what should i do?

[esolo]

I am loathe to talk about relationship issues in public forums. However, this one has been bothering me so much and for so long that I finally had to ask the IC about it and then bounce it off of anyone willing to listen. It concerns a man with whom I had a very brief but very intense connection with. Nothing happened after that but I haven't been able to stop thinking about him for some reason. Usually, I will put such things down after awhile, but this won't leave me alone. I've done the whole thing with tossing the coins over and over again, asking way too much. Finally, I thought, to hell with this! I will just ask: "What should I do about him?"

19.1 to 7

This answer seems way too positive to be connected with my situation. It seems to suggest that I not give up on this and seems to be saying that I should DO something. The "real" question in the back of my mind when I asked the above question was, "Should I forget about him?"

I then asked, "Why am I so heartbroken over him?"

47.2 to 45

One is oppressed while at meat and drink.
The man with the scarlet knee bands is just coming.
It furthers one to offer sacrifice.
To set forth brings misfortune.
No blame.

This pictures a state of inner oppression. Externally, all is well, one has meat
and drink. But one is exhausted by the commonplaces of life, and there
seems to be no way of escape. Then help comes from a high place. A prince-
in ancient China princes wore scarlet knee bands- is in search of able helpers.
But there are still obstructions to be overcome. Therefore it is important to
meet these obstructions in the visible realm by offerings and prayer. To set
forth without being prepared would be disastrous, though not morally wrong.
Here a disagreeable situation must be overcome by patience of spirit.

I think it's saying that I feel trapped by my circumstances and that I was secretly hoping that he would help me.

 

[rosada]

Hi esolo,
I think 47.2 is refering to how you are feeling right now, the "inner oppression" is your heavy heart. So I think IC is telling you how to get through this rough time. I read it as IC advising you that your feeling bad about this break up is normal, "No blame," but rather than going into detail and dissecting the whys and wherefores of it all, IC is telling you how to get past it. "Offer sacrifice." Give up sugar for a few days? Toss out any momentos? "To set forth brings misfortune." Keep life simple this week? I read, "The man with the scarlet knee bands is just coming," as meaning something or someone is coming into your life. As just who or what the Scarlet Kneeband Man is has been a puzzlement here I hope you'll keep us posted as to what that turns out to be.

Rescue Remedy is great for surviving train wrecks.

P.S. I notice your name contains the word "Solo". Do you think that could be programing your experiences?

 

[magictortoise]

This answer seems way too positive to be connected with my situation.

I think this kind of second guessing is in bad faith with the oracle. Here the book has given you a great reply and because in your own judgment you don't think it is positive you choose to diss it. The I Ching always gives the proper answer despite what we with our finite vision might think/feel.

Hexagram 19 line 1 is a counsel to perseverance where one is at at this moment. Hard to do when we crave to have the feelings resolved so all will be smooth again. In line one we are told to persevere and deal with the feelings. In the end good fortune will come. A way may open after a time where you can see your way clear to set armies marching, that is, act. But now, with all your strong feelings and doubts, after the multitudes of questions to the oracle, maybe it is time to just persevere.

Best regards,

Ken

Ken

 

[willowfox]

"I will just ask: "What should I do about him?"

19.1 to 7"

This says do what you think is right, and take charge of yourself and the situation, use your common sense, it seems better for you to go and find some new friends.

"I then asked, "Why am I so heartbroken over him?"

47.2 to 45"

Hex 47.2 you are too wound up over this guy time to make a sacrifice and find someone else.

Hex 45 You became too involved, too quickly and lost part of yourself in the process, you look to him as if he were from the sky and that has caused your problem.

 

[rosada]

Rereading your own interpretation of 47.2 I am inclined to agree with you, esolo.

One is oppressed while at meat and drink. - You were feeling frustrated with your life situation.

The man with the scarlet kneebands is just coming. - You hoped this man would be able to change the situation, but you had only just begun to get to know him.

It furthers one to offer sacrifice. - You went overboard, expected too much. Need to give up the thoughts of romance?

To set forth brings misfortune. - Because a romance would have been doomed?

No blame. - No blame.

So I Ching is saying you are particulatly disappointed about this failed relationship because you had such high hopes. The good news - I think - is that the line seems to be saying your romantic projection was a fantasy all along, and you need not be concerned that it didn't work out: No blame here.