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"Realization nearing, good fortune."
Nice indeed. However I'm afraid I can't.
I asked the I Ching: How to deal with my mother? And got 58uc.
'Lakes joined together: Opening.
A noble one joins with friends to speak and practise together.'
Then how? She's not willing to listen. She's traditional and opinionated. And she's unstable.
That said, my mother harshly opposes my decision, saying that she won't allow me to leave home as long as she's alive unless I'm married.
I also asked: Will I be able to move out and have my own home in one month, despite my mother's opposition? and got 19.5> 60.
"Realization nearing, good fortune."
Nice indeed. However I'm afraid I can't.
I'm going through hard days full of anxiety.
I asked the I Ching: How to deal with my mother? And got 58uc.
No, we don't live near the sea, and even if we did, it was unlikely to solve the problem. She opposes me moving out, with or without friends; although I prefer to go alone myself.Do you live near a beach? Perhaps you could take your Mom to the sea and enjoy some time together and then talk about your feelings.
Would living with a friend increase her willingness to let you go?
Yes the idea of leaving is a very, very joyful thing for me. And I do talk about with my friends to strengthen my will and find a solution.I'd be inclined to see the 58 as the reality of this, you need to nurse the reality of this, feel it in your bones and be happy, be joyful as this idea of leaving is a joyful thing for you. Talk about it to yourself, your friends, us but don't inhibit your progress by talking about it to your parents.
I see, I'm appalled to. The thing is, I live in a developing country where the idea of a girl living alone was taboo until recently. Even now many families don't allow it; as the matter of sex outside marriage is taboo too, and the first thing they think about is the girl having sex with men who aren't her husband in her new house.I'm appalled. This is .....worlds fail me, what century are we in ? How the heck does she think she can stop you leaving, you aren't 5 years old.
I've none of the problems above, and that can be a reason why I waited until now to leave. Our cities and houses are largely designed for families, not single people, because of the culture I talked about. The apartments are large, and the prices high; so you usually need a large amount of money to mortgage or rent one, specially if you want it to have good quality. Plus, the economic situation is bad.If none of these are an issue you go girl - go now - go on you cannot live like this. You can be so much happier and the readings don't look like there's much in your way.
I hope I'm in that house as soon as possible.Anxiety can be part of joy, try switching from anxiety to the joy of freedom to be you in your own life on your own terms.
Logically I don't. I wanted to be in good terms with my family when leaving them.You could try talking to her again but to be honest she doesn't own you like some kind of slave so she has no right to hold you prisoner. Why would you even need to persuade her ?
Meanwhile moving out before
the planets turn direct in September may be very frustrating - like you can’t find a place better than where you are now or even if you move out the issues with the parents continue whereas if you delay until October the move isn’t as traumatic.
Saturn can be urging you to consider what responsibilities you still need to fulfill before moving on.
Do you have your own room at your parent’s house? Put a lock on the door. This is a feng shui trick for making your room an apartment and energetically you are no longer living in their house but are now living in your own separate home. Do you call your parents “Mom” and “Dad”? Consider calling them by their first names or give them nick names like “Friend” or “Captain” - something to awaken your unconscious that you are no longer dependent like a child.
I see, I'm appalled to. The thing is, I live in a developing country where the idea of a girl living alone was taboo until recently. Even now many families don't allow it; as the matter of sex outside marriage is taboo too, and the first thing they think about is the girl having sex with men who aren't her husband in her new house.
I'm absolutely against this culture, and of course won't suppress my dreams for it. But when such a culture exists, people can abuse it, as the surroundings support them.
Other than that I'm seriously afraid that my mother does something crazy and dangerous, like harming herself or others, coming to my new house and destroy my reputation, etc; as she is unstable. She's done it in the past. I have to take my furniture from here if I find a house, and I guess she would do anything she can to prevent it. The symptoms of her mental illness, the tense look in her eyes, her words which are spoken with that mad stubbornness, her beliefs really scare me. She can have a nervous breakdown as a result.
I'm not saying these are good reasons for not leaving, no. But some of her actions paralyze me.
