Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).
We're having a rough start to the school year here. My seven year old daughter has Asperger's Syndrome and attends a multi-aged gifted classroom where she actually has a lot of freedom to chose what she wants to learn. While some things are improving, we're still struggling at home and at school with talking back and defiant behavior --often over (seemingly) trivial causes.
SO. What's the primary reason she's uncooperative at school? 60.3,5,6-26
If I had to read this as advice, I'd say the Yi is reminding me that setting limits is necessary to her long-term development. But I asked WHY she's uncooperative.
The fact that Lines 5 and 6 are both present give a clue to your question of "why"," or as you said, "what is the primary reason?" Some limitations are sweet and work and allow your daughter to grow and flourish. Others are bitter and not what are called for. The schools undoubtedly apply their limitations with a broad brush, based on what they desire, and not necessarily in a useful way for this particular child.
Good news. My experience with the schools and a special needs child is that constant vigilance is required. No matter how nice school personnel are, you can't assume they really understand and see the child the way the parents do. Expect that you will have to make constant course corrections, and you will be training new teachers and therapists every term/semester. It is very tiring!Follow up: We met and decided to reintroduce some old behavior strategies. Transitions were/are, indeed, a big problem in the classroom, and I think we (the special ed teacher and I) got that message across to the teacher. We can't assume we've simplified the routine enough and we can't assume that she will understand why she should shift quickly from one activity to another.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).