What if I tell him how I am feeling? 55.4>36

[ladybirdfive]

Hello everyone,

I am new here, not totally new to the IChing, but still definitely a novice when it comes to interpretation. I am currently 18 months out of a 4 year relationship, and still struggling to move on. There are phases when I feel much more independent, and in many ways I have branched out on a whole new part of life now. But on some level I always return to the sense that it's him I want to build a life with. I am wondering whether I should tell him this, in the context of either trying to rekindle something or - if the feelings aren't reciprocated - seek final closure. Having a conversation like this would undoubtedly unsettle the delicate balance I have found of 'managing', but perhaps it might move me on in one way or another. I'm feeling confused about the two parts of this reading, which seem like opposites to me. Any ideas would be so welcome.

Thank you

 

[ShhGeckus]

Hi ladybirdfive,

I got the same reading this morning when I asked how I should approach a catch up conversation with my partner of over 20 years. We've been having cyclical issues for the last few years and we're trying to proactively not go through another round.

I took it to mean that I was more in the dark than I knew but there was information coming that would lift some darkness, but that I should let him go first.

Sure enough he did actually surprise me and had documented some things he'd been working on. I also had documented the way I see and experience one of the recurring issues. We were both a lot clearer after our catch up.

So perhaps you would receive some clarity if you shared how you feel, that would indeed help you move in one direction or another.

 

[ladybirdfive]

Hi ShhGeckus,
Thank you for replying. It sounds like a really useful conversation you had.
On further reflection I realise that of course, a conversation would likely move something. And perhaps the more critical question is whether I'm ready for that movement (say if it's a 'no, never') - so the decision is perhaps more to do with whether I would rather stay in the existing discomfort or risk a greater one by pushing the issue, and whether I feel strongly enough to put myself in a position of potential rejection.