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This is the place of transition. We no longer look outward to receive pictures that are more or less limited and confused, but direct out contemplation upon ourselves in order to find a guideline for our decisions. This self-contemplation means the overcoming of naive egotism in the person who sees everything solely form his own standpoint. He begins to reflect and in this way acquires objectivity. However, self-knowledge does not mean preoccupation with one's own thoughts; rather, it means concern about the effects one creates. It is only the effects our lives produce that give us the right to judge whether what we have done means progress or regression.
It's been over a year now. It's way passed the time frame all the psychic told me that I would have found a boyfriend. I feel so lonely, frustrated and disappointed. I asked iching again today. I got Hex 20 to hex 53. Bad result again. Is it this a punishment? Am I that unattractive? I am so depressed about the whole situation right now.
. Is it this a punishment? Am I that unattractive? I am so depressed ...
The I Ching said that having a boyfriend is something you can either do or not do, as required by circumstances. Yet you seem to feel powerless, as if this is not under your control. There seems to be a misperception here, perhaps of your own attractiveness ... ? Perhaps deep down you really do not want a boyfriend now? There is certainly a mystery in Yi's answer.
You choose not to have a boyfriend right now thats all. You don't recognise that its your choice and imagine its punishment.....bizarrely
IMO this line means "you make your own mind up, you can, you can decide". Part of you decided not to, part of you is making a choice.
Hi star123,
if you (or anybody) feels depressed, one feels tempted to punish oneself.
You ask your brain: am i unattractive? Your brain will compare yourself with the beauties on earth and of course you are unattractive - like millions other btw. You aks your brain: why for sake do i stay single? Your brain circles around and has to find some answers - of course ones that explain it all. By the end of the day you are: dumb, dull, unattractive, too fat, too poor, too tall, too small :bag: ... and so on...
You abuse your brain with questions it can not answer positively. This is not auspicious in my mind. LiSe wrote (and i think this is along the line):
Look to what your own life is and needs, and let your advancing and withdrawing be decided by that. Not by rules, custom, demands of others, fear, reactions, whatever. Live, and make sure that you really live.
http://www.yijing.nl/i_ching/index.html
I don't see how this is a bad result. Have you read the Wilhelm/Baynes commentary for that line, it could be extremely fitting:
I don't think there's much else to be said... that commentary really sums it up. But I'll also add some line-stuff, which I've been having success with lately. lines 5 and 6 are the rulers, which represent you as the subject. They represent a resolute contemplation of everything in your life. Through this line 3 changes from night to day, and the 5th ruler stays while the 6th ruler moves to line 2, meaning an accord between your inner and outer... but it was there the whole time! The 3rd line moved, not the second. It was always only a matter of perspective. Plus, 53 has as one of its symbols a girl getting married, very auspicious for this line of questioning.
20.3 "Contemplation of my life, Decides the choice, Between advance and retreat"
Carefully think back, in your past.
In what manner exactly did you acquire boyfriend(s) in the past?
Remember, and follow the same steps.
Eg if you usually meet them at bars, go to bars, if at work, hang out with colleagues, if during sport, do more sport etc. Think and remember what works for you, remember in what type of situations you get lucky.
The resulting 53 is very promising!
Ginnie: I do want a boyfriend. I feel so lonely. I don't need a man, but I need love.
the responding hex 53.3 is very inauspicious, the man left but didn't return.
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