Hi forever helpfuls,

There is no doubt about it - every man I attract into my life has or had addiction/s of some kind and still has addictive behaviours whether they have kicked their substance abuse or not and/or is emotionally unavailable and lately it is also men who have not got over their last relationship whether it is a short or long time since their breakup.

Is this all the men there is really available to me to form a relationship with or is it something I have to work through in myself to stop attracting this 'type'?

What steps can I take to attract emotional and mentally healthy men into my life

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Line 4 - it has been over 3 years since I formed any long lasting relationship

Seems like something needs to be sorted but I can't really get any clarity from this answer.

thks Liss

What steps can I take to attract emotional and mentally healthy men into my life?
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You have let go 20 kilos, but have you let go the spirit of the past? The physical is easy, the psychological not so easy. Your ex was into drugs or alcohol wasn't he? At least, that's how I remember it. Aren't you just recreating the past in your new relationships? Really, you need to split off part of yourself, that part that attracts you to men who are like your ex. You need to redefine yourself -- get out of old ruts, go to different places, and associate with a different kind of people. Focus on the practical. Stop being satisfied with the familiar. Make change slowly, and you'll get to somewhere else. Haven't been there, but my impression is that Australia is full of down-to-earth men and brilliant women.

Thanks pocossin, you are totally right and your words make perfect sense to me, possibly in a number of areas of my life, and I have been trying to work out in my mind the best way to 'remove this sticky icky stuff' I have been carrying since way back.

I feel a move to a new area would at least help kick start me off as the area in which I live attracts a lot of alternative people and definitely substance abusers as well as the mental health people that are a result of the substance abuse. Energetically I believe this then has fall out on others like me.

But I have been attempting to move out of this area since December last year but for some reason I am still here.

Til something changes I will take flower essences to help me make those changes within.

- Liss