15.6 > 52

[susannah]

I asked "What attitude should I adopt in this situation?"

Back story - relationship triangle. He is attached, says he wants to be my friend, can't have a relationship, mixed signals etc. I am stepping back. His friendship has been wonderful, but it's also painful. Bringing up all kinds of feelings of loss, abandonment, rejection, envy, loneliness, longing etc etc etc. as well as feelings of belonging, connection, desire, passion etc.

The Mountain 52 as the relating hexagram - showing the context. Keeping still.

Yes, I am stepping back, not initiating contact at the moment, thinking about what has been said and the reality of the situation. It feels immobile, like a mountain. And just as unchanging. It simply "is".
I also think of 52 as the "don't panic!" hexagram. And don't "do" anything. Meditate and reflect. Internal work and processing. So yes, this encompasses where I feel I am at in the situation/relationship.

15.6 as the advice and the attitude I need to adopt to get me through this.... stumped on this! Which is probably why I really need the advice!
"Modesty is the best face when correcting the errors of your own allies."

Who or what are my allies? And what are their errors?

Some thoughts about allies and errors;

1. him, he wants to be my friend, my ally. This is an error.
He cannot have his primary relationship and me on the side as some spice to get through the boring bits.
I have to disabuse him of the notion that he can "have his cake and eat it". I'm worth more than "crumbs".

2. my own thoughts and feelings; get a grip! Accept the reality of the situation. Deal with my own feelings and responses, own them; don't blame anyone else for the situation and take full responsibility for my own part in this. Stop any wishful thinking. Regain my self-esteem. Why would I want someone who doesn't want to make any changes to accommodate the relationship?

So, Keep Still and Get a grip. Think about my own responses and actions; my own self-worth; and what I get out of and put into this situation.

If anyone can see anything else, I'd appreciate the input and I hope that this post might resonate with future casters of this line. :bows:

 

[Tim K]

I think option 2 is the right way to interpret this line.

Work on your own problems, thoughts, don't blame him and keep still.

 

[susannah]

Thank you asheteroid, for acknowledging my presence here.

Yes, it's good general advice for how to live your life. When in doubt,...work out where your own responsibility lies. And be very firm with yourself about that. Is that called integrity?

While in the middle of this post, I had a skype conversation with a friend. I talked about a different situation all together. About my line manager and her "German" ways... no disrespect to the received national German characteristic...but I'm more Southern hemisphere (in spite of being 100% white British by ethnicity) in my outlook and attitude to boundaries.

(Saturn in Pisces native, having recently received a transit from Chiron. Wounding around fluid boundaries!).

The conclusion of the conversation was:

Respectful assertiveness.

I feel that synchronicity has shown me the deeper meaning of 15.6.

It is favorable to set armies marching to chastise one's own city and one's country - Wilhelm.

That's fighting talk. It's not the sweetness-and-light, Jesus-in-sandals energy that the Western mind connects with humility.

We have the saying.. eating humble pie. It's not nice. It's... humiliating in some way. Note the root of those 2 words. Humble = humiliating, when you speak English!

Yet 15 has all lines favourable.

And here in line 6 we have... fighting with armies. Chastising and punishing infidels. Literally... those who are unfaithful. Within one's own walls.

Drawn about an affair. With an unfaithful man.

One's own city (self) and one's country (associates) ..?

15 is not 50 (65-15). What's that called? Not the inverse, or the shadow...is it the shadow? The thing that the hexagram is not...

50 has the sense to me of... let go and let God.

So 15 is not Let Go and God.... 15 is "assert yourself from the essence of your own being".

And 15.6 is.... remember that you are worth so much more than associating with anything that is unfaithful to your true essence.

:bows: