Hi everyone,

Lately it seems that every answer the Y gives me is a uncannily perfect photograph of my situation, but I cant figure out the advice in it. I stopped asking futurology questions because it was damaging and now just ask "what is the best course of action" or "what is your best advice" and the likes. But again and again they mirror me perfectly what is going on - but not what to do.

Concrete reading : Given the current scenario between G and I, what is my best course of action from now on ?

45 (3,4) > 39

the current scenario is that we work together, I had feelings for him but after many times back and forth and back and forth I realize he would never give me any stability and drew a clear line. I made it clear we are now working partners and emotionally I have to keep a distance.
The full separation story is here. It includes a beautiful ending in a thunderstorm (51!)


The problem is that I am having a hard time. He not only respects my instructions as he is exaggerating on the super cold treatment, he doesnt even include me in work mails any longer - I feel really bad, to be honest.

So I received the answer above, 45 to 39, which is a beautiful photograph of "Obstructions to Coming Together", line 3 even talks about my feelings of inadequacy and humiliation, but I cant figure out which direction to take.

Line 3 changes to 31 and line 4 to 8, so all in all we are talking about a reciprocal and uniting process, or not ? But 39 prevails now. Should I look into dissolving obstacles or let it go ?
Which major promise holds line 4 ? 45.4>8 I just see proximity...

am I just looking for what I want to see or is the Y actually giving me advice here ?

what do you see ?

thank u
Yoana

Given the current scenario between G and I, what is my best course of action from now on ?
45.3.4 > 39


In line 3 there is difficulty in gathering together, the present circumstance. In line 4 there is a return to sociability and good fortune. Obstruction or Difficulty in Advancing (39) is also a new beginning, the new definition of the relationship between you and G.

G seems to be piqued that you drew lines and is perhaps taking your instructions too literally in order to punish you. If work mails are important for the performance of your job, you could ask G to send them to you, or perhaps better, ask another co-worker to forward them to you. Since 39 is a temporary obstruction, water will again flow down the mountain and a modus vivendi be achieved.

45 suggests that you have something that others want and that's why people will get together. 39 points out a best course of action: enrich yourself what he needs, increase your ability, humour, charming... We can see that you are in his net and cannot pull yourself out. Hence, Yi suggests that you knit your own web and wait.

Wilma

thank u both.

pocossin said:

In line 3 there is difficulty in gathering together, the present circumstance. In line 4 there is a return to sociability and good fortune. Obstruction or Difficulty in Advancing (39) is also a new beginning, the new definition of the relationship between you and G.

G seems to be piqued that you drew lines and is perhaps taking your instructions too literally in order to punish you. If work mails are important for the performance of your job, you could ask G to send them to you, or perhaps better, ask another co-worker to forward them to you. Since 39 is a temporary obstruction, water will again flow down the mountain and a modus vivendi be achieved.

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I also tended to read it that way, but most likely the Y is mirroring me my wish to come together after resolving obstacles than actually any scenario. He is really taking steps to cut me away from all that relates to him, and I suppose this story really ends here.

anyway I had done just that - another colleague sends me his mails (how silly is that?). But nevertheless I still feel this answer doesnt seem to address directly my request for practical advise - or does it?

From both your contributions, pocossin and Wilma, it seems that u derive from the reading a sort of "stay in your center and whatever it is will come to you" kind of advise. Maybe the problem is that I was expecting from the Y clearer instructions on whether radically "cut all bonds to him" or "follow him like there was no tomorrow" and maybe the best advice is somewhat in the middle.
The toughest place for me, admittedly.

The way he ignores me makes me feel lousy.
and perhaps there is no further advice the Y can give me towards that except the one we all already know…
self-love.


Pufff.
Thank u both:
Yoana

yoana said:

The way he ignores me makes me feel lousy.

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He knows that.

and perhaps there is no further advice the Y can give me towards that except the one we all already know…
self-love.

Pufff.

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You want a business relationship but not a personal relationship. Obstruction (39) works both ways. Isn't there something in the business he needs from you? Doesn't he need your work emails? Supposed he doesn't get them for a while and then he might change his ways Or, you might take it to a higher level. If you both work under supervision, You might notify the supervisor that you are not receiving needed work emails. There's no obstruction without a work-around.

OUTCOME:
( EIGHT MONTHS LATER)

Before entering 2012 I've decided to answer unanswered mail, go over the small tasks in the to-do list that never get done, give stuff away and - bring my I CHING online posts to a closure.

Im trying to go over everything I've posted in this forum to confirm that I always posted the Outcome. A lot of people never do and I find that a pity, it would be brilliant to know how some answers played out for each specific situation.

In this case!

Given the current scenario between G and I, what is my best course of action from now on ?
45 (3,4) > 39

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At this time we were avoiding each other and he was giving me the cold treatment. Then we had several cycles of talking things out and becoming super close, then again conflict and withdrawal, and again getting close, and again... u get the picture.

The way out of 39 was work-based. He always come back to me with a project, we did something together, it went great, the friendship reflourished.

The fact was we make a good team and he really likes me as a co-worker and i always wanted something more. I never got it, he is just ot interested, but from the moment I was ok with beings his friends things found peace and now we have a scarce but loving contact. All is good.

Thanks,
Y