Will the relationship get better? 26.2.4.5.6 > 49

[summermoon]

Hello lovely people, I need your help with the following reading.
For context, I have been in a long distance relationship for three years. There was a lot of trauma between us at some point (cheating, lies, drama) but that’s in the past and we were able to reconnect at the end of last year. Since then we visited each other few times, the last visit was in June and we spent the most amazing and beautiful month together.
However. My partner returned to their home country and since then things went downhill. It got from bad to worse and we are now somewhat broken up again at their request but still talk. Everything I say irritates my partner and they now have no issue with yelling at me on the phone, hanging up on me and being rude. I can’t recognise the person anymore . I know my insecurities and anxious attachment had a role to play in all this and I made a commitment to change this. I am starting therapy and doing my best to exercise patience and continue to show care and love. I love this person a lot and when we are together, it feels magical but the distance, their short temper with me and their busy schedule have now pretty much destroyed the relationship. We had plans to visit again in October and then spend Christmas together but I’m still waiting for them to confirm dates so I can book a flight and they’re avoiding this. This all went downhill in the past two months since they went back home and I feel terribly hurt and confused.
So I asked the IC if the relationship will get better and I received 26.2.4.5.6 leading to 49. I’m confused. On the one hand it could read that I need to be patient and continue to exercise restraint and it could lead to radical changes for the better. Or if I completely remove myself from the situation as line 2 suggests , meaning that I breakup for good and go full no contact and block them, this could lead to them reevaluating how they’ve treated me and thus change occurs. Another possibility is that the radical change is the real end of the relationship, which I don’t want and I’m in two minds if I should risk it.
Another reading I did yesterday asking if we will reconcile I received hex 10, which isn’t very encouraging.
I’m really struggling because going away for good will be unbearable. I had hopes that I’ll see my partner again this year, after the most amazing time we recently spent together and them turning 180 straight after , nothing makes sense anymore.
I will really appreciate your thoughts on this one. Thank you in advance!

 

[Hans_K]

Hi Summermoon,

So I asked the IC if the relationship will get better and I received 26.2.4.5.6 leading to 49.

As I see it, the Yi does not give a yes or no answer to your question, but rather a condition that must be met for the relationship to improve. So it is more of a yes, provided...

H26 is the hexagram of great (self) control. H49 of revolution, transformation.
Together they show the image you describe. Him being friendly and kind when you are together and rude and cruel when you are not together.
The text of the Image of H26 advises people to examine past words and actions in order to improve themselves. Here is the advice to engage in self-examination and improve oneself. Given your description, you may assume this is advice to him.

Heaven turns into Fire because of the moving line at the 2nd position.
Heaven out of balance is a brooder and selfish, this is caused by fears and insecurities leading to arrogance and unpleasant behaviour. Fire here asks to face these feelings, to face the truth and acknowledge whatis going on.

Mountain turns into its opposite Lake. From closed and protecting (Mountain) to openness and (mutual) communication (Lake).
So the feelings suppressed in H26 must be honestly and clearly exposed (H49). H49 deals with a situation where the old no longer functions and so something new needs to be introduced.
The nuclear hexagram of H26 is H54. This hexagram is about crossing a boundary and that crossing is irreversible.

To summarise, I would see this response as a situation that you should no longer tolerate and that if you want to continue the relationship, he should first deal with his inner demons and change his behaviour.

This would be my interpretation. As always, take what resonates and leave the rest

 

[summermoon]

Hello Hans and thank you for the input.
As it stands of last night, I made the decision to go away and blocked them. This is after I was told again that they don’t want to date me and don’t want to book the promised trips. I just had enough and I think this is the Radical Change. Perhaps this action of mine will force them to change something too but who knows.
They don’t seem to accept their own part in what led us to this point and don’t want to work on the relationship as a couple so I have no choice but to accept this. My heart is breaking because I know how much I invested, how much I gave and the scraps I accepted. Today I asked the IC if we are over for good and got 45uc. Still mulling over this.

 

[my_key]

Hi summermoon
Radical Change is very often what is needed as you begin tosee things more clearly and move from what was through to what is yet to come.

Today I asked the IC if we are over for good and got 45uc. Still mulling over this.