Astrologically the planet Jupiter ruling expansion and travel is next to Pluto, the planet ruling death and rebirth making you very aware it’s time for a change. However both of these planets are retrograde until the end of September suggesting things will more easily change and move forward then. Furthermore and perhaps more importantly Saturn, the ruler of authority and tradition is a the first degree of Aquarius now the sign of groups and equality pointing to your sence that you want to be treated as an equal adult in your family group. However Saturn is also retrograde now and will be going backwards into Capricorn before it turns direct suggesting the old rules have to be honored a bit longer. Interestingly, Saturn also turns direct the end of September so you may find this will be when the doors open up for you or it may be a couple of months more as these planets need to move passed the point they were at when they first turned retrograde to be moving full speed ahead so it might even be January before you feel you‘re able to move out. The main thing is it does look as if your change is going to come. Meanwhile moving out before
the planets turn direct in September may be very frustrating - like you can’t find a place better than where you are now or even if you move out the issues with the parents continue whereas if you delay until October the move isn’t as traumatic.
Saturn can be urging you to consider what responsibilities you still need to fulfill before moving on. Your folks may think you are responsible for staying forever so you may not ever get their agreement but if you know in your heart you have completed your promise then you may see a new path. You might ask the I Ching “What do I need to do, complete, before moving on?” Also “Describe my path to moving into my own place.”
Saturn is a very slow moving planet and stays 2 1/2 years in each sign so even without knowing person's exact birthdate it is possible to guesstimate where Saturn is in their chart if you know how old they are.
Mary tells us she is 30 so she was born somewhere around 1990 when Saturn was in Capricorn - Aquarius. exactly where Saturn is in the sky again today. This line up of planets where Saturn is in the same place as it was when a person was born is known as is known as one's Saturn Return and hits every individual around the ages of 28 -30.
It is considered to be a very difficult time as the emphasis on Saturn often brings situations to the fore that must be dealt with before a person can move forward in their lives and new responsiibilities taken on during a Saturn Return may require much more effort to get handled than originally anticipated. People can learn more about this aspect by googling "Saturn Return" but briefly just think of it as a harsh reality time when every T must be crossed, every I dotted, every paper signed and often there are delays. Nothing should be left to luck or chance.
People can learn more about this aspect by googling "Saturn Return" but briefly just think of it as a harsh reality time when every T must be crossed, every I dotted, every paper signed and often there are delays. Nothing should be left to luck or chance.
So issues about freewill vs. governmental authority are coming up for all of us this spring (Lock down? Face masks?) but particularly for Mary the issues are manifesting up close and personal with the authoritative parents.
Mary tells us she is 30 so she was born somewhere around 1990 when Saturn was in Capricorn - Aquarius. exactly where Saturn is in the sky again today.
Anyway, I hope this answers your concerns and if you want to discuss astrology or feng shui further let's chat in the Exploring Divination area.
I want to apologize to you for giving you the impression I did not appreciate the depth of your knowledge of astrology. I was explaining my thought process in detail as I figured there might also be other readers here and they might better understand my thinking if I included some basic astrological info.
I note you have reported my post to Hilary and I have assured her that if she finds my analysis of 19.5 and astrological comments inappropriate I will not be offended if she removes it.
I also note that Marybluesky gave my reading a thumbs up click so hopefully no harm done!
Example. A regular due payment had not been made to my account causing hardship. I made some calls to investigate and correct the problem. I was told there was an error which would be dealt with with some investigation. Some time later I wondered if I really needed to chase it up a bit more vigorously the following day since I was afraid of my 'case' getting lost in the system. I understood 36.3 as indicating that would not be necessary. A few days later I checked and the payment had been reinstated. The action I had initially taken to correct things was sufficient . Trojan
I'm puzzled about the last sentence- should I stay and lose more time just because my mother doesn't approve of my decision? She won't change, I know. I've lived with her for 30 years.
'Brightness hiding, flying away
Drooping his wings.
The noble one is on the move,
For three days, eats nothing
Has a direction to go
The people in authority have something to say.'
Flying away not only to escape, 'under the radar', but also with a positive purpose, a direction to go and great things to achieve. Not eating means not stopping, not taking other things (ideas, complications) on board; staying single-minded.
Those 'in authority', lord-people (same 'lord' as in Hexagram 2's Oracle), are literally people with lamps. Those who preside over a given space, those who set the tone. Perhaps eating nothing for three days is a way to leave the 'host', the opinion-shaper, behind. The bird lowers its wings, the noble one on the move avoids socialising; they present a smaller target.
36 zhi Hexagram 15, Brightness hiding with authenticity and humility: a realistic knowledge of one's own capacity; no desire to make any particular impression
Clarity,
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