What do you want to let me know about M's invitation? 8.3.6>53

[Annabel]

Hello! It's the first time I participate here!
I've been chatting these last four months with a man I met on a PhD course. He added me on Instagram, because he liked me, and we started chatting. We live in different parts of the country, and he invited me to go visit him (he lives in a tourist place).
I asked the IChing: What do you want to let me know about M's invitation? and the answer was 8.3.6>53
Assuming that I am the lower trigram and he is the upper one, I interpret that I should not go, that this union does not suit me, that I will be hurt or harmed (L3), that there are no principles in him, that he has made the decision without being too convinced , you are not being honest, or you only have sexual intentions and nothing more. Seeing 53 I understand that IChing tells me that the gradual process of joining or relating to others is not correct.
On the other hand, out of curiosity I asked: Iching, is there something that M is hiding from me and you want to tell me? and it was 11.2.4.5>49. Here I really don't know how to interpret it. I understand that it tells me in context that a profound, radical change occurred. But I get confused with 11.

Thank you,
I read them!

 

[tuttochiedebellezza]

8.3.6->53 i see two images 8 and 53, both are good hexagram for human affair. Both are slow and gradual hex. Go visit him but not go so far away with your mind. Stay here: you don't know him yet, you only chat. Take a room, go there, enjoy the place and go see of YOU like him (Seeking union with confusion? Yep! You don't really know each other)
I see the second reading as "stay calm, look at this with a differenti perspective"

 

[Annabel]

8.3.6->53 i see two images 8 and 53, both are good hexagram for human affair. Both are slow and gradual hex. Go visit him but not go so far away with your mind. Stay here: you don't know him yet, you only chat. Take a room, go there, enjoy the place and go see of YOU like him (Seeking union with confusion? Yep! You don't really know each other)
I see the second reading as "stay calm, look at this with a differenti perspective"

Thanks for your reading! Actually, the two lines are terrible, but the hexagrams are good, and that confuses me a lot.
I understand that L3 and L6 correspond to each other. Does that have any interpretive value?

 

[breakmov]

8.3.6 -- 53

I imagine this reading shows your disposition towards the invitation..... it seems to show that, for you, it is not a good way to seek a connection between the two.

8.3 -- It doesn't make sense to accept this trip to his address (there is no fixed address... tourist???) .... there is no desire to accept the invitation, the way it was made.

8.6 -- hesitation in interacting with him and what could come from that interaction, perhaps due to the lack of a more correct path or way of approaching.

Have you thought about a response to him where the aim is not to go to his address, but rather a proposal for a "middle ground" that could be of interest to both?

L3 and L6 are in correspondence in a common disposition of not adhering to "this advance towards this union of two"

breakmov

 

[tuttochiedebellezza]

Thanks for your reading! Actually, the two lines are terrible, but the hexagrams are good, and that confuses me a lot.
I understand that L3 and L6 correspond to each other. Does that have any interpretive value?

I don't believe in terribile lines or bad hexagram, as the way i don't believe in absolutisme in iching. Remember that It was written so many years ago, It based on powerful images to try to figure out reality but also toughts, fears, wispers, background of the consultant. Is very hard to interpret.

For example, when we read words like "Devil" or "bad fortune" we have to bring in our time, what do they mean in your story, your life? Now, in 2024? Are the enemy real or they are something like bad feelings (fear, envy...)?
Iching have many combination but not infinity one, that's why in one case a line means A and in another case in another Reading that lines could mean something little different, so many nuances.
And it's hard to be obgective about our own readings, try to understand what is real and what is in our mind.

I'm not such a technic of iching reading, i look at the Imagine hexagram and lines give me. For most of my readings Is enough.

Don't if this can help

 

[Annabel]

8.3.6 -- 53

I imagine this reading shows your disposition towards the invitation..... it seems to show that, for you, it is not a good way to seek a connection between the two.

8.3 -- It doesn't make sense to accept this trip to his address (there is no fixed address... tourist???) .... there is no desire to accept the invitation, the way it was made.

8.6 -- hesitation in interacting with him and what could come from that interaction, perhaps due to the lack of a more correct path or way of approaching.

Have you thought about a response to him where the aim is not to go to his address, but rather a proposal for a "middle ground" that could be of interest to both?

L3 and L6 are in correspondence in a common disposition of not adhering to "this advance towards this union of two"

breakmov

thank you! No, what I meant was that he invited me to his house, and he lives in a mountain resort town, I live in the capital of the country. I asked: What can the IChing tell me about meeting M here (in the city where I live)? 53.2.4---44 I understand that this is more auspicious, that it tells me that it is safer for me (L2) and that for him it will be leaving his comfortable zone but will be flexible (L4). When I asked the initial question I asked for advice, how the IChing viewed this proposal. After that I asked: how should I interpret this invitation? and it was 53 unchanged.