wondering how our separate 2 households will resolve

[solidaj]

My partner and I for 6 months have lived apart (100 miles) only seeing each other on weekends if we're lucky because he moved for a better job. My job here at home isn't all that fantastic and I could leave it without much regret, but I don't really like where my partner moved to. We're both miserable and lonely during the week without each other.

I really tried to come up with a general question around this situation and I ended up asking...

What will happen now with B and I living in two different places?

My reading resulted in 4 with 1 and 2 changing then changing to 27

youthful folly to nourishment?

I'm not sure what to make of this.

 

[rosada]

Well 4.1 certainly suggests the distance is a real restriction and the relationship can't develop under these circumstances. 4.2 Makes me think anything is possible, but also again that living so far apart limits the friendship developing into a more mature partnership - it's sort of stuck at the playing at being partners like little kids who play house. 27. Sounds like you do nourish each other. Sooo...what will happen with the two of you living so far apart? You'll continue talking about possibilities but the relationship can't really develop beyond that under these circumstances.

4.2 Particularly suggests people being sort of childish in their approach and possibly the need for a more mature evaluation of the situation. Like the I Ching is saying, "Face the facts. A relationship can only go so far when you live this far apart."
Maybe 27 is encouraging you to discuss what nourishes you and what does not. As the big stumbling block seems to be that you don't like the city where your friend lives maybe you could find a way to like it after all. Discuss the pros and cons..

 

[solidaj]

thank you rosada - your comment "maybe you could find a way to like it after all" hits home - he wasn't unreasonable about leaving - it was a better opportunity for him professionally - and these days when we're <10 years from retirement - we're trying to make sure we're set

thanks again

 

[Vissino]

Hello Solidah,

I think he needs you. He is "hungry" for you and you must satisfy his need. You must meet each other more often

 

[solidaj]

you're right - we both daily talk on the phone of how we miss each other - but he definitely more than me misses the cohabitation

what sort of question would I ask - I want to ask...should I move there? or will he move back here? both of these sound too specific

 

[ginnie]

If you want to ask 'Should I move there?', I think that's exactly what you need to ask.