22.1.4> 56 Genuine Intention

[marybluesky]

On this forum we read a lot about people who lead others on then ghost, lie, turn out to be taken, etc.
So I asked the I Ching:
How is the attitude of someone who approaches you with genuine intention? and got 22.1.4>56
Instead of using the social ornaments, he (she) gets ready to beautifully take the simple way with simple adornments. Such a person may hesitate for a while, but isn't after his own interests at any cost to others- like a robber. He'll finally declare his love and enter the unknown territory.
That said, I'm not sure about the meaning of hexagram 56.
What do you say?

 

[Freedda]

Sorry, but I don't quite understand what you're asking. Your question, 'How is the attitude .... ' seems incomplete or something. Could it be you're saying something like, 'What is the attitude ....?' Or, maybe 'What does genuine intention look like?' Or, 'how can I recognize someone's genuine intention?'

 

[foxx777]

On this forum we read a lot about people who lead others on then ghost, lie, turn out to be taken, etc.
So I asked the I Ching:
How is the attitude of someone who approaches you with genuine intention? and got 22.1.4>56
Instead of using the social ornaments, he (she) gets ready to beautifully take the simple way with simple adornments. Such a person may hesitate for a while, but isn't after his own interests at any cost to others- like a robber. He'll finally declare his love and enter the unknown territory.
That said, I'm not sure about the meaning of hexagram 56.
What do you say?

I think your assessment is absolutely correct, and very helpful as a rule of thumb. I think 56 may be implying that relationships with new people call for the caution of a “wanderer in a foreign land”.

 

[marybluesky]

'What is the attitude ....?'

This

 

[rosada]

56. A stranger who approaches you with good intention...
has the attitude of one who
22.1 puts forward an honest image of themselves
22.4 and treats you as an ally - does not want to deceive or take advantage of you (or be taken advantage of by you).

Reminds me of the Golden Rule - do unto others as you would have them do unto you, or maybe "others do unto you as they would have you to do unto them."

 

[Freedda]

This

??? Sorry, but what is the 'This' ???

 

[marybluesky]

??? Sorry, but what is the 'This' ???

Freedda, to be honest I can't see why you label my- and several other posters'- questions incomprehensible

 

[Freedda]

Freedda, to be honest I can't see why you label my- and several other posters'- questions incomprehensible

I don't know whom these 'others' are (but I assume they can speak for themselves), and I didn't 'label' anything - that is not my genuine intention. I'm just asking for some clarification about your original question, which I don't understand:

How is the attitude of someone who approaches you with genuine intention?

As written, that sentence does not make sense to me, so I asked about it and proposed some alternatives. Starting with "How" makes it read like an incomplete sentence, and it seems that it should have more to it, for example: 'How is the attitude of someone who approaches you with genuine intention ... different than someone who ...?' - or some such thing.

So, that's why I asked, and I hope that makes what I'm saying clearer. If you offered a different way of saying it - or confirmed one of my options - that would likely help me get to what you're meaning is. Or not .....

D.

 

[marybluesky]

So, that's why I asked, and I hope that makes what I'm saying clearer. If you offered a different way of saying it - or confirmed one of my options - that would likely help me get to what you're meaning is. Or not .....

The "this" referred to one of your options:

Sorry, but I don't quite understand what you're asking. Your question, 'How is the attitude .... ' seems incomplete or something. Could it be you're saying something like, 'What is the attitude ....?'

To rewrite the phrase, What is the attitude of someone who approaches you with genuine intention?
English isn't my native language and I don't pretend to write perfectly.

 

[Freedda]

To rewrite the phrase, What is the attitude of someone who approaches you with genuine intention?

Okay, thanks. That was what I was hoping for. I understand your query better now.

Best, d.