fast forward 1 year later which was 2 weeks ago he texted me and wants to know what is going on with me and wants to meet up! I admit I am quite annoyed. How can someone that you dated 3 years ago for a very BRIEF period of time still want to be with you or contact? I don't get it. We never had a formal relationship, we only met a handful of times usually after he got out of work. I do know he stopped calling me because he had another interest and chose her because I saw his Facebook profile which had a picture of him and her.BTW I don't think he is a bad guy, he is probably just confused and apparently I must have made quite a profound connection on him as I am still on his mind after 3 years! Incredible.So my question is WHY DID HE CONTACT ME? I also was thinking while concentrating on the cast WHAT DOES HE WANT?I got hexagram 53 with changing lines 1, 3 & 6 with relating hexagram 3.Okay when I saw hexagram 53 I immediately thought he wants a relationship with me or he is relationship minded. Also, hexagram 53 is often about a relationship with a mature woman and younger man or immature man. Well, in our case I am older and I am marriage and relationship minded. When I met him he told me he has never been in a long relationship, I am 5 years older than him. Hexagram 53.1 shows someone lonely. Probably him.53.3 this line shows someone being hasty. I think it might be him. I think he wants to make his move, and not thinking too but his goal. 53.6 I think this shows our 'relationship' is definitely over. What we had is gone and done. But I was wondering if this could be his relationship? Perhaps he was done with someone and wants a start with me?Hexagram 3 I wonder if he is going through a difficult time and wants a new start.I'd appreciate any insight. I am not interested, better stay away. Thank you.

 

[moss elk]

He is reaching out (3) for gradual progress (53)

Maybe something like, "If I reach out to her, she will eventually come over to my side and go out with me."
It is that odd way that males very often over estimate their appeal.
(There are articles on this topic)

I think line 6 may refer to his last relationship ending, now he is networking (3) to find a new one.

Tell him,
"No Dingus, you missed your chance and I am in a relationship. Dingus."

Make sure to say Dingus twice in order to drive the point home through his dense head.

 

[Freedda]

Hello Moon,

First, it's really hard to read and get through one big, long block of text. It is always better to break up your message with paragraphs and line breaks. If you are doing that, but it's not showing up, see: https://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/faq.php?faq=vb3_reading_posting#faq_paragraphbug for how to fix it.

Stepping a way from the Yi, it's not suprising or unusual for someone to go back through their list of past potentials - no matter how short-lived or unconnected - and circle back around with a 'hey, wanna hook up'? - whatever that may mean for them.

It seems you've answered your own question here without the Yi's advice: you didn't really have much of a connection, you are annoyed that he's contacting you after all this time, and most of all, you've moved on. So, I'd suggest that you just politetly (or not) tell him you are not interested or available. And if he persists, just be firmer with him - DO NOT CONTACT ME!

I mean does it really matter why he's doing this or what he wants from you?

 

[diamanda]

WHY DID HE CONTACT ME? WHAT DOES HE WANT?
53.1.3.6 > 3

To break up your relationship, then disappear, and leave you in chaos.
Or maybe he just broke up and he's confused (he sounds severely confused in general).

53.3 and 53.6 and 3 do not bode well for starting something new, I don't believe he wants a relationship with you.

So it took him a year to figure out he fancies you again, then he completely ignored the fact that you had a partner, and here he is again as if nothing happened, as if no time has elapsed. It all sounds highly dodgy and abnormal.

 

[hellomoon]

He is reaching out (3) for gradual progress (53)

Maybe something like, "If I reach out to her, she will eventually come over to my side and go out with me."
It is that odd way that males very often over estimate their appeal.
(There are articles on this topic)

I think line 6 may refer to his last relationship ending, now he is networking (3) to find a new one.

Tell him,
"No Dingus, you missed your chance and I am in a relationship. Dingus."

Make sure to say Dingus twice in order to drive the point home through his dense head.

I think he also just ended a relationship. The sixth line, I don't think it is talking about our relationship. I just find it so annoying. It is true, I was 'good' to him like he sad in the text. But I think it is because I am mature, more woman than his encounters. But I am not sure. Thanks Moss Elk. Are you a male? Asking because I have a few close male friends and I like to get their opinion why men do these things lol.

 

[hellomoon]

WHY DID HE CONTACT ME? WHAT DOES HE WANT?
53.1.3.6 > 3

To break up your relationship, then disappear, and leave you in chaos.
Or maybe he just broke up and he's confused (he sounds severely confused in general).

53.3 and 53.6 and 3 do not bode well for starting something new, I don't believe he wants a relationship with you.

So it took him a year to figure out he fancies you again, then he completely ignored the fact that you had a partner, and here he is again as if nothing happened, as if no time has elapsed. It all sounds highly dodgy and abnormal.

Why don't you think he wants a relationship with me? Is it because of the lines?

I agree with the dodgy part. It is totally strange. Does he think I am going to drop everything and go on a date with him? He is all looks really not much happening with personality. I do know from a former roommate who went to his alma mater, that he is a ladies man. I don't like these types. I am looking for stability and security. Just don't want to be girlfriend number 23! I do think people eventually change but I just don't like HIM.

I think he is more confused than anything else.

Thanks. Best stay away.

 

[hellomoon]

Hello Moon,

First, it's really hard to read and get through one big, long block of text. It is always better to break up your message with paragraphs and line breaks. If you are doing that, but it's not showing up, see: https://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/faq.php?faq=vb3_reading_posting#faq_paragraphbug for how to fix it.

Stepping a way from the Yi, it's not suprising or unusual for someone to go back through their list of past potentials - no matter how short-lived or unconnected - and circle back around with a 'hey, wanna hook up'? - whatever that may mean for them.

It seems you've answered your own question here without the Yi's advice: you didn't really have much of a connection, you are annoyed that he's contacting you after all this time, and most of all, you've moved on. So, I'd suggest that you just politetly (or not) tell him you are not interested or available. And if he persists, just be firmer with him - DO NOT CONTACT ME!

I mean does it really matter why he's doing this or what he wants from you?

Hi, just figured it out. Thank you.
Honestly, I am tired of being polite. I was before when he sent me a text, which was last year. It does not matter what he is going and what he wants. He never made an impact with me, no connection. It was just drinks and hanging out. This seems to be one sided thing.

Maybe I am thinking too much into it and maybe he is texting all his past 'gfs' to see what is up and maybe one will reply positively and he will go with that one. Maybe that is his thinking.

I think it is funny I got hex 53 because it is about things progressing slowly and maybe he has the patience of a saint. LOL.

Thank you!

 

[moss elk]

Are you a male? Asking because I have a few close male friends and I like to get their opinion why men do these things

Yes= Elkman.
(immature) Men do the ghosting when they get what they want somewhere else, or when they aren't honest enough or courageous enough to say why they are leaving. (all bad signs)You said he is handsome, which can be kind of a curse on the development of the male sometimes, because they can see many available options (like a smorgasbord of women, ah this is appealing, that is appealing)
It's sort of dehumanizing and objectifying, isn't it? But it is true.
Now, why do they contact out of the blue? (who says he didn't send out four messages like that one?) He might have gotten dumped, and is just shooting in the dark. (fishing.) Now, why do they think this behaviour is OK?
Because they have always been rewarded by it (get sex) and not suffered for it.( told off, 'yes, dingus. Maybe you should have though of that before. Take a hike.)
I was once an adolescent male, and now I'm the dad of a pretty 20 year old, so I am acutely aware of young male behaviour.