Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).
13.6->49 things will progress at the right time but is not near future
Forgive me for stereotyping, but straight guys that I've known don't spend too much time beating around the bush for no apparent reason.
Well, I don't think that's your problem in this case.
If you don't want to just ask him, in a gentle way, yourself, then it seems you are choosing to continue wondering about it indefinitely. I don't understand this, but I recognize that many people prefer to do things this way.
Just FYI, my version of 13.6 has: Her beloved is in a distant frontier region--no regret. Commentary: This is not what was desired.
Further commentary: In Chinese history, it often happened that a man was drafted and sent far away to a frontier region from which he could not be expected to return for many years. In this case, his beloved has enough wisdom to give up repining, since the case is a hopeless one. The implication is that we should not repine.
Stupidly I phoned the next day. I actually phoned not to talk about my party but to tell him i had feelings for him. I planned/wrote out a speech... i didnt get to say it bc he had to go immediately, bc he normally makes a phonecall overseas to his family at that time each Sunday & it was already late where they are. He said he would ph one back and never did.
I decided the worst thing I can do now is tell him how i feel. Bc i have been misreading signals all along.
I had thought after two flower deliveries from him (3 weeks ago) and more attention out of the blue he was interested. I now believe I was just reading ito it what i wanted. I have struggled with this (as many of you on the forum know) and I do not know what i am doing wrong. I am trying to guess the rules of the game, but they are not written anywhere. I thought it would be OK to call and treat him like a friend, but the calling has pushed him away (even tho it was only 2 calls). I have never just phoned a guy out of the blue like this and was nervous as heck, my heart POUNDING when I dialed the number. But previous readings had suggested he is scared or shy and doesnt know i'm interested adn to make it safer i should do something to bridge the gap. I thought building a friendship with a convo would help. Now that seems to have been wrong.
Also: "People in the "countryside" appear all the same outwardly but inwardly they are not. To accept this in close relationships is very difficult since we want to be inwardly close as well. I got this line when asking about exactly this to someone I am very close .
He did say after I thanked him for flowers "that is what friends are for." So its clearly MY BIG FAT problem that no one else has given me flowers unless they're dating me or in love with me. And no one else gave me flowers for my surgery, not even my girlfriends. The most i got was an email "if you need anything" and that was fine. So i was floored with the flowers. Not once but TWICE.
But that's America. He's not American...where he comes from its still kind of a sign (of not just friendship) to give flowers. But given my foot surgery, it *could be seen* jsut as a friendly gesture. But again its my problem that i have no other male or female friends who did for me what he did... so of course i jump to believing there is something there.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).