There was this girl who was a classmate of mine in high school whom I used to find attractive, but did not go forward with building a relationship.

After 20 years she initiated contact with me through facebook and it brought back memories of the wonder years. We continue to be in touch for over a year now, exchaging innocuous messages. We are both married (not to each other) and have families. I feel guilty about thinking of her in a romantic sense now but at the same time cannot eliminate the feeling of being attracted to her. I do not know if she feels the same.

When I asked the YI - what if I started a romantic relationship with her?

the reply was 10 ( 2,4 changing) -> 42

Does mean that if I go ahead there could be a soul/spiritual learning for both of us?

What if I started a romantic relationship with her?

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10.2.4(Treading carefully, conduct) -> 42(Increasing)

Hex 10 speaks of proper social conduct.
Line 2 (Wilhelm): "Treading a smooth, level course. The perseverance of a dark man brings good fortune."
You have smooth road ahead of you, be content with it, why change something?

Line 4: "He treads on the tail of the tiger. Caution and circumspection lead ultimately to good fortune."
Yi warns you: Don't wake the tiger!, be careful of what you about to do.

Maybe I'm biased by my moral values taught to me by society, but Why do you want to engage in a romantic relationship with a married woman? You both have families, what would you think will happen to both of them if you proceed?

In this key I think 42 speaks of sacrificing the balance (hex 12, 3 yang lines above, 3 yin below), removing the top yang line and throwing it down to the base, so it can grow into something new.

I can understand a little, tiny, controlled fling, get together, just of curiosity. To catch up and just talk.

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出生时间：年　性别：男　
起卦时间：2013年12月15日02时23分
起卦农历：癸巳年十一月十三日丑时
神煞：天乙—子申　福星—丑亥　日禄—卯　羊刃—寅　驿马—巳　桃花—子　华盖—未
干支：癸巳年　甲子月　乙卯日　丁丑时
旬空：午未　　戌亥　　子丑　　申酉


六神　 伏神 　　　艮宫：天泽履　(10)　　　　　　　　巽宫：风雷益 (42)
　　　　　　　　　【本　卦】　　　　　　　　　　　【变　卦】
玄武　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　兄弟壬戌土　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　官鬼辛卯木　应
白虎　妻财丙子水　▅▅▅▅▅　子孙壬申金　世　　　▅▅▅▅▅　父母辛巳火　　驿马
滕蛇　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　父母壬午火　　○→　▅▅　▅▅　兄弟辛未土　　
勾陈　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　兄弟丁丑土　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　兄弟庚辰土　世
朱雀　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　官鬼丁卯木　应○→　▅▅　▅▅　官鬼庚寅木　　
青龙　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　父母丁巳火　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　妻财庚子水　　

Hexagram 10 has one female (yin) line at line 3 and five male (yang) line. This female has many male friends. This reflects a female sex object naked. Man fall for her. Many men in this case.

10.5: Line 5 is you who thinks of her (her soul line at line 5, child line shen metal). It is a yang line.

10.2; line 2 is her who thinks of you (officer, mao wood). It is a yang line.

Yang line 10.2 and 10.5 do not have chemistry (yang to yang interaction). Difference cannot be resolved.

10.5 has a hidden wife line behind. You are married. The wife line zi water is the same as the month zi water. This is a real wife. Zi water is empty under your house of relationship. You lose touch with your spouse, but she is real.

Officer line is moving back one step from 10.2 mao wood to yin wood. This is also the career related line. The officer line is moving back. You will not be on her mind with time.

Line 10.4 is a marriage relationship line and will become strong in 2014 (wu fire). This change line 10.4 becomes 42.4 wei earth. The relationship is moving onto someone else because 42.4 is a sibling line (third party). This means you or her have someone else and not each other.

Line 10.2 and line 10.5 are white tiger and bird. This means you two have differences and disagreement on issues.

Line 42.5 is the relationship line with si fire. This is the movement line. The relationship will end.
Line 42.6 is the officer line yin wood. Line 6 means moving on.

From the above analysis,

1. You will not be with her in a relationship.

2. She is with someone else.

3. 10.3 is sibling chou earth which is the empty element under your house of spouse. This means no holding hands, hug and kisses. In addition, line 3 is not the movement line. You cannot even come close.

4. Line 10.5 with the hidden line wife line with fling on it. Keep your spouse. She cares about you.