What's his fidelity to me like? 23.5

[Gaia99]

Many Blessings Clarity Forum:

I recently fell in love with one of my great friends and we both shared a beautiful deep romance for these past 2 weeks. Very reciprocal. We got into a difficult long drawn out argument yesterday (he couldn't see that he was being emotionaly inconsiderate to me) and he stormed off saying we were done. He proceeded in being a narccessistic A-hole that evening as I attempted to make peace over the phone. Even though he said he still wanted to be with me and loved me...he became very angry and insulting, treating me very poorly. My question was "What's his fidelity to me like?"

23.5
- I read here on this forum that 23.5 can signify various partners and that the fan yao 20 means viewing.
- I believe 23.5 may mean within the ending of a phase you're valued like a palace lady...? Like not number one but an option like a concubine.

...So please someone give it to me straight...Right after he stormed off did he immediately start to look for another girl? flirt? message? arrange a meeting? hook up?

Or is it possible this was done all mentally without initiating any real action?

He did call me 6x today and has been messaging me...I'm playing it cool until I get more clarity

Dam this shit hurts :bag:

Thanks Guys :bows:

P.S. I did get 50.5 for best love advice...sounds promising & redeeming (old handles changing to new ones)

 

[rosada]

Hexagram 23.5

 

[Gaia99]

Rosada Many Thanks!
Unfortunately the link seems to either be broken or I don't have access to that portal.
May you please elaborate or help me brainstorm.
Bless :bows:

 

[diamanda]

What's his fidelity to me like? 23.5 > 20
I believe this means he's still looking around. I would guess he has quite a few offers. I don't believe he's actually doing something (yet), but he's certainly considering other offers. So mentally he's not loyal to you at the moment, not devoted, you're not anyone very special to him yet.

best love advice 50.5 > 44
This combination describes a situation when a beautiful woman (50) makes a move towards the man (50.5) she then becomes a mere sex interest but not girlfriend material (44). So the advice would be to not take the initiative towards him - don't move towards him, whatever that means. E.g. if you usually go to his place, don't do that, it's not to your benefit.

 

[rosada]

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[Gaia99]

Diamanda,

Thank you so much for that thorough breakdown, it rings very true.
Some background: He (age 32) never had a girlfriend before and has had massive trauma with females (mother abandoned him at 6, was raped for sperm, betrayed numerous times)...so that's why it seems like he's not that attached to me but I am the one he loves (within his capacity) and I am his bestfriend.
I am detaching from him for a little over a week to hopefully get him to wake up in learning how to take personal responsibility for his insensitive behavior...but he may just not be ready for a committed relationship...he obviously doesn't know what it takes to keep a woman and I myself am healing from a chronic illness and a recent new illness...I am exhausted and stressed out. So yes indeed I am taking NO initiatives with him...I am responding minimally to his incessant calling/texting but I let go of the effort for my own health, thats his job. Thank you so much for your time Bless.

Rosada!

Excellent that was very kind, thank you for taking the time in breaking that down! Bless