11.2 changing to 36 - Major life changes

[purpledawn]

Hello!

I'm in the midst of making some major life changing decisions. Upon asking the I Ching for guidance inquiringl 'What is next in my life?', I received 11.2 changing to 36.

What is your interpretation?

Thank you kindly.
Purpledawn

 

[gene]

Hi P D

The nature of your question is so general that it does not leave a lot to go on. The only way I can interpret therefore, is in a spiritual sense, as guidance for your life. The commentary speaks of "greatness of soul." This often refers to a need to be magnanimous in our relations with others, and overlook a lot of unkindness, especially if they are mostly unintentional. Nevertheless, we must be resolute in our conduct and while not disturbing others, not allowing ourselves to be thrown off our course or distracted at the same time. Thirdly, and this is as far as I will go for now, unless I know more about the situation, Is that we must be very careful to scrutinize everything and pay attention to detail. Hexagram eleven has an affinity with hexagram sixty three in that they both portray a time of peace and prosperity, but only with a great deal of care and caution can that time of peace be maintained. This line counsels us to be circumspect, and not allow things to get past us while at the same time not reverting to anger and strife in dealing with others.

Hope this helps at least in some small way.

Gene

 

[purpledawn]

Yes, I intentionally kept it vague. Thank you, Gene.

I remain separated from my boyfriend (my earlier threads sought guidance on this), and am now in the midst of sorting out the living arrangements, so I can also physically move on. There will be more decisions made tonight.

I have been greatly struggling with this relationship, and have admittedly been feeling a lot of anger towards him lately.

Unfortunately, it has only been more of the same with him, like him telling me last night that he still wants to be with me, yet realizes that I have never been committed to our relationship. And that if I truly love him, I would simply forgive & forget his lies because a true love bond overcomes anything. I just don't get it...

I accept a difficult time is ahead of me, and realize I can become a better person through it all. That prompted my question of what is next for me.

What are your additional thoughts, Gene?

Blessings,
Purpledawn

 

[gene]

Based on what you are telling me now, I would say, you must be firm, yet firm without arousing anger within yourself. Kind but firm. I understand what he is saying, I also understand what you are saying. Maybe he would be different now, but you have no way of knowing that. Once trust is lost, it is awfully hard to get it back. Even if you forgive, it is hard to trust. You have no way of knowing whether he has truly changed.

Good luck to you in this situation.

Gene

 

[purpledawn]

Gene,

I appreciate your ability to empathize with both viewpoints, and, in general, I agree. With that said, we all have our limits. I don't believe that he has suddenly and fully changed to being an honest person. I am now allowing myself to view his behavior as a pervasive pattern, not a one-off mistake. My intuition warns me he is only trying to maintain control and status quo. Maybe he will be an honest and sincere man in the future, and I offer him my blessings on his life path. I feel my returning to him would only be an indication to allow his disrespectful behavior to continue, and I deserve better. Yes, I need to let go of the anger directed towards him, the circumstances, and myself and channel more fruitful feelings.

Gene, how do interpret my castings now with all this additional information?

Purpledawn

 

[gene]

basically the same way, purple dawn. I think you are doing the right thing. The text says, "Fording the river with resolution." That is to say, remove yourself from the situation, and then "Not neglecting what is distant." In other words, distance yourself, just do it without hatred. Find things that are now distant from you, not so much the things that are close. It appears it is time to move away from him.

Gene

 

[purpledawn]

Thank you for your thoughtful responses, Gene.

Blessings to you.