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Thanks.
But being a listener also gets you disliked...
Yes I guess censoring what I say if it's negative I could work harder on...
And I wish I could be cool about this!
I'm just losing hope today. Not that anything that bad has happened, I've just been here before. My emotions and insecurites are ruining my life. This evening I have tried to read and only managed one short chapter. I can't concentrate on anything else but feeling despairing. When I'm depressed I find it so hard to concentrate on anything else.
Hello,
I am currently spending a lot of time with a group of people, who I like, but don't trust. Can't. I wish I could adjust my thinking, and I know this is an instance where my fragile ego is sabotaging again but I can't shake the dread.
So far ok, but I feel signs of third time unlucky - I really don't want to go through feeling alienated in a group again.... failing to make connections.
1. How do I stop the worst happening here?
22.2 > 26
Em, H36 is more than just staying alive; it is actively hiding the light and presenting a different outward face. This means that despite your internal emotions, you present whatever face to the world is necessary for self-preservation.How do I escape this?
Hex 36
Just stay alive during a battering... sounds fun.
Hello,
I asked What do I do? I'm doomed - here, there and everywhere.
2.1 > 24
'Read the signs for what is now beginning to become apparent will become abundantly so'.
Oh dear. This is going to get worse huh...
How do I escape this?
Hex 36
Just stay alive during a battering... sounds fun.
I also feel some sort of breakdown with someone I did feel confident in.
I asked is this true?
43.2 > 49
I think this is saying I'm worrying over nothing he doesn't think about me that much - nothing to fear - but be prepared for the possibility of attack.
I then asked, do positive feelings for me override negative?
29.1,2,3,5 > 36
Oh dear. All a negative swirling of dark water and no light... Darkness. He feels darkness and negativity?
Should I leave this placement?
I don't mean give up entirely - just see if I can go somewhere where I'm on my own.
I know I'll be depressed by that too. Company is good. But my depression won't allow it to remain good. It's always destroyed.
33.6 > 31
Pretty clear sign eh? Would you say that it's saying Yes retreat would be a good influence? Or retreat from the idea on concentrate on trying to make good here? Can't help but think this is History repeating - when I look back on similar scenarios where I should have walked.
Finally, is the guy hiding positive feelings from me? (looking at 29-36 - it's a pretty negative reading but could it just mean hidden feelings as opposed to having negative thoughts about me?)
Hex 25
He's innocent of positive thoughts about me. Nothing hidden - we're probably just not going to see eye to eye...?
Of course if you don't want to be in a situation and you can change the situation, then change it.Yes it makes perfect sense what you say about it being a survival technique - acting as if you're fine and confident in a group - and then they will assume you are! But I'm not great at acting... and I think I have decided to nip this one in the bud. I don't fit in, and I don't want to put myself through this again, for the sake of less hassle.
Hi all,
Well, we'll see what happens. I'll keep you posted, and try to keep a cool head.
I asked the I ching
Should I leave?
27.1,2 > 4
Lise line 2: 'Give the excessive enough room to exist' - I guess it would be excessive to leave.
It also says 'Changing your tao causes accidents'...
So I'm going to ask if leaving or staying is my tao!? If I'm even thinking about it does that mean it is? Or is my tao not changing wherever I'm at and bearing it? You wouldn't say that in a war zone though....
line 1is about a 'new start' and searching for food alone...
Hex 4 - The unknown. I don't know yet the right tao - I guess I will after our week away...
What would you make of 27-4?
:bows: Thanks all.
Just to clarify: giving the excessive enough room to exist means, to give room to what is not "normal" in your eyes. Maybe you should have the guts to be different, not to think you have to fit in, to be liked. In a group you don't just need the ones who fit in so nicely, you just as well need the weird ones, the obstinate ones, the loners and the individuals. They make life interesting, and a group without them gets boring after a while.Hi all,
Lise line 2: 'Give the excessive enough room to exist' - I guess it would be excessive to leave.
It also says 'Changing your tao causes accidents'...
Of course if you don't want to be in a situation and you can change the situation, then change it.
But the need to act in a group won't go away...As far as your acting skills, of course you are not a great actor! If you were, you wouldn't need the advice.
Start with something very small, almost tiny, one small thing were you can project something different from what you feel...
(For me, putting in an element of humor or absurdity helps)
Tiger
Just to clarify: giving the excessive enough room to exist means, to give room to what is not "normal" in your eyes. Maybe you should have the guts to be different, not to think you have to fit in, to be liked. In a group you don't just need the ones who fit in so nicely, you just as well need the weird ones, the obstinate ones, the loners and the individuals. They make life interesting, and a group without them gets boring after a while.
This made me laugh.
And it does not say changing "your" tao causes acidents, but changing "a" tao. Never try to change someone else's tao. Guide or lead so he/she can change it herself, but never use any force.
Maybe you let your low feelings be master over your tao, instead of your own deepest heart and needs? These feelings don't have the right to - but it is very difficult to regain your power over yourself.
I agree with Tiger-in-the-boat: fake it until you make it. Play the role until you know how it works. That way you can slowly build up some selfconfidence. That stuff has a way to multiply itself once you find the first small amount.
Wish you lots of strength.
LiSe
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
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