what he wants from me?

[willowfox]

Willowfox: This hexagram speaks of future possibilites, not the past.

The original question was "what does he want from me?", which I take to mean the present.

As for future possibilities, again it is wrong because the guy has been married a long time, he had a fling with Maria which did not last, he ended it, she tried to contact him, he does not want to know, therefore, there will be absolutely no future "possibilities".
You are giving her false hope here. She is not the Well, he is, she is the one looking for nourishment, love, but she will not get it from this man, the bucket is broken.

 

[maremaria]

Hi everybody,

A BIG thank you for your involvement! It feels good . I have read your post and what I knew is that I am very confused.

Who is the well. I am ? He is ? Is/was the relationship the well ? ... and many other questions.

I asked IC and got this answers.

1. "what he wants from me ?"
I got 48 no changing lines

2. “Expain me 48” and I received 59.2 >23


3. What is the best thing I can do for myself in this situation?"

I received 1.4 > 9

I asked for your interpretations and I got all those helpful posts.

I asked myself “ so what do you think ? ” and the answer I got is “I’m not sure. I need time and space to drawn a conclusion. Every possibility is valid”

Maybe the initial questions don’t stated in a correct manner. I have been thinking that what I had in my mind was “what he wants from me to do given the situation?”


I’m not sure if I want to throw the coins . Maybe I will ?

 

[Trojina]

Maria are these facts correct - you had an affair with him for 6 years when he was married all that time. You broke up a year ago. He now does not want to communicate with you and when he found out you were texting him in disguise he was angry. Have I got that right ?

Why do you think he wants something from you ?

 

[mudpie]

I do not believe hexagram 48 is , unto itself, fortunate or unfortunate. I think it is actually "not losses nor gains"
in fact, one text I have says simply "Unfortunate without virtue"

If you asked what he wanted from you, perhaps he simply wishes you well, no pun attended

 

[maremaria]

Maria are these facts correct - you had an affair with him for 6 years when he was married all that time. You broke up a year ago. He now does not want to communicate with you and when he found out you were texting him in disguise he was angry. Have I got that right ?

Why do you think he wants something from you ?

Except from this feeling when I told him the true about my identity ( he did not tell me anything) the other part of the story as you perceived them.
To your question “Why do you think he wants something from you” its previous experience make me think asking that.

 

[maremaria]

I do not believe hexagram 48 is , unto itself, fortunate or unfortunate. I think it is actually "not losses nor gains"
in fact, one text I have says simply "Unfortunate without virtue"

If you asked what he wanted from you, perhaps he simply wishes you well, no pun attended

Yes, maybe he wants the best thing for me and because he can give it to me he set me free to find it in another relationship.
I really don’t know which is the truth and which are the illusions.

maria

 

[maremaria]

I do not believe hexagram 48 is , unto itself, fortunate or unfortunate. I think it is actually "not losses nor gains"
in fact, one text I have says simply "Unfortunate without virtue"

If you asked what he wanted from you, perhaps he simply wishes you well, no pun attended

Yes, maybe he wants the best thing for me and because he can give it to me he set me free to find it in another relationship.
I really don’t know which is the truth and which are the illusions.

In my opinion relations between people are far more complicate than we can imagine. Sometimes we choose to leave one because we believe he/she is strong enough to handle the loose and choose to be with the weak ones. Sometimes we do things for the good of others without taking into account what the other person wants.


maria

 

[maremaria]

jim,
Yes the 48 speaks about an inexhaustible sourse of nourisment but the bucket is broken ! It can not bring the water to us.

Sometimes, IMO, love is not enough to maintain a relation. People should appreciate this gift and take care of it. Its like a well full of fresh water but we have short ropes and broken buckets and we can not reach the water.

Willowfox,
yes,the bucket is broken.

 

[maremaria]

new question

as I wrote in previous post
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QUOTE]Maybe the initial questions don’t stated in a correct manner. I have been thinking that what I had in my mind was “what he wants from me to do given the situation?”[/QUOTE]

“What he wants from me to do, given the situation?”
31.6 > 33

any ideas?

 

[willowfox]

“What he wants from me to do, given the situation?”
31.6 > 33

any ideas?

Hex 31.6 perhaps he wants you to stop talking because it has proved to be a waste of time.

Hex 33 advices you to back off, retreat because you are in an extremely weak position.

 

[Tohpol]

Its only criterion is what makes us feel good. It will always guide us in that direction regardless of our culturally learned systems of right and wrong. The I Ching takes no notice of such things, and only seeks to make us more fulfilled and joyous in our everyday lives.

Sorry Jim, but I nearly choked on my coffee when I read this. I don't doubt your intent to help and we are all learning here - but come on. Genuine spiritual application is quite evidently not just concerned with "making us feel good." If it were merely about making us feel good then any number of sensual delights are on offer to appease the beast or occupy our intellect but wouldn't necessarily allow us to learn much. Can you see Jesus saying: "Here Lord, I just wanna feel good - gimme a break." (who knows perhaps he did )

The point is. all kinds of things can make us feel good but have absolutely nothing to do with knowledge or spirit-reality and therefore won't lead us to True Joy. You get what need for your highest good perhaps - that is not always pleasant or nice.

That is why I base my ideas of right and wrong on what I learn through oracles. If fact, I used to spend a lot of time asking the I Ching and other oracles about moral matters, including sexual conduct and everything else. It was a real eye-opener for me. I also asked a lot of questions about how to best perform divinations, what was the energy that made oracles work in the first place, and all that.

Your point is?

Topal

 

[rosada]

Seems to me the IC is saying he wants YOU to be the well, the one who will always be there for him. If this is true it would explain why even though he is married and essentially told you it's over, you still intuitivly feel he has an interest. This of course does not mean you should expect to ever hear from him, rather it simply explains why you have still feel a connection. Frankly, if this interpretation makes sence to you I would loudly and firmly address him (not to his face, but to the Universe) and say, "I am not your 'well', I am not here for you. Please release any vow I may have made you as I release any you made to me." Or some similar spell breaker. Further, if you find thoughts of him drifting accross your mind sing aloud a few verses of, "No, no, no, it ain't me, Babe!"

Best wishes!

 

[Trojina]

Yeah I think Rosadas interpretation makes alot of sense

 

[maremaria]

Yeah I think Rosadas interpretation makes alot of sense

me too !!!

 

[maremaria]

Seems to me the IC is saying he wants YOU to be the well, the one who will always be there for him. If this is true it would explain why even though he is married and essentially told you it's over, you still intuitivly feel he has an interest. This of course does not mean you should expect to ever hear from him, rather it simply explains why you have still feel a connection. Frankly, if this interpretation makes sence to you I would loudly and firmly address him (not to his face, but to the Universe) and say, "I am not your 'well', I am not here for you. Please release any vow I may have made you as I release any you made to me." Or some similar spell breaker. Further, if you find thoughts of him drifting accross your mind sing aloud a few verses of, "No, no, no, it ain't me, Babe!"

Best wishes!

rosada,
what can I say ? it makes a lot of sence to me.!!!!
that "connection" is one of my fiars. I feel that he will come back again. unless he make me "another offer" ( idon't believe he ever will), I should practicing in that song "No, no, no, it ain't me, Babe!" or in other words take care of my well .

Thanks, thanks, thanks
maria