Hello everyone,
your help would be much appreciated with these readings I've done recently.

My partner and I have had lots of ups and downs. My partner can be very fearful of commitment but we love each other dearly. A couple of weeks ago I really wasn't sure whether I could stay in the relationship so my partner (who I think sensed that I meant it this time) suggested we have a breather for 1 week. He was in touch every night to say goodnight, that he missed me etc and already wanted to meet up half way through the 'break'. We agreed to meet after about 10 days. I felt this was a good thing for both of us and for the first time , I think he knows that as much as I love him, things need to change or I'll have to go.

My first reading was around the question what do I need to know about the situation now? and got Hex 32 changing lines 1 and 6 > Hex 14. My instinct with these lines was that he does want to commit to me but that I shouldn't expect any immediate results and that I should stop worrying about this so much as it's not helping! We are supposed to go on holiday in a couple of weeks time, so I also interpreted Hex 14 to symbolise this (it always comes up when I go on holiday) and the fact that things can get better.

We met yesterday and I can absolutely feel the love he has for me, but I know he needs to sort stuff out in his mind about commitment and his fear of not being good enough for me (he's said that before), so I thought about the changing lines in 32 and it made perfect sense. Not sure if I am interpreting this correctly. I do know he is a slow mover, a thinker and he needs time.

Today I asked the same question and got Hex 60 changing lines 2 and 6 > Hex 42. I am very impatient and I know that I want results right now! So I think I see his slow approach as limiting but the situation has also given me the opportunity to set boundaries with him about what I will and won't accept (the same for him I guess!). Not too sure about these lines but the overall outcome seems positive? Again, instinctively, I feel that things can and will get better (hex 42) ...I am not one to delude myself and I would walk away if I thought there was no hope.

Help please??

thank you so much!!

ceciliaiching said:

My first reading was around the question what do I need to know about the situation now? and got Hex 32 changing lines 1 and 6 > Hex 14.

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32.1 says that it is unlucky to persist and to strive for a deep relationship at the beginning; that is, too soon. 32.6 says that excitement is unlucky and there is nothing to be gained from it. Taken together, the I Ching seems to be warning you about this relationship and its pitfalls.

In other words, I think Yi is speaking to you and advising you not to make a big commitment to him so soon.

ceciliaiching said:

Today I asked the same question and got Hex 60 changing lines 2 and 6 > Hex 42. I am very impatient ...

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You are under severe restraint, maybe staying closed up indoors and worrying about all this, and you've just got to let up on yourself, because otherwise you will exhaust yourself.

If I were you, I'd put this relationship on the back burner and await further developments, because right now the situation is like a pressure cooker and this is no good for you.