22.4.5 - online friendship

[eastern_girl]

Hello eveyone!

I could use a little help with the reading for a recent cast: hexagram 22.4.5 changing to 13. My question was: why did X's best friend add me as a friend on Facebook?

I know it may sound like a silly question, but here's the context: there is this man, let's call him X, that I've been dating for a short while months ago. Things didn't work out between us, our romance was short and troubled, mainly because of his indecision and difficulty to commit to a relationship, though we knew each other for many years (we've been working together). I was the one to put an end to this story and it happened brutally: we had a terrible fight, we both said hard words to each other (me mostly), I ended telling him I never wanted to hear from him again. I also unfriended him on this social website so we've lost all contact. We haven't been talking or seen each other for about 4 months now and all I know is that he recently moved to another country.

Few days ago, his best friend who I don't know in person, added me on Facebook and I accepted his request. They are very close and he certainly knows about the entire story. Normally I wouldn't make such a fuss about a Facebook friendship, after all me and this guy have some contacts in common, but I wonder if he added me randomly or it has something to do with X. Yi's answer seems straight forward, only I don't know to whom it refers exactly.

Thanks,
eastern_girl :bows:

 

[gene]

E G

I really doubt it has anything to do with X except that he knows you have broken up. He may have decided, okay, now I will see how it works out. Remember, men do not network or socialize anywhere near the amount that women do, and do not unite together when a woman hurts one of them. He probably has at least some interest. He is not going to try to get back at you for breaking up with his friend. Although that is not an impossible scenario, it is highly unlikely.

So, the commentary on line four says, "...yet one finds peace of mind in a true relationship with the friend who courts him (or her)" That I think is enough said.

Gene

 

[eastern_girl]

Hi, Gene and thank you for your feedback.

I agree with you and I know how most men think. However, this story is a bit different. First of all, this guy has a girlfriend (I know, sometimes it's just a tiny detail for them ); secondly, he didn't try to talk or interact with me at all after we became "friends" (almost a week now), he simply added me and that's it. I also know for sure he is the friend who always advises X about relationships and stuff, he knows every detail, they are very, very close. He once called me pretending to be someone else in order to verify something and he did it for X (I later discovered whose number it was). So my guess is that he wants to watch my activity on facebook or smth like that, but who knows...it's just a guess and you might be right. Ah, men... Thanks again.

 

[gene]

Well, I am not a big fan of facebook, I see it as a way that the government spies on us, but whatever. For me, if someone I know wants to be friends I just say yes, and if they write they do, often they do not. I use email much more. So, I guess you can just choose to be friends or not and see how he acts.

Gene

 

[MirrorTouch]

Irrelevant query to geriatric thread, but Gene are you a photographer?