10.1.4.5-4

[Lodestar]

How should I approach this situation? (It involves secrets around causes of past trauma and bullying.)
10.1.4.5-4 treading - not knowing

Is confronting the truth, bringing it out in the open the answer?
60uc


How can I best look after myself and heal from this situation?
41uc decreasing


:bows:

 

[Lodestar]

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[rosada]

How you should approach the situation? Like a mouse confronting a lion. Be respectful and brave. Speak the truth to authority. You may get a response that does not seem appropriate at first but will eventually if you think about it.

Is bringing the truth out in the open the answer? To a limited extent. Be careful that whatever you say is the clear unvarnished truth. Don't expect much.

How can you heal? Decrease the significance of the wounding. Focus on your future goals with such enthusiasm that you ain't got time for the pain.

 

[arimoshe]

10.1.4.5 to 4 looks like you'll succeed. I think the emphasis is to take your time, don't force things (10.1) approach with care and gentleness. It's calling for a certain mastery that you'll get to cultivate through doing this. You'll learn and grow from experience, however it unfolds (4).

Perhaps 60 and 41 are pointing to the idea that sometimes "less is more" and to do what you can within the bounds of what is healthy and accessible. I can also see the possibility that 41 may be saying that by letting go of something (such as the simple offering of your approaching this situation and following your inner guidance to say/do what you are called to) you will be in affect taking good care of yourself through that alone. Many blessings of health and healing on your treading.

 

[Lodestar]

Thank-you Rosada

Thank-you Arimoshe

 

[Lodestar]

I asked 'what will be the result if I send a message asking for a confession of the truth'
...or simply saying that I know the truth..
41UC

41 again.. I'm not clear

The person involved protects themselves by believing themselves to be a great victim, with this self-image they do not confront the greater pain they have inflicted on others. I don't believe they can ever have hope of a normal life until they do.

I'm not sure is 41 is saying don't go there, save yourself from this difficult situation.. ?
but De Korne 'continuous sacrifice for the goals of the work' says to me, that though I would give anything to walk a different path, this is mine and I must expect and demand the truth..

I need to be careful and protect myself. I also need to clear this out of my life so I can move on.

Any perspectives on 41 UC appreciated.

 

[Lodestar]

Any takers on 41uc

 

[mulberry]

Have you read this thread? http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/frie...eriences-with-Unchanging-Castings-Hexagram-41 It has some helpful insights. I myself have difficulty with interpreting 41 unchanging, and it really varies from situation to situation. In your case, your question has been phrased somewhat cryptically so it's hard to give much insight. Were you the one bullied/abused? I'm sorry, I don't mean to pry, but if you are thinking of exposing someone who did not directly harm you, then I'd interpret 41 differently than if it was you yourself who was abused by this person. The three readings taken alone (without knowing the context, since I don't know what role is in the situation) do suggest to me that it is better for you not to act. Particularly the 10 into 4 seems to say that you are in a situation that requires caution (10), and for which you don't have all the answers (4). 60 implies some kind of restriction. And 41...well, again, this is hard to interpret without knowing more.

If this is a case where it was you who was the victim of abuse, I'd say all of these point to a need for more understanding and strategizing before you make any moves towards exposing it. Because there may be blowback or constriction (60) and some kind of diminishment (41) from going forward. You may also find yourself in a situation where you don't have the skills to act to your best advantage (4).That said, 41 could also speak to a release of burdens or some kind of relief through letting go of past trauma.

If rather someone else was the victim, and you are asking all of these questions because you found out about an abuse/victim situation and want to expose the abuser-- I would see these lines as a strong rebuke not to do so, you're playing with fire/danger (10 and its lines), you don't have the skills or understanding of the full picture (4), your actions will limit you in some way (60), or even cause "an out and out decrease" (41 showing up twice).

All four of these hexagrams (4, 10, 60, 41) speak of restraint being beneficial in some way, and none encourage action.

 

[Lodestar]

Thanks Mulberry. Yes I read the 41UC thread, but couldn't apply it...
..the question relates to me.

It's confusing with some hexes.. The meaning can be quite different, if the action is outward towards events/people or inward towards attitude/impulse?
Decrease of something, could it mean letting go of the need to protect others?
Or It could mean letting go of the whole situation and leaving the past to itself?
Though I think any past that is unresolved, never goes away..

Compensating sacrifice.. DeKorne
Forfeiting something valuable in order to gain something more valuable
(Forfeiting peace and comfort - for truth and aliveness?)