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Who is the big toe person that can trip me up?
Who is the big toe person that can trip me up?
14. Unchanging. Twice.
14. Ta Yu / Possession in Great Measure
above Li The Clinging, Flame
below Ch'ien The Creative, Heaven
The Judgement -- Possession in Great Measure. Supreme success.
The Image --Fire in heaven above: The image of Possession in Great Measure. Thus the superior man curbs evil and furthers good, And thereby obeys the benevolent will of heaven.
Any way to deduce who this might be? Is this a female or male hex? Or a non-person?
You don't need to change much at all to attract a mate, only lose some preconceived notions perhaps.
Thanks Trojan and Topal.
Trojan, your "take" resonates a bit more with me. Topal, yours is more what I have heard time and again esp from my inner self talking. I know all this...and it occurs to me I haven't given you context for my question at all.
"I am not in hot pursuit of a soulmate. I have been single and not had any dates in 4 years. I do not go out, I don't date online, I have 3 friends in a foreign country where I work from home all the time. I am basically,f or lack of abetter word, a hermit."
[...]
"UNTIL THAT POINT I had decided I do not need a soulmate or a boyfriend or a husband or anyone in my life. I have been alone so long, I"m content that way."
So, what prompted the idea that hermitude was a healthy choice? Why did you believe that being a Martyr to fate would be healthy for you? Could be another way to punishing yourself or to unconsciously limit the possibility of finding someone.
... Maybe you're actually scared of it? Perhaps you have an idealized notion of what it means to be in a relationship as expressed by the "soul mate" concept?
"What's the root of all this?
It is very possible that we subconsciously set things up so that we believe that we are somehow undeserving of a good relationship and it becomes a self-fulfiling prophecy. This is especially true when you have been brought up by one or two narcissistic parents."
"Never going out, not dating at all, working from home and having few friends and being a hermit is neither conducive nor nourishing to any aspect of yourself unless you want to shut the world out. And so a guy comes along and trips your chemicals which are lying dormant and it's unsurprising that your sleeping self would start reacting under such a false set of circumstances.
14 is very much about sharing energy in the right way as well as 40 for releasing something, like a block in your self perception - they could both be very much related.
Could be. And now, I am thinking was at least in part that, if not completely so.
I think fear is one part. I think...its also sort of a self-fulfilling cycle. You get hurt (for example) or can't find someone (for example) and you stop going out. And you're "safe". The aloneness hurts. But it hurts in a different way than the rejection or the betrayal hurts... Either way is damaging. But one way you risk happiness. As a hermit, you kind of ensure that dull numb contentedness. At least, I could persuade myself it was OK and normal. Not everyone is lucky enough to find a mate...
Yes, narcissistic parents (of which i have a very strong maternal unit, ahem,) and growing up hearing, "..do not ever get married, do not ever have kids". When I was 8 yrs old my mother told me that countless times. I never considered it at the time. What 8 yr old is thinking of marriage and kids for Pete's sake? I sure wasn't. But the damage , i guess, was done, on some level...
So I am fulfilling HER prophesy. I shouldn't be happy...therefore i now am the one creating conditions of isolation to make HEr wishes come true.
I think?
So could that line, the big toe hangup, be this? The mother stuff, the past, and me being ällowed to be happy?
I actually had this convo with a good friend of mine. The whole injured child thing is one I became aware of about 3 years ago (just when my hermetic phase began, truth be told...before that I dated even more, which is odd but the hermetism was not conscious I mean...it wasn't consciously related to punishing myself in any way, rather, to trying to make life easier... it's hard to explain).
But anyway... I am aware of these issues. What concerns me is how do I know I'm past them? I mean I would argue I am past them now. I had this "moment" when I met that man... and I had sort of a turning point...leading me back to this forum and this question. So I would say the process is underway. In which case once again the Yi is telling me what I already know .
So having said all that, I am still confused on what my big toe hangup is. I have to let go of something to be more receptive. Is the letting go possibly a geographical issue? That is the only thing I can think of -- that staying in the country I am is my crutch, clinging to the idea that I should stay here. But the previous interpretations suggested that this isnt a geographical issue at all.
I am stumped!
Clarity,
Office 17622,
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London.
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United Kingdom
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