This is a weird one. And I may be accused of being superficial or worse. But I ask.

Some weeks ago I met a guy on a language-learning conversation website. He's from a different country & culture. We had strangely similar interests regarding language, culture, history & the places we want to visit in the world. After exchanging a few long, rich messages he suggested sending me the photos of his trip to a historical place in France on WhatsApp and I accepted. I was excited to see how he looked like, but after seeing the thumbnail of his photo at the list of chats, I was disappointed. I even haven't read his messages yet. There is a huge resistance in me. That was some ten days ago.

I Ching's advice regarding this connection: 22.1.6> 15: Putting away the carriage, going by foot, white beauty, no mistake- and 15: a natural course of action.

My take: I've taken no mistake, only acted upon my nature.

I'd like to know what you think of the cast.

P.S: I'll only respond to the posts regarding the answer & the situation. People are free to lecture me, question my philosophy of life, tell me the question is meaningless & join up all details about my life to conclude all sort of things. I won't answer to this type of posts, though; with all due respect.

Be Graceful in how you exit the connection.

Besides that I'm a visual person too....if I don't like what I see I move on. Not necessarily just regarding male/female attraction.

I had a deleted reply here.

My point is clear: when you ask a question, you want an answer for that very question. Here our method is using I Ching.

That said, sometimes I see posts that don't analyze the cast regarding the OP's question & situation, instead:

• tell directly or indirectly that the question is absurd/wrong and better not asked at all;
• want the querent to ask about a whole other matter (different from reformulating the question or looking at the situation from a different angle. Example: "Instead of asking how to improve your guitar skills, ask how to pacify your soul so that you don't need to play the guitar at all");
• give answers based on the things that don't exist in the cast/situation;
• shame others for what they think/want (in a "polite" way more often than not);
• attack others based on personal views (again, in a polite way);
• use matters from the querents' past in a way that shadows the present question & situation (different from considering the querent's portfolio while answering. Example: "Last year you weren't interested in cars. How it comes that you want a driver license now?" Maybe asked out of curiosity, but irrelevant to the analysis of present situation);
• forget the question and analyze the cast about other things;
• ...

Some have happened to me, some to other members. I see no need to cite samples, as my point isn't to accuse/dismiss people. I'm simply talking about what I find relevant and what not.

marybluesky said:

I had a deleted reply here.

My point is clear: when you ask a question, you want an answer for that very question. Here our method is using I Ching.

That said, sometimes I see posts that don't analyze the cast regarding the OP's question & situation, instead:

• tell directly or indirectly that the question is absurd/wrong and better not asked at all;
• want the querent to ask about a whole other matter (different from reformulating the question or looking at the situation from a different angle. Example: "Instead of asking how to improve your guitar skills, ask how to pacify your soul so that you don't need to play the guitar at all");
• give answers based on the things that don't exist in the cast/situation;
• shame others for what they think/want (in a "polite" way more often than not);
• attack others based on personal views (again, in a polite way);
• use matters from the querents' past in a way that shadows the present question & situation (different from considering the querent's portfolio while answering. Example: "Last year you weren't interested in cars. How it comes that you want a driver license now?" Maybe asked out of curiosity, but irrelevant to the analysis of present situation);
• forget the question and analyze the cast about other things;
• ...

Some have happened to me, some to other members. I see no need to cite samples, as my point isn't to accuse/dismiss people. I'm simply talking about what I find relevant and what not.

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Phew it's easier just not to answer at all

I deleted because I decided instead of saying what I said it's easier just not to reply to you any more.


I particularly dislike it when people blame me/anyone for remembering their history. It's a small forum, we take an interest in people, get to know people and so do 'join u p the details'...sorry for being human not android

marybluesky said:

& join up all details about my life

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.....we're not robots "I must look at the reading I must not look right nor left nor past nor future I must stay where I am put'


Eh ? Some of these......

marybluesky said:

want the querent to ask about a whole other matter (different from reformulating the question or looking at the situation from a different angle. Example: "Instead of asking how to improve your guitar skills, ask how to pacify your soul so that you don't need to play the guitar at all");

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You just posted a long list of what you want. Perhaps you forget we aren't staff



No hard feelings, I wish you all the best but I know I can't stick to your list of rules as I'm not a robot or a slave and if you think there's a thing called a reading out there with no hint of the interpreter in it, nor the interpreters thoughts or memories or associations then, well, I've never seen one so good luck with that.

You are kind of talking like a customer with a list of requirements. I know I can't cater to that and nor do I want to so that's me filtered out anyway. Or maybe I'm taking it all the wrong way, don't mind me but it is looking much easier not to answer than to answer so that's why I deleted the post.

I just said to what kind of posts I won't respond, the way you say you won't reply to my posts anymore.

And of course every one is free to write anything so long as it doesn't violate the forum's rules, the way anyone is free not to respond.

becalm said:

I'll be mindful of not saying anything out of context but know whatever I've said is because I feel your pain.

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But that's not what I've talked about. I never said be mindful or what to write & what not. I just said, as a member of an I Ching community, in a forum titled "Shared readings", I focus on the casts and readings and respond to posts with similar approach.

marybluesky said:

But that's not what I've talked about. I never said be mindful or what to write & what not. I just said, as a member of an I Ching community, in a forum titled "Shared readings", I focus on the casts and readings and respond to posts with similar approach.

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Okay I'm done too, like Trojina....I wish you the best Mary, I really do.

I think this casting is perhaps one of those just reflecting back the situation. Maybe saying it’s that straightforward or simple. 22.1.6 seems like “getting a glance at someone” (using the idea that you’re running through the energy of the hexagram quickly when you get line 1 and 6 together, like a one-off or individual incident) and 15 saying it simply is what it is. You saw and you’re not attracted to him. I’d say that 15 could also be able handling the situation in a way that you would respect in someone else. Like if you had sent a similar communication to someone, what kind of response would you want to receive? Maybe there’s a way to be friendly or acknowledge that’s also not flirtatious and just kind. It would be totally up to you if you want to do that though.