will I get a girlfriend this year> Hex 7?

[krish42]

I asked the i-ching if id get a girlfriend this year and it casted hexagram 7, which is discipline. Does that mean if I am disciplined or consistent in looking for one, I will find one?

 

[willowfox]

A man can find a woman, a small boy will have many problems.

 

[krish42]

That's funny and stupid at the same time. Of course a man can find a woman. And of course a small boy will have problems.

 

[simon ian]

The problems kick in when he is both, and they are out of balance. I speak from experience. I have a touch of it myself.
Read the Legge original translations of the hex. The link is on the site. each hex is a highly distilled package of many options, based in a common theme. It seems to function like sentient quantum physics. Wisdom concentrated to a devine degree. Funny or stupid it aint.

 

[willowfox]

That's funny and stupid at the same time. Of course a man can find a woman. And of course a small boy will have problems.

Then think carefully about what I said before replying.

 

[krish42]

Kind of what simon was saying. It's out of balance, and I don't know how to go about fixing it. I've had this problem through high school and through college. Mentally, I am very mature, so I guess mentally I am like a man? But, physically I have a tiny body frame and face and people often times say a look like a little boy. Very rarely do I find a girl is actually attracted to me only when I'm wearing my big winter coat and have a bottle of beer in my hands.

 

[simon ian]

You have a big heart and a big spirit, you are a man all right.

Now you must project your real self, through this illusion of body.

You can do this, you are here already.

You will find a woman. No doubt. And she will be worth having by any "man"

Ask the oracle how you can grow spiritually. Or even ask questions based on perceptions of manhood vis a vis your present situation. It wont mess you about. They like people like you.

They dont mind humour. To be light hearted when you consult can be advantageous. I am always put in mind of a Woody Allen description of casting the I Ching I read 30 years ago.
" I was having you know..problems. So I consulted the I Ching. "What should I do", I got, "buzz off Jewboy" "

Im Jewish on my mothers side BTW, so I could see the sublime humour there. No offence meant to any.

 

[pocossin]

. . . I have a tiny body frame and face and people often times say a look like a little boy. Very rarely do I find a girl is actually attracted to me only when I'm wearing my big winter coat and have a bottle of beer in my hands.

You don't need the body armor of a big coat and a bottle of beer. Napoleon was a small man. In spite of your self image, probably women find you cute. Talk to them and you'll see.

 

[ginnie]

There's someone for everybody.

When I get the unchanging hexagram 7, to me that means to put aside my narrow personal point of view and make an attempt to see what other people want.

To relate to Person Y, it might be useful to find out what really matters to Person Y.

Another name for H7 is "Collective Action." People getting together to do something worthwhile. It takes all types to build a collective force (even of two people) that can accomplish something significant.

So, in my view, becoming a more tolerant person -- not so preoccupied with perceived personal failings like short stature, for example -- is part of that.

 

[willowfox]

There's someone for everybody.

Well, the "Elephant man" never found himself a woman.

 

[ginnie]

The Elephant Man

The Elephant Man (vhs):

Amazon.com video review: You could only see his eyes behind the layers of makeup, but those expressive orbs earned John Hurt a well-deserved Oscar nomination for his moving portrayal of John Merrick, the grotesquely deformed Victorian-era man better known as The Elephant Man. Inarticulate and abused, Merrick is the virtual slave of a carnival barker (Freddie Jones) until dedicated London doctor Frederick Treves (Anthony Hopkins in a powerfully understated performance) rescues him from the life and offers him an existence with dignity. Anne Bancroft costars as the actress whose visit to Merrick makes him a social curiosity, with John Gielgud and Wendy Hiller as dubious hospital staffers won over by Merrick. David Lynch earned his only Oscar nominations as director and cowriter of this somber drama, which he shot in a rich black-and-white palette, a sometimes stark, sometimes dreamy visual style that at times recalls the offbeat expressionism of his first film, Eraserhead. It remains a perfect marriage between traditional Hollywood historical drama and Lynch's unique cinematic eye, a compassionate human tale delivered in a gothic vein. The film earned eight Oscar nominations in all, and though it left the Oscar race empty-handed, its dramatic power and handsome yet haunting imagery remain just as strong today. --Sean Axmaker

 

[ginnie]

But didn't even The Hunchback of Notre Dame have a love interest?

