I finally met 2 siblings a few months ago from my dad's previous marriage (which ended disastrously)... I'm 29 and they are in their 50's.... I was so happy to finally make this connection.

I live in the UK and they live in USA. We parted on a nice note - my sister invited me to her daughter's wedding where I would meet the rest of my estranged family.

I asked the i-ching "will I finally have the family relationship I've always wanted?" The only family I've known is my parents; and I've always wanted to have a relationship with my siblings.

I got 23.2.5 > 59

When I come back to the States - I sensed there was something wrong. My brother went silent and then my sister finally told me their mother does not approve of my presence at the wedding because she doesn't want people to "ask questions".

I've been here a month and they've made little contact with me.

So I asked recently:

Will I see my brother and sister again soon?

I got 43.3.4.6 > 61

I guess this is telling me; a lot of effort has to be made to destroy the negative energy and it can only be done through truth?

Any thoughts on the previous hex?

Will I see my brother and sister again soon? 43.3.4.6 → 61



Wilhelm:
43.3. To be powerful in the cheekbone brings misfortune. The noble is firmly decided. He walks alone and is caught in the rain. He is splashed and people complain about him. No error.

58.4. Joyfulness that is well-considered is not peaceful. On dismissing one's mistakes, one has joy.

60.6. Bitter limitation: perseverance brings misfortune. Remorse dwindles.

I don't think that you will be able to integrate with your siblings in a near future.
Maybe an occasional contact but not much. You really want to and eager to join them (43.3, 43.4, 58) but the circumstances are just not right, limit your ambitions (60), and find peace by going inside (61).

23.2.5 with 59 also gives a fleeting feeling of splitting and dispersing, something temporary.

Looks depressing but that's my take on it.

Yes, unfortunately I think you're right. Thank you - I love your interpretations.

Although I think it would have been lovely if you could have been included at the wedding I can understand the mother's freaking out and not wanting the celebration to be turned into some sort of weird Family Secrets Revealed reality show.
I had the experience where I impulsively invited some friends to my daughter's wedding at the last minute and my daughter demanded I rescind the invitation. (we already had too many people coming - small space) I regretfully explained the situation to my friends but it was very awkward. I really was in a hard place and I wish my friend could have been more gracious about it. I suggest you contact your siblings and be the gracious one. Say something to the effect that you totally understand and only hope you'll be able to get together some time soon. Maybe the I Ching could give a hint as to how to proceed. Is there anything you are doing with a group that you could invite them to? Like a summer concert in the park? Invite them to meet you with your friends there and then demonstrate how to say, "HI, this is my sister from my Dad's first marriage"?

The reference to 60.6 - which I read as putting a limit to limitations - makes me think that if you can smoothly put this past dis-invite behind you, limit the influence of that incident, it doesn't have to limit the Inner Truth good feeling between you and your sibs.
Rosada

Question for you, Ashteroid

http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?20917-Ashteroid-s-method

Weird Family secrets revealed? I'm from my father's second marriage - which happened 15 years after his first marriage failed. If I was the offspring of an affair he had - then ok I understand... but this is very silly. I really doubt that people will be interested in gossiping about anything other than how wonderful the bride looks. So the grandmother (who is 77 years old) has made a mountain out of a molehill. Relationships are the most important thing in my opinion, more important than creating false perfection for a day.

Weddings are supposed to be about new beginnings and bringing people together in celebration of unity.
Nonetheless, I’m not going to act like the 13th fairy in Sleeping Beauty; I have reserved my true feelings about it and stepped away to spare everyone the pain of my presence.


I’m sorry to hear about your experience with your daughter, and without knowing any details about your circumstances; revoking a wedding invitation doesn’t bode well for any relationship and maybe your daughter could have taken this into consideration before putting you through that. Yes, sure you could have asked her; but I'm sure your intentions behind the invite were innocent and positive.

Anyway, thank you for your advice Rosada and sharing your experience.