what to do? hexagram 12.3.4> 53 love

[diidii]

I have a fixed dot. I have an ex that I can't get rid of I always have it in my head. we broke up 4 years ago he showed up through a flirt of mine last year but he's married. we broke up badly and I just want to quit. I asked what should I do to forget about x? hexagram 51 unchanging the noble puts order in his life (yes, but how?) then I asked what should I do with him? hexagram 12.3.4> 53 total panic thanks for who will help me, whit love, D

 

[mandarin_23]

Hi diidii.

The 51 is shocking and shaking - maybe it was a shock for you the way you broke up, but there is no point to get stuck in a shock, but better to keep true to your inner values, what really belongs to you, which can't get lost even if you loose everything else. Basically, you probably don't want to loose this man, this is why you keep him in your mind and in your life.If you can give that away, new things can happen.

The 12 says that things are not moving along. You are stuck indeed. 12.3 hints that there is a development towards the better, "embrace shame", and with 12.4 there is some hope to find a way out of obstruction. "There is a mandate". It is a slow development with the relating hexagram 53, to put things in order.

The change pattern 62/61 might help you to find your way: To be very cautious and correct outside (62) and also generous and truthful in your heart (61). Good to understand what happened, good to forgive.

All the best
Mandarine_23

 

[diidii]

Hi diidii.

The 51 is shocking and shaking - maybe it was a shock for you the way you broke up, but there is no point to get stuck in a shock, but better to keep true to your inner values, what really belongs to you, which can't get lost even if you loose everything else. Basically, you probably don't want to loose this man, this is why you keep him in your mind and in your life.If you can give that away, new things can happen.

The 12 says that things are not moving along. You are stuck indeed. 12.3 hints that there is a development towards the better, "embrace shame", and with 12.4 there is some hope to find a way out of obstruction. "There is a mandate". It is a slow development with the relating hexagram 53, to put things in order.

The change pattern 62/61 might help you to find your way: To be very cautious and correct outside (62) and also generous and truthful in your heart (61). Good to understand what happened, good to forgive.

All the best
Mandarine_23

ok so in this case the lines of 12 are about forgiving and moving on? and what does that 53 as background mean on the question I asked?

 

[Trojina]

I have a fixed dot. I have an ex that I can't get rid of I always have it in my head. we broke up 4 years ago he showed up through a flirt of mine last year but he's married. we broke up badly and I just want to quit. I asked what should I do to forget about x? hexagram 51 unchanging the noble puts order in his life (yes, but how?) then I asked what should I do with him? hexagram 12.3.4> 53 total panic thanks for who will help me, whit love, D

You have a 'fixed dot' ? What does that mean ?

I see no reason for panic. I mean it's annoying being fixated on someone but there's no need to panic about it.


12.3.4>53. There is something to be rightly ashamed of in line 3. I don't know if that's you, him or both of you but both of you engaged in shame worthy behaviour so it's good to hold on to the fact that what you both did was wrong to his wife. 12.4 advises that actually being happy isn't always the most important thing in life. Your satisfaction of desire isn't a priority here.

So I think the answer suggests you hold to the fact that it was wrong, hurting another person like that is wrong so there's no way you can go back into it unless he mans up and leaves her.

 

[marybluesky]

Hello;

yes, I think 51 says you have to collect yourself in the face of the "thunder" that's your feelings for him.

Then what you should do with him- accept the fact that being involved with this married man isn't right, then work with clarity to go out of the situation. Of course it takes time, it's a gradual process.

Good luck

 

[diidii]

You have a 'fixed dot' ? What does that mean ?

I see no reason for panic. I mean it's annoying being fixated on someone but there's no need to panic about it.


12.3.4>53. There is something to be rightly ashamed of in line 3. I don't know if that's you, him or both of you but both of you engaged in shame worthy behaviour so it's good to hold on to the fact that what you both did was wrong to his wife. 12.4 advises that actually being happy isn't always the most important thing in life. Your satisfaction of desire isn't a priority here.

So I think the answer suggests you hold to the fact that it was wrong, hurting another person like that is wrong so there's no way you can go back into it unless he mans up and leaves her.

he has wronged both her and me. to her because she came to interfere in my business and to me because she tried to burn the square, in the sense of interfering in my frequentation. this nail is intended because after many years do such a thing? and then I admit that we broke up very badly, I'd like to end with a peaceful and clarifying chat, no ulterior motives. I asked one more question, will he try to get close to me? hex 51.4 I don't understand the mud thing and in addition I read on the site that many talk about confusion !? of not knowing what to do, is that correct?

 

[diidii]

Hello;

yes, I think 51 says you have to collect yourself in the face of the "thunder" that's your feelings for him.

Then what you should do with him- accept the fact that being involved with this married man isn't right, then work with clarity to go out of the situation. Of course it takes time, it's a gradual process.

Good luck

my mind says: what do you care? my heart has been torturing me for many years, so asked yi what I could do to remove this feeling, which angers me more than anything else because I cannot remove it