20 changing to 35

[Inbalski]

So I am in a challenging position right now. ...
There is a guy I was seeing for a while now we met through an app and met many times for sex.... But it was the kind of sex that is beyond sex... I lose a sense of time and space kind of sex... And now we started seeing each other again and I am worried that I will eventually get hurt because I know I will start having feelings for him if we continue on meeting... And I really need touch intimacy closeness and connection and at the moment he is my best option... He has a girlfriend who allows him to be with me because she is abroad... So I asked the iching if I should stop seeing him and I got 20 changing to 35...
The way I see it the iching tells me to see the bigger picture and enjoy what life is giving me at the moment which I interpret as continue to see him...
So I asked if I should continue to see him. And I got 53 changing to 52 which I interpret as the I Ching telling me to be patient and let this happen...
What do you think?

 

[rosada]

What if I stop seeing him?
20.4 Fruitful to behave as a guest.
You recognize this connection is doomed to be short lived as he already has a steady girlfriend.
20. 5 Seeing your own life.
Therefore you are concerned because you know what effect a break up could have on you.
35. The good news is that if you stop seeing him you needn't worry about becoming a lonely old maid. Indeed, in 35. the horses mated three times in one day!

If you continue to see him:
53.5 > 52.
Gradually Approaching Keeping Still.
You will continue to enjoy the connection for awhile but eventually it will end.

So I think you're being advised that you shouldn't worry about stopping seeing him leading to a lack of opportunities for sex because there are plenty of others who would take his place. On the other hand if you do continue to see him just know it will end.

 

[marybluesky]

20.4.5>35

Be his guest, and consider the circumstances. It's an opportunity after all.

53.5> 52
53 is the hexagram of long-term partnership. If you want such a thing, you have a long, hard way before you.