45 speaks of the 'Great Works' that you are engaging with now after invoking 'Radical Change' into your life and how you view this relationship. This is a time for you to collect and gather your thoughts and feelings and mould them into a new form as you embark on a period of transformation. It calls on you to make an offering or a sacrifice, especially within your inner world of thoughts and feelings. Through doing this you will be rewarded and succeed in speeding up the transformation process.

Remember, this is now a time for you. Set yourself a new direction for your life and then bring people together that will support you in walking this path. Things may not go all as you had hoped, so prepare yourself for possible setbacks and don't be afraid to stand up for yourself should circumstance call upon you to. Always strive to stay calm and collected and you will not go far wrong.

... or there may be other interpretations that still sit more comfortably with you.

Good Luck.

 

[summermoon]

Hi summermoon
Radical Change is very often what is needed as you begin tosee things more clearly and move from what was through to what is yet to come.

45 speaks of the 'Great Works' that you are engaging with now after invoking 'Radical Change' into your life and how you view this relationship. This is a time for you to collect and gather your thoughts and feelings and mould them into a new form as you embark on a period of transformation. It calls on you to make an offering or a sacrifice, especially within your inner world of thoughts and feelings. Through doing this you will be rewarded and succeed in speeding up the transformation process.

Remember, this is now a time for you. Set yourself a new direction for your life and then bring people together that will support you in walking this path. Things may not go all as you had hoped, so prepare yourself for possible setbacks and don't be afraid to stand up for yourself should circumstance call upon you to. Always strive to stay calm and collected and you will not go far wrong.

... or there may be other interpretations that still sit more comfortably with you.

Good Luck.

Thank you . This makes a lot of sense. I feel that internally I am going through the radical change and doing my best to gather my thoughts and feelings. I was hoping that 45 will bring us together somehow and they have made attempts at contact via email but I don’t know how to feel about that. As far as gathering people and resources, I have very few people around me and feel isolated a lot of the time.

 

[my_key]

Thank you . This makes a lot of sense. I feel that internally I am going through the radical change and doing my best to gather my thoughts and feelings. I was hoping that 45 will bring us together somehow and they have made attempts at contact via email but I don’t know how to feel about that. As far as gathering people and resources, I have very few people around me and feel isolated a lot of the time.

It's important to take you time in these situations and allow feelings to become clearer.
The feeling of isolation is one of the biggest scourges in our modern society: it drives many a poor choice. I hope you find the resources and courage to reduce the impact that the feeling of isolation has on your life. Perhaps this will be a major aspect of the 'Great Works' that you are being invited to engage with.

 

[summermoon]

Hi summermoon
Radical Change is very often what is needed as you begin tosee things more clearly and move from what was through to what is yet to come.

45 speaks of the 'Great Works' that you are engaging with now after invoking 'Radical Change' into your life and how you view this relationship. This is a time for you to collect and gather your thoughts and feelings and mould them into a new form as you embark on a period of transformation. It calls on you to make an offering or a sacrifice, especially within your inner world of thoughts and feelings. Through doing this you will be rewarded and succeed in speeding up the transformation process.

Remember, this is now a time for you. Set yourself a new direction for your life and then bring people together that will support you in walking this path. Things may not go all as you had hoped, so prepare yourself for possible setbacks and don't be afraid to stand up for yourself should circumstance call upon you to. Always strive to stay calm and collected and you will not go far wrong.

... or there may be other interpretations that still sit more comfortably with you.

Good Luck.

Thank you for the kind words. I’ve received several emails from them asking to unblock them and talk. I did so and still waiting for that communication, even though I don’t know what else is there to say anymore. They want friendship but I’m not in a space where I feel I can do this. I will wait and hear what they have to say and then make up my mind for good. I might be delusional in hoping that Gathering together will bring us actually together and we will see each other .

 

[summermoon]

Hello Hans and thank you for the input.
As it stands of last night, I made the decision to go away and blocked them. This is after I was told again that they don’t want to date me and don’t want to book the promised trips. I just had enough and I think this is the Radical Change. Perhaps this action of mine will force them to change something too but who knows.
They don’t seem to accept their own part in what led us to this point and don’t want to work on the relationship as a couple so I have no choice but to accept this. My heart is breaking because I know how much I invested, how much I gave and the scraps I accepted. Today I asked the IC if we are over for good and got 45uc. Still mulling over this.

Hans, apologies that I responded just with another comment and not a direct reply. Thanks for the input