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Sounds like you are spinning. Hexagram 21, Biting Through to the truth of the matter. Doesn't place a judgement on what the Truth is, just says you will have to crack through something difficult to find it. The implication of 21 to me has been that you are trying to get nourishment by cracking through bones, bringing your teeth together through something that is formidable to deal with. But you can do it; it is possible although perhaps taking great effort, and maybe even painful because bones splinter.
Inside is the marrow of the bone. This is not only softer, but sweet and easier to swallow, it has a lot of nutrition for you. So once you are through the difficulty -- which is going to take some trying -- you are going to have some sustenance.
Breaking up with somebody and believing you will never see them again is a terrible emptying process. And there is nothing, nothing in the beginning anyway, to take the place of something that held such a huge part of your life. This emptiness I have found is the worst part. Here I am, I've thought about this person day in and night out for ages. Now there is -- nothing. And then starts all the hurt, the sadness, the anger, and the self-recrimination: what did I do wrong? At least, that is the usual way.
Now I'm older and whatever moves on in life -- and at my age it isn't a lover so much as a child perhaps who is ready to fly the nest -- means that you will find an empty space. Here is what I find helpful. Rather than railing against that, struggling and crying over the area that now just seems a void I try to think what parts of that association I want to keep, what presence should just stay with me and be part of me. And some of the emptiness I will mourn and where that sadness exists I just let it happen, without any fear or judgement on that process. Just let it go. Because if you rush to put something there, it may be the wrong thing and done out of desperation. What you have written is tremendous I think. Very hard to follow, but your process just put out there, lived and fought through. Write it, sing it, say it, pray it. Let it float downstream. Biting Through can mean a lot of stuff. Sometimes it could be one swift action I suppose, but in my own experience at least, loss comes in layers, it's a spiral and you rise out of the situation, a circle at a time, feeling that you cover the same territory again and again, but remember you are rising to something new.
Wow, your words are insightfu; and beautiful. Thank you!
I feel more and more surrendering. It is a great feelings of acceptance and kind of a veil falling down my eyes.
Yes, I went through the stage of hate and anger, but it is not my personality to stay in those fields of emotions, I want to forgive and forget, specially because I know he is not well emotionally and somehow he really can't do more/better of what he does.The same reason that makes me wanting to forgive him, makes me difficult to let him go, because I know he was trying to give me what he emotially could give me and yes as you say I feel guilty and I know how he feels inside even if I cant see him.
I guess this wanting to remove him from my heart "now" , is trying to burn stages of growth and life, trying to don't feel more that emptiness inside and at same time I know if I would try to evade my feelings I would probably become emotionally unavailable and with a hurt inside that would never heal. Then I want to feel all these feelings, and yes everyday is better.
To read the Iching confuses me at same time allow me to express my emotions and find answers. I write wat I read, I think then I read what I wrote and acceptance its easier. I am fighting is with a feeling that in some moment we will come back. And it is a strong feeling inside. Reading the Iching and writing here the question and searching for answers, allows me to think in a more rational way even the "irrationality " of a reading.
Every day that goes I am capable to focus with more power in my work and my many creative projects, still not as focused as I was but I also can't fight against it, my mind is not totally where it should be. But it will, I am committed to it.
Yes, it is a matter to dont jump stages, to accept it all. It si difficult because I am also concern for his emotional health.
In meantime I read my first reading of today!
Thank you again!
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
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