I am not as up on the movies as Willowfox and have to google them sometimes to 'get' the reference, but still -- for most people who are not grossly disfigured and working in a freak show of a carnival or circus -- I mean the querant is not part of a pair of Siamese Twins, is he?

Even male Siamese twins sometimes have gotten married and sired families, despite the unimaginable handicap of being joined at the hip ...

Lots of things are possible. It definitely could happen ...

 

[pocossin]

Well, the "Elephant man" never found himself a woman.

For every Elephant Man there's an Elephant Lady, isn't there?

 

[diamanda]

Not necessarily. Otherwise words like 'spinster' and 'bachelor' wouldn't exist.

 

[Tohpol]

I think it can be simplistic to say that everyone will find someone in their lives. But Hex 7 shows very much that if you take charge of the army i.e. the inner army (that need not have anything at all to do with the physical body) then it is far more likely you'll find your particular match in any one life.

I think Hex 7 is the spiritual warrior Hex and it can be a very tough road indeed but the fruits of the battle - which is largely with oneself and how we react to these obstacles - can be very great. How can we expect to find that wonderful complementarity if we are not prepared to work on ourselves to create those inner conditions which are then reflected and magnetised by the other? Few people are precisely because it does take time.

So, while the physical body is important and it can SEEM to override other concerns, living as we do in such a bodycentric society, it shouldn't be the focus. If it is just sex and affection you want then it is relatively easy to obtain that. Plenty of how to books out there to meet women. Attraction is part of it yes, but confidence and humour are far more important. It really depends on what deep choices you are prepared to make. What is your REAL focus here?

In summary, I think 7 is saying hang in there and do not live in the past. Be strong, follow the highest principles you can and be ready to endure a period of austerity that will eventually pass. Don't do anything rash or impulsive but slowly build your centre and thus allowing the potential for her to arrive. But she won't if your inner resources are non-existent or chaotic. You could get a mirror image of that chaos in a woman who may then show you that it is FAR better to be alone for a while and to wait for the right one than to end up trapped and unhappy. The chemical seduction soon wears off. Life has a habit of giving you want you want if you force it...But if you let it happen naturally and disengage from the desire, trust the Universe and it will provide in extraordinary ways. Faith and patience will get you there.

Topal

 

[gato]

if you judge based on a single hex you will be wrong most of the times. it could be ," you fool, the girl of your dreams is next to you, open your eyes" or "you fool, to know how to take a woman brings good fortune". you never know ( although based on the tone of your question i would bet my money on second option. set yourself higher goals, ask will i get a new girlfriend in the next few hours or something )

 

[willowfox]

For every Elephant Man there's an Elephant Lady, isn't there?

No.

 

[ginnie]

I know a man who's been saying fervently that he wants to get married -- for the past 40 years. He is now old and gray, and he's still saying he wants to get married. On top of that, he says he wants to marry a young woman and start a family.

What is wrong with this picture? I think that deep down he's a loner. But in his religion, all men are supposed to get married and have children. A lot of people are genuine loners, and I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Why does everybody have to be in a relationship -- especially if down deep they really don't want one?

Sometimes there is external pressure from parents or religions or the popular media. But those are weak motivators these days.

On the other hand, a person who genuine desires close companionship will, I think, attract someone sooner or later.

 

[pocossin]

No.

Reality is not so harsh as the film.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Elephant_Man_(film)

 

[willowfox]

Reality is not so harsh as the film.

I disagree, reality can be harsh as well as deadly.

 

[gato]

No.

what sort of books are you reading ?? ... all of them finish with pink hearts and fireworks

 

[willowfox]

what sort of books are you reading ?? ... all of them finish with pink hearts and fireworks

I don't read books, I just go outside my box and talk to real people.