14.1>50 Relationship ended

[Gio79M]

Hello to all,
I speak very little English so sorry for the mistakes.

Question: Can you give me a picture of the situation between me and X? 14.1> 50

X and I have been together since November 2018. It was a relationship of great ups and downs, special moments but also great jumps in the dark.
Last night the quarrel I think definitive now. We agree on almost everything, but under certain circumstances X makes me feel oppressed and frustrated as it leaves little room for communication. Mmmm very difficult to explain ...
Rather than leaving little space for communication, it is as if it did not understand the fact that every action corresponds to a reaction, that is, what happens in the present moment is the result of previous actions. In short, it does not understand what under certain conditions presents itself aggressively towards me. It is obvious and logical that there is resentment on my part; it's as if it stuns and then it takes time to recover.

The hexagrams obtained leave me hopeful, not so much on the relationship but more than anything else for my future, with her or without her.
What I can't focus on is the relationship with the harmful of line1: Are you the harmful for me? Let's say that when he has his "hard" moments he really creates a lot of nervousness. Recently it is as if I have stopped reacting, perhaps in self-defense against his attacks; During the discussions I focus on myself trying to stay calm. From a certain point of view, this relationship has made me grow a lot.

As already said from this reading I struggle to understand who is the harmful ... You with your attitudes and therefore should I turn the page completely ?? He has 2 children and I am very fond of it ... Or the harmful is the male reaction and getting pissed off ??? Or still the harmful is some kind of addiction that I can have ??? I am not an alcoholic but in the evening I have an aperitif or my glass of wine at the table, she is pure. So purify me ?? Or is the harmful thing to lock myself in a cycle of obsessive thoughts towards it? This would be the most common one done when relationships end ...

Anyone have any ideas or suggestions regarding this reading ???

Good day everyone

 

[marybluesky]

Hello Gio79M!

The line says if you avoid the harmful situations, the hardship is worth it; and you "cook" together slow by slow

Good Luck!

 

[Gio79M]

Thanks a lot marybluesky for your interpretation.
I hope it is as you say. My only doubt is that these conflicts occur in our relationship every 3-4 weeks. They arrive at any moment and I suffer.

In the meantime I asked another question ...

What are my responsibilities regarding the problems between me and X?

50.3.6> 40 .... the Crucible again ....

So at first glance from the lines I would say my behavior was all in all correct, there are difficulties and it seems to say that I have not been understood, but in the end the outcome will be good. The 6th row is one of my favorites ....
I struggle to interpret the relative hexagram ... could it be the definitive Liberation from this relationship or the definitive Liberation from the harmful described in line 14.1?

Yi seems to be telling me that my behavior is right, so it seems to me too. I always try to get into discussion but X struggles to do this.

By the way, I think I understand what is harmful to me. It's all in my mind, it's the stupid thoughts that I sometimes do and that the ether transmits the other in his unconscious.

 

[marybluesky]

The result of your efforts seems unavailable for now. Let it be; don't force anything. Whatever is the outcome, it will benefit you.