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Hello ragini,
I wonder if the oracle is asking you to delay judgement with people. Over time and after being wounded in social interactions, I think many people assume a lot about how others will interact with them. This can put up an invisible barrier between you and others, because along the way, you have been hurt and have developed a second skin that you try to protect yourself with. Often our own assumptions are to do with letting the past, and what's happened before between ourselves and others, effect how we look at the new people who enter our life in the present. I think with 61, the oracle is asking you to shed this protective skin and to empathise with others, not to assume or judge their dispositions too quickly. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable without preconceptions when interacting is a hard lesson to learn, especially if you have opened your heart to others before, and for whatever reason, friendships have disintegrated in the past. But the oracle has faith in your ability to reach out to people, (line 5), after you have gotten to grips with line 4.
Alfred Huang suggests that in line 4, you are turning away from a companion, or companions, that have not been truly honest and present with you. This might lead to a sense of isolation for a period of time, but distancing yourself from these people who are possibly wearing masks, hiding their inner truth, is the right thing to do just now. According to Huang, line 4 abandons the less trust worthy companions of line 1, ( by the way, line 1talks about not worryin too much about what others think of you, as long as you are truthfull, not wearing any conditioning from past relationships and being your true, no holes barred, grotty beautiful self, wihtout holding onto any of the negative companion bits to do with this line, all will be well) and is now following his dao, looking up to line 5, for a more truthfull and sincere connection between people. The oracle is emphasising that this period of isolation might be a necessary step in the path towards opening up more to people, line 5.
Another way to read this combination would be 'the inner truth of opposition'. Cleary writes of 38 "people should not fail to assimilate to others, yet should not be too much like others either. If they do not assimilate, they will startle and amaze the ignorant and ordinary people, and will be disliked and suspected by others; if they become too similar, however, they will be caught up in their influence and fall into mundane feelings, therefore they are different in the midst of sameness".
I hope some of this Makes some sense to you, ragini.
All the best,
Yx.
resultant 38 seems to be the context of your question, feeling alienated.
I feel your reading is advising you that this is part of your process now - the breaking away from people and former associates is not a mistake. sometimes aloneness is a valuable time, if you can see it as not being lonely as much as finding a new a ground within yourself. as you cultivate your inner truth and learn more about who you are, your sincerity and authenticity will draw new companions, more resonant with who you are.
I recently read something somewhere about a certain astrological transit taking place, nearly ending now, where many are experiencing the falling away of former ways of relating, former relationships. but new ones will form. I wouldn't be too obsessed with the idea that you are in a rut; trust the process and allow time to bring you forward again. Don't be hard on yourself
Thanks for reminding me that I should not worry too much about what others think. I have definitely come to a point where I am literally scared of what others think of me. Not sure if I can take much more rejection.
Yes, I do feel alienated terribly alienated. In fact I am almost feeling like an alien on this planet. I have been thinking to myself from some time, if I was actually born on the wrong planet.
This is the crux of it. Line 4 is telling you to distance yourself from line 1, in this case, they're not external companions, they're the mental companions we all carry around with us. In this period of isolation, your slowly forgetting this part of your personality. This is why you need to be alone now, to get back to yourself. The most important thing you can do for yourself is question this part of your personality during this downtime your now experiencing. Why do you care so much what others think? Why does their opinion matter more then your own innate sense of knowing who you are, without any external validation? No-one knows you like you know yourself. It seems you may have forgotten this along the way.
Yx
In that case I hope you will smile at the way that a well meaning stranger has weighed in with irrelevancies. That has happened to me here too!
hi ..I sympathise a lot with your situation and will now give you a tool that may (or may not help) when you are feeling most despondent.
Decide to spend a whole day walking around and viewing the whole world and every single person in it as part of a story that you, yourself are making in every moment. Don't analyse (why am I making this person be stand offish with me), rather, when you notice something you dislike, in your mind decide that you that person or situation will change into a positive one instead. Don't be too specific in what you want, just go around noticing what you are creating with your mind and when you come across something that really upsets you simply decide that you expect it to change for the better now.
I know it probably sounds really mental, but I've found this exercise to be very helpful, specially at those times when it feels like the whole world is against one.
Hugs.
Hi precision grace,
Thank you for suggesting this exercise. I really like the part about not analyzing. I think I analyze till it drives me nuts. It's like chasing my own tail, and never really getting it (see I am doing it again ).
I tried your exercise for a while today, but then forgot about it. Will try and be more aware tomorrow. It sounds like a nice exercise, and I am sure it will help.
If we don't feel disconcerted and alienated, then how will be even realize that there is an alternate path, which is far healthier
Very interestingly, and almost a synchronicity, I came across a very interesting book, which addresses similar things, but from the perspective of psychology. I am hoping that spiritual practice and help from a psychological perspective will together help me get my life back in order.
Can you talk to someone who might be able to shed light on Aspergers for you? Or talk to a psychologist? It can be very expensive, but worth every penny from my experience.
I wish you the very best ragini. It will get better.
Yx
I am also engaged in a process of painful growth and healing and that I am not alone, even though I often feel lonely. None of us are alone. Or if we are, we are alone together.